Olga Reinholdt, Louisville, KY (2025)

05/21/2024

В жизни так много есть задач, которые делать надо, а не хочется.
И что? Не делать? Ну так у этого будут последствия и они испортят жизнь.
Заставлять себя делать по принципу "нравится - не нравится, терпи..."? Так это же тоже заметно портит жизнь.

Засада. Есть еще модный вариант: надо просто выработать привычки, и делать эти самые "нехочушные надо", не задумываясь, на автомате. Звучит заманчиво, но... у кого такое получалось?

А у меня есть решение. Которое основано не на полагании на волшебную силу привычек, а на более надежные и реально действующие психологические механизмы.

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01/31/2024

Dealing with Complex PTSD (cPTSD) is no easy feat, especially when those moments of feeling down about ourselves kick in.

But ever wonder why that happens and how we can flip the script to bring in some self-love instead?

So, these "attacks" of low self-esteem? They can pop up thanks to memories, flashbacks, toxic conversations, frustration, or just life throwing curveballs.

The pain we feel is like a signal, telling us something needs attention. But trauma messes with how we interpret that signal. Instead of seeing it as a call for self-compassion, we end up being way too hard on ourselves.

The root issue here is how trauma teaches us to see ourselves when things get tough. We've got to unlearn that and start seeing pain as a call for kindness and self-compassion, not as a reason to beat ourselves up.

What if pain was a signal not for self-attack but a call for understanding, kindness, and healing? What if in the middle of a tough moment, your first move is responding with self-compassion?

It's a game-changer that can seriously boost your day-to-day.

Choosing self-compassion over self-criticism shifts the game. It lets you tackle tough times with a kindness that actually heals, instead of keeping that cycle of self-attack going.

When you recognize that pain is basically your body waving a flag saying, "Hey, let's take care of ourselves," you break free from cPTSD's grip and start building a foundation of self-love.

And by the way, you don’t have to have cPTSD to improve the quality of your life by reading pain as a signal to show yourself some compassion and kindness. Agree?

01/30/2024

Have you ever found yourself silently fuming because your spouse didn't meet your unspoken expectations? 🤔

It's a common scenario: you take care of them when they're unwell, but when it's your turn, the gestures seem minimal.

But what exactly did you ask for? The usual response is a defiant, "Nothing. Shouldn't he know how to take care of me without instructions?"

Well, here's a revelation:

No one, and I mean no one, is equipped with the super-power of mind-reading. As capable adults, expecting others to decipher our unsaid desires is a setup for disappointment.

In fact, trying to guess what someone else wants often leads to annoyance rather than appreciation. So, what's the antidote to this communication conundrum?

📣 The Golden Rule: If you want something, say it. 📣

Avoid the pitfalls of complaints, orders, or rhetorical questions like "how couldn't you see?" These are more likely to trigger defenses than meet your needs. Instead, embrace the straightforward approach: State your needs explicitly. 👫💬

"I really need you to..." opens the door to adult communication magic. It's a direct route to expressing your desires without the cloak-and-dagger drama.

Do you practice expressing your needs openly? Share your experiences and let's unravel the secrets of adult communication together!

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01/26/2024

Ever felt like you don't deserve your success? Welcome to the world of Imposter Syndrome! 🤔

But let's break it down:

1️⃣ It's not about the uncertainty of future success. It's the nagging doubt about your role in the success you've already achieved.

If you're starting a new venture and feeling the jitters, that's not imposter syndrome—it's the natural anxiety of uncharted territory.

2️⃣ It's a dance with agency. Do you own your achievements, or do you feel like a bystander to your own success?
Imposter Syndrome whispers that maybe it's all luck. Spoiler: It's not! 🚀

Know the game, challenge those whispers, and embrace your worth. Ever wrestled with imposter syndrome? Share your thoughts below!

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01/23/2024

Loneliness can steer us into some not-so-healthy habits—ever been a people pleaser or stuck in less-than-ideal relationships? 🤔 It might be more than just the discomfort of solitude; childhood roots run deep.

Evolutionarily, kids sticking close to caregivers was a survival tactic. A lone cave baby? Easy prey.

And it's not just physical vulnerability; our tiny nervous systems were like fledgling WiFi, relying on adults for emotional support and stress management.

Fast forward to adulthood. While our nervous systems upgrade, if childhood lacked the right connections, the fear of loneliness echoes loudly.

It's not just about being alone; it's a visceral reaction rooted in survival instincts.

Understanding these threads helps us untangle the complexities of loneliness. Share your thoughts below if this resonates with you!

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01/02/2024

Ever found yourself caught between being hard on yourself and not wanting to appear pitiful? 🤔

My client shared this struggle, a common misconception that there are only two options in tough times. But here's the third option, that often goes unnoticed: compassion.

Let's differentiate between pity and compassion. Pity comes with a sense of hopelessness; it doesn't imply things will get better. On the flip side, compassion is a beacon of hope. It acknowledges that the storm will pass, and you just need some comfort and support along the way.

So, when faced with challenges, the real choice isn't between being tough on yourself or appearing pitiful. It's about choosing compassion—the understanding that troubles are temporary and that, with support, you'll weather the storm and come out stronger.

Been caught in this dilemma? Share your thoughts below! 💙

12/27/2023

Ever wondered if making a wish actually works? 🌟 Let's dive into the magical realm of desires, dreams, and the infamous "law of attraction."

Here's the lowdown: Just really wanting something and creating vision boards won't magically manifest it. That's called "magical thinking," and sorry, dreams don't come true just because you wish upon a star.

But hold on, there's a twist in the tale. The real magic lies in the law of cause and effect. When we articulate a wish, we're essentially defining a goal. A clear, detailed goal can be a powerful organizing force for our actions.

However, it's not a one-and-done deal. Wishing sets the stage, but the real show is in the actions we take. Results don't emerge from the ether; they're born out of our efforts.

And there's more: When we wish, our minds create a nifty filter. This filter sorts through possibilities we might not have noticed otherwise. It's like turning on a spotlight in a dimly lit room.

So, yes, making a wish works, but only if it's followed by meaningful actions. ✨💪 What's your take on wishes turning into reality? Share your thoughts below!

12/20/2023

Let's talk forgiveness. It's a loaded concept, right?

On one side, we get it—forgiveness brings relief, it opens doors to move forward. Yet, on the flip side, we've got a truckload of reservations: Does it make us weak? Does it actually solve anything?

How about we flip the script?

What if forgiveness isn't just about letting bygones be bygones? What if it's, at its core, an invitation? An invitation for someone, maybe even yourself, to step up and do better in the future.

Think about it. It's not about forgetting or pretending nothing happened. It's about creating a space for growth, a chance to rewrite the narrative.

So, what's your take on forgiveness?
Drop your thoughts in the comments.
Let's unravel this complex web together.

12/18/2023

Ever been irked by something in someone else, wishing you could magically change it?

Yeah, it's a universal frustration. But here's a perspective shift that might just offer a sprinkle of peace.

Here's the deal: What really gets under your skin in others is often something you vehemently reject for yourself.

Notice: not IN yourself, but FOR yourself. Despite the widespread belief we don’t necessarily have the traits that we find annoying.

It’s more like: "If I don't like it in others, it means I don't choose this for myself." Bingo.

It's not about changing others; it’s not about changing yourself; it's about clarifying your own stance. When you embrace this, it's like a magic shield against the annoying traits in others.

Suddenly, they won't ruffle your feathers as much.

Remember, you can't alter people like characters in a video game, but you can redefine your relationship with what bugs you. And you can use it to gain more clarity about your own life journey.

So, what's that thing that bugs you in others? Drop it in the comments and let's navigate this together. 🌟

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12/15/2023

Ever made a resolution to let go of something—regret, anger, those broken relationships, or the haunting ghosts of past mistakes?

The intent is there, but the ruminations persist, and that elusive freedom seems a distant dream. Enter a little gem rooted in polyvagal theory, a simple exercise that might just do the trick.

Step 1: Speak your resolution out loud. "I am letting go of [insert what's haunting you]."

Step 2: Take a deep, long, loud exhale. Let your body release tension, dropping like a deflated bouncy-house. Do this 3-5 times.

The magic is subtle, not immediate. But over time, you might notice a shift. If those pesky thoughts resurface, respond with the exercise. Speak your decision, exhale the weight.

Want to level up? Add what you want to embrace. "I'm letting go of guilt"—deep exhale—"Instead, I'll make informed decisions about my spendings."

Or, "This friendship isn't working for me"—deep exhale—"Instead, I'll invest in quality time with those who truly care."

What do you need to let go of? Give it a shot and share in the comments. Let's exhale the baggage together!

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12/12/2023

Ever feel the weight of endless "shoulds" and "musts" dragging you down, leading straight to the burnout pit? We've all been there.

The ideal flow of tackling tasks involves setting a goal, feeling the tension, acting, completing, and then soaking in that sweet satisfaction.
But what if the satisfaction part feels like the villain in your life story?

Tasks labeled as "shoulds" and "musts" often come with clear criteria—deadlines, checkboxes, you name it.

Theoretically, it should be easier to bask in that sweet closure after ticking these off. However, some of us carry an adaptation that stifles the joy of satisfaction, usually ingrained during childhood.

The result? High tension at the task's inception, no closure, and zero chance to recover. Hello, burnout.

So, how do we break free from this cycle of burnout? The answer isn't dodging tasks; it's allowing ourselves to relish in that satisfying moment when they're done. After all, life's too short not to enjoy the victories, no matter how small. 🚀

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12/04/2023

Feeling a wave of sadness? The automatic assumption is that something terribly sad must've occurred.

But, surprise twist: emotions often play a role in creating stories rather than the other way around. It's like our mind conjures up a tale to match the emotion, and once we buy into it, the sadness intensifies, waving hello to depression.

So, what's the key?

Allow yourself to feel without jumping on the "my life is a tragedy" bandwagon. Life's too intricate to be hastily judged through an emotional lens.

Emotions are fleeting, and while it's crucial to acknowledge them, it's equally vital not to weave them into the narrative of your life.

Picture this: you have a date with the best partner ever, a once-in-a-lifetime love. But, oh no, food poisoning hits, and you're hurling your heart out.

You wouldn't dare show up for that date in such a state, right? You'd let the bad stuff exit your system first before cherishing that relationship.

Apply the same logic to life: if the "poison" of sadness courses through you, let it pass, and only then resume crafting your life masterpiece. 🌟

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