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07/17/2025

Interested in taking your enneagram to a whole new level? Click the link in my bio to get a copy of my free Enneagram Growth Tips! It’s a guide I developed to help you discover your more essential self, and it covers all enneagram types!!

https://www.inviterracounseling.com/enneagram-growth

07/07/2025

I recently did an interview with .life on how we can use the enneagram to heal our trauma. As a type 2, I dove deep into experiences face and questions we can ask when we catch ourselves policing our feelings.

What would it be like for you to just accept the fact that you feel this way? What would it be like for you to understand internally that you have a whole spectrum of feelings that other people don’t get to comment on or influence, you don’t have to put them away. What would it didn’t have to carry the burden of everybody like you do? What if you were more focused internally? What would that look like? And then, of course, there’s a whole kettle of fish too, of a whole bunch of feelings come up with that, and then you unpack that, and you process that. But that’s just just one example of how I use like for type two. So I go through that process with whatever type I have in front of me. Granted I do have to see a lot more hard types in my practice than other types, but it would, it would be a similar.

Listen to our full conversation using the link in bio > Inviterra website > Blog > How do we heal trauma with the Enneagram? Interview with Melinda Olsen

https://www.inviterracounseling.com/blog/how-do-we-heal-trauma-with-the-enneagram-interview-with-melinda-olsen

06/27/2025

In the past–in the past 5 years I’ve really been into interior design. Especially design of healing spaces. I feel like I’ve been around a lot of ugly ones and find myself surprised by how much space affects people. Decorating office spaces was fun! Little did I know how difficult I would find decorating an office space for myself.

If you’re interested in learning more about creating grounding office spaces or environmental self care, I encourage you to check out my blog posts on it. I have two that can help guide you on your journey of understanding how space affects people.

Use the link in my bio -> Inviterra website -> blog -> Inviterra Office: Inviting Myself into a Grounding Space OR Environmental Self-Care

Comment if you have any thoughts or questions!

06/19/2025

The enneagram types are organized in Triads. If you see the Enneagram shape, you can see nine points all connected. The Triads are broken out into Triads that lead with the Body intelligence or their Gut. Three that lead with their Feelings or Emotional intelligence and three that lead with their Head or their Thoughts. Three kinds of intelligence.

I share more about each type and the nine points in my free enneagram growth tips guide. Click the link in my bio to get yours!

Link in bio -> Inviterra Website -> Enneagram Growth Tips (Free!)

06/16/2025

If enneagram types describe the motivations of why we do what we do, the instincts mixed with that type display how those behaviors show up or how that type shows up or where it’s directed.

Are you curious about your enneagram instincts? Maybe wondering what they are and how they show up in your life?

If that’s you, then I highly reccomend you listen to a series I did with and .nikhilsharma where we did a deep exploration instincts and subtypes!

You can read the transcript from our discussion or watch the video using the link in my bio > Inviterra website > blog > Enneagram Subtypes and Instincts

06/11/2025

I had the pleasure of talking with La Shanda Sugg on her podcast Labors of Love and we got deep into the topic of finding your authentic self and the assumptions people can make about your enneagram type. I wanted to share an excerpt from our conversation in the case my find this relatable!

La Shanda: As a Two, we’re externally focused. So, the natural proclivity in a relationship is to see the other person and not see yourself. But still a deep desire to be seen and known. So, I get to see and know myself through you. But you don’t see me either. So, I can’t see myself and here’s the thing. I will put everything of myself into you in hopes that it will yield a return that you will do the same for me. It’s so crazy.

Those who have listened for a long time, you will have heard echoes of this. I’ve been saying for so long, but I really appreciate this. It’s like crystallizing right here in my hands in this conversation of that’s it. Literally when I realized and discovered that we teach people how to treat us, not by how we treat them, but how we treat ourselves. Yes, it’s true. When I say that to people, ooh, it’s so profound, but I also need people to understand how profoundly hard it is for certain people.

I can say it all day, but when people understand that the box that I’ve been in, those coping mechanisms, the way I’ve existed has always been to pour into other people desperately because I need to be poured into.

Melinda: I have such a huge heart for Twos, and I do think this is because I’ve grown my heart for myself in this process. This might be controversial, but I’m just going to say it. I think Twos are the most misunderstood Type on the Enneagram, and I’m just going to put that out there. Because people are like, you’re just helpful. You’re so kind. You’re so sweet. You just want to help people. I’m like, f**k you.

Listen to our full conversation using the link in my bio > Inviterra Website > Blog > Unboxing: Finding Your Authentic Sled

06/02/2025

Ever feel like your Enneagram type almost gets you, but not quite? 🥲

Maybe you don’t relate to others with your same number… or you’re tired of repeating the same growth patterns that never seem to stick.

Join me for the free (yes I said free!) Virtual EnneaSummit: The 27 Subtypes on June 3-6! The goal of the summit is to help you discover your subtype, move beyond stereotypes, and see people in high-definition.
I will be on the type 2 subtypes panel on June 6th along with Ashton Whitmoyer-Ober, Jacob Molewyk, Halie Howells, Melinda Olsen, Jeremy Vischer

After registering for your free ticket, each morning of the Summit (June 3–6), you’ll receive an email at 6:00 AM CST with the day’s sessions and panels. You’ll have 30 hours to watch everything on-demand.

Click the link below (or in my story) for a free ticket!

https://www.tylerzach.com/a/2148111985/Z74CyCLZ

05/27/2025

Knowing our hearts and our needs, and then taking up the space to ask/insist on those things is the most important act of self love we can do.

Maybe you can just begin by spending the first two minutes of your day breathing into your heart, doing your best to notice and attune to your own feelings. Maybe buy yourself the best damn flowers and take yourself out to your favorite restaurant (Miley Cyrus style). Maybe take a risk and directly tell your significant other or friends how best to love you right now. Maybe give yourself permission to be messy and human.

If you’re an and interested in learning about your enneagram subtypes, I highly recommend using the link before for a free ticket to the upcoming virtual (June 3-6) where we will dive into the transformative power of discover how subtypes shape your relationships and behavior.

https://www.tylerzach.com/a/2148111985/Z74CyCLZ

05/20/2025

I am SO excited to be apart of the Type 2 Subtypes virtual panel at the !

Have you ever looked around and thought, “Why don’t I resonate with other people who have my number?” Or you’ve gone back and forth, trying to type yourself—or others—only to end up more confused?

Well…what if the missing piece isn’t your type at all… but your subtype? Understanding your subtype can unlock a deeper level of clarity, compassion, and transformation—both for yourself and your relationships.

We are going to have some fantastic conversations on these panels and I want to invite you to grab your FREE ticket and join us!

https://www.tylerzach.com/a/2148111985/Z74CyCLZ

05/15/2025

Because in my mind, I feel that what I’m needing are these people to approve of me, or love me, or like me, and that will only happen if I am a certain way. And if I show any of these ugly parts of me, or my needy parts, or my human parts, if I show those, then they will run screaming, or they won’t like it, or they’ll be disgusted.

Do any of my other s relate?

03/03/2025

Closing out our series on Using your Enneagram Number to Development Relationship Intimacy with

The One can have a really hard time because their intentions are so golden, to be right and good, for the world around them to be right and good, that sometimes, I think unintentionally, they can come off as critical of their partners and in relationships. This is the kind of person who will look at a dishwasher, not everyone, but they’ll look at a dishwasher and see how their partner has loaded it and there’s a better way. So, I think that a lot of times Ones can take on this, and again from great intentions, and they’re often right, but they’re the ones who can sometimes come off as critical in their relationships and it might be harder for them to accept different ways of doing things as corrections, right?

02/27/2025

Nines have a very hard time knowing themselves and knowing who they are, what they want, their opinions, and they have an even harder time expressing them. So, what you’ll find with Nines is that they are going to be the ones shying away from conflict. I mean, they’re “The Peacemaker”. That’s their title. So, you’re going to find Nines to be very placating in conflict. In relationships it’s really hard for them to stand up and push back for what they want and need, and oftentimes they do not even know what they want or need and really avoid conflict with their significant other. Conflict is the last thing they would ever want to deal with.

Unfortunately, when we repress any emotion, it leaks out. So, Nine’s repress anger. You’ll find that they can actually be a little passive aggressive or very stubborn. They’ll say yes and mean no.

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