Hatty J. Lee, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #83772

08/15/2021

We often treat people the way that we would want to be treated. But how many times have y'alls gotten it wrong relating with others this way? Our good intention can cause harm and disconnection in a relationship.

Something I've been leaning into more these days is that love and respect involves learning about how other people receive love and want to receive it from you (from you is an important detail) and respond accordingly. Don't be afraid to ask directly and discover the uniqueness of all those you do life with. Love. Respect. Care. All these good stuff means different things to different people.

05/04/2021

Hi friends and family,

I just launched my first Kickstarter for Indwell: An 8-Step Mental Health Guide.

https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/indwell/indwell-an-8-step-mental-health-guide

I collaborated as a licensed psychotherapist with a life coach and visual artist to make mental health education more approachable and engaging with visual art. We wanted to help break the stigma on mental health and create a tangible hardcover guide to help people in our community during such a difficult year.

It would mean so much to me if you would consider making a pledge by the end of the day TODAY of any amount as projects with early backers get boosted in the Kickstarter system. Please consider sharing this campaign with anyone you know who would benefit!

Thank you so much for supporting me!

Hatty

Recover From Your Past. Reclaim Your True Self. Live With Purpose.

03/29/2021

Excited to chat with Monica over at today @ 10am PST for their next live SeekHer Series conversation as we talk about diving into our past and how it helps us in our healing journey forward. Tune as we chat about:

How to explore your past to understand the way you experience the world

Practical tools to unlearn patterns that keep you stuck so you can live in the present

Why living with purpose helps you navigate your future with clarity so you can reclaim your true self

Just be sure to head to to catch it live, or catch the IGTV replay!

02/08/2021

I have been a bit MIA on this space trying to prepare for the launch of the mental health guide . But just wanted to hop in and share this interview I had on .lovelybecoming 's podcast. We talk about intergenerational trauma, attachment, and grief. Hope this episode speaks to one of you 🙏

12/30/2020

Just sayin' there's other alternatives to approach the new year ❤️

12/24/2020

I see you and remember you. This season can be filled with mixed emotions especially this one. May you hold space for them all. Grieve if you want to. Celebrate if you want to. You can hold space for both your joy and grief. ❤️

12/23/2020

A reminder for those of you who need to hear this today 🙏❤️

12/20/2020

Sign up today to be the first to pre-order when we launch our campaign in the new year!

Indwell: A Guide to Inner Wellness is co-created by a psychotherapist, life coach, and visual artist with the aim to make mental health within reach. It guides people to become aware of their mind, body, and soul connection as well as provide practical tools to cope with life, embody your true sel

12/19/2020

BIG ANNOUNCEMENT:

I am so excited to finally share that I have been co-writing a guidebook www.indwell.co to support people to navigate their mental health the last 7 months.

I grew up in an immigrant family without ever having learned how to even name my emotions and take care of my mental health. The education system and my community rarely talked about mental health too. I had no idea how to navigate my inner life, resolve conflicts in relationships, and how to to even dream 😭 And I know I wasn't the only one who had this experience after meeting with over a thousand people during the last decade!

I had the honor of creating this with a visual artist and life coach to help destigmatize mental health and make mental health support approachable and visually engaging!

If you have benefited from my work and have been following me on here, it would mean the world if you could support us:

1) Follow

2) Sign up at www.indwell.co to be the first to pre-order when we launch our crowdfunding campaign in the new year

2) Share with your friends, family, and community through your stories, posts, and other social media platforms

I cannot wait to share this with you all and see it in your homes! ❤️

12/14/2020

Not all change is equal. If your motivation to change is coming from a place of you not being enough, worthy enough, lovable enough, ________ enough, your change will not do much for you.   You will only set yourself up to deepen your shame.  

You must be present with yourself without judgement -- what do you notice you are feeling, thinking, wanting, experiencing, or doing?

Then you must become curious about your story -- why might you be feeling that? Is that feeling familiar to your story? Why might you be thinking that? Have you heard that message before? Why might you be reacting that way? Where did you learn this coping mechanism - does it work? Why might your body be experiencing that? Is there something about this situation that doesn't feel safe or trustworthy?

Consider what your mind, body, and soul might be communicating you are needing, and invite self-compassion to guide your decisions on how to respond in ways that honor who you are. ❤️

12/13/2020

When I was growing up, there were so many moments when I felt confused about why I was feeling the way I was, why I was thinking the kind of thoughts I had, why I was reacting they way I did, and why my body wasn't letting me do what I desperately wanted to do.  It didn't make sense to me.  I didn't make sense to me.  

So I turned against myself.  I blamed myself.  I pushed people away.  I retold the same stories about how something was very much wrong with me.  I tried to do better and perform my way out of how I was experiencing myself.  I thought if I could think my way out of this, I can be better - all to my detriment. 

Maybe some of you are experiencing something similar to this younger version of me.  Maybe you've been cycling through that same narrative that something is deeply wrong with you and that you just need to try harder. 

I want to let you know that every emotion you feel, body sensation you experience, reaction you have, and thoughts you engage in has a story.  Before considering how you can change, become curious about your story with compassion.

What conditions have you had to survive to show up the way you are?  

What kind of messages did you receive about who you are while growing up? 

Which parts of your humanity was acceptable and unacceptable? 

What were the messages you received about what to do with your emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and body sensations? 

❤️

12/06/2020

Doing my first IG live with my friend and colleague this Friday. We were laughing (with sadness on the inside) about how Santa was never real for us growing up in Asian immigrant families and how the only tree we once had was a 6 inch one. But to be completely honest - mine was an artificial 15 inch tree one year from the dollar store 😜😭🎄

Join us this Friday as we have a casual end of year talk as therapists and human beings about the grief and losses of the year, and prepare to look forward into 2021 with hope 🙏

Leave a comment on any questions or topics you'd like for us to touch during our chat 👇