01/05/2022
When it comes to pregnancy and birth, here’s the experience most women are unfortunately familiar with.
•Short prenatals in which you’re told what to do, and not expected to question anything
•Pressure to accept any and all “routine” procedures without an explanation as to why they’re necessary
•Being sent home shortly after birth with nothing but your baby, and being expected to know exactly what to do
•A short appointment 6 weeks after giving birth, in which you’re asked which birth control you want
•Being expected, or even pressured, to go back to work shortly after giving birth, with no regard to your recovery, whether physical or mental
Does this sound familiar? Our culture puts so much pressure on “bouncing back” from pregnancy and childbirth, rather than putting an emphasis on healing and recovering. Postpartum lasts so much longer than the 6 week checkup.
Physically, women are not completely recovered from giving birth until 1 year. Not to mention the rise of postpartum depression being experienced. Maybe if our culture cared more about “mothering” the newly postpartum mom, there would be far less instances of women entering motherhood feeling alone and neglected.
Here are some practical ways to offer support to a new mother, whether it’s her first baby or her fourth.
•Rather than throwing an elaborate baby shower with expensive gifts, hire a postpartum doula to support her in those early days.
•Create a meal train to take some pressure off of wondering what’s for dinner. It’s a simple gesture that will go a long way in promoting rest.
•Visit her, but not to hold the baby. One of the most practical things you can do is dropping by to do a load of laundry, empty the dishwasher, or pick up groceries.
Most of the time, a mother doesn’t need someone to hold the baby; she needs someone to handle the other things so she can enjoy being a mother.