Dr. Jan Anderson

11/25/2025

🎄 You can be grateful and grieving.
You can show up for the holidays and still need space to fall apart a little.

When someone important to you is missing, the holidays can become emotional landmines.
Old traditions suddenly feel unbearable. Even simple joys can sting.

You don’t have to pretend it’s all okay.
And you don’t have to burn it all down either.

This blog shares healing rituals that honor your loss and your capacity to keep going—at your own pace.

✨ You’ll discover:
— How to gently rework holiday traditions
— Ways to honor your loved one without feeling overwhelmed
— Ideas for bringing grief and meaning to the table

💡 If you or someone you love is navigating the holidays after loss, this may help.

📝 Read the full blog → https://bit.ly/43WQm88

11/20/2025

📝 When both options feel wrong—do more, or go quiet—there is another path.

In my latest blog, I walk through the story of a mother navigating the “gift dilemma.” But this isn’t just about holidays or family. It’s about any relationship where your effort outweighs your peace.

✨ Read the story
🎯 Get the strategy
🧠 Understand the psychology

Read the article here: https://bit.ly/4oEIOPT

11/15/2025

🎥 Feel like you’re always the one reaching out… and getting nothing back?

Whether it’s a family member, a partner, or even a friend—you keep trying, and what comes back feels like breadcrumbs.

In just 10 minutes, I’ll walk you through how one client stopped over-giving and started showing up with dignity instead of desperation.

▶️ Watch the video here https://youtu.be/fN381PPivnY

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11/13/2025

When I tell high-performing clients I want to teach them a breathing technique, I often get the look.
Until I add: “It’s the one Navy SEALs use in combat zones.”

Suddenly, it’s not fluff. It’s performance science.

Box breathing—inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4—is a simple, research-backed way to regulate your nervous system under pressure.
It’s one of the fastest ways to reset your physiology so your brain can stay strategic when everything around you feels chaotic.

The smartest performers aren’t the ones who push the hardest.
They’re the ones who know when to recalibrate before they unravel.

11/08/2025

High achievers often say:
“I can’t slow down… everything will fall apart.”

But here’s the truth:
You don’t need more grit. You need a smarter gear.

Self-compassion isn’t about being soft.
It’s about accessing the part of your brain that performs with clarity—not chaos.

If you’re tired of pushing through and ready to perform with presence instead...
Let’s talk → https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

11/03/2025

Self-compassion isn’t soft. It’s strategic.

Research shows people who practice it take more responsibility, bounce back faster, and stay in the game longer.

It’s not weakness—it’s efficiency.

10/30/2025

Self-compassion doesn’t mean dropping your standards.
It means using your strengths… without weaponizing them.

Here’s what that shift can look like:
🔹 Self-critical → Clear and accountable
🔹 Exhausted → Regulated and responsive
🔹 Over-functioning → Focused and strategic
🔹 White-knuckling → Sustained, steady performance

The GAIN Reset makes these shifts possible—on demand.
No fluff. Just calm, grounded clarity.

🔹 Blog → https://bit.ly/3VQ7sjO

🧠 Which shift speaks to you most right now?

10/26/2025

If being hard on yourself was the secret to success, high achievers would be the most fulfilled people on the planet.
But we both know that’s not how it works.

Pushing harder has its place—but so does knowing when to shift gears.
Sometimes you don’t need to be tougher. You need to be smarter.

That means learning how to stay grounded and clear under pressure, or when you lose it—how to recover faster.

You can optimize performance without burning out or alienating the people who matter most.
And it doesn’t take hours. It takes less than a minute to reset.

The article linked below walks you through a 60-second strategy you can use anytime you need to refocus fast.

https://bit.ly/3VQ7sjO

10/22/2025

“If I’m kind to myself, I’m slacking.”
“If I’m hard on myself, at least I’m being responsible.”

Sound familiar?
High performers often mistake self-compassion for self-indulgence.

But the research says otherwise.
Kindness under pressure leads to better performance—
More motivation. Better focus. Faster recovery.

This isn’t fluff. It’s tactical.
And it’s the edge most achievers don’t know they need.

Blog →https://bit.ly/3VQ7sjO

10/18/2025

High achievers love momentum. So when I suggest a pause under pressure, I usually get that look—the one that says, “I don’t have time for this.”

Here’s the reframe: A pause isn’t a slowdown. It’s a strategy.
It’s how you shift from white-knuckling through to staying grounded and effective.

The truth is, mental toughness isn’t about pushing harder—it’s about knowing when to reset before you unravel.

And the good news? It doesn’t take hours. Most of the most effective reset tools take less than a minute.

If you want to try one, I’ve linked a 60-second strategy in the article below.
A small pause. A big difference.

Read my blog: https://bit.ly/3VQ7sjO

10/15/2025

When high performers hit overload, most try to “push through.”
But what if your smartest move… was to pause?

Here’s the mental reset I teach my executive clients after a tough meeting, conflict, or high-pressure moment.

It takes 60 seconds.
But the impact lasts all day.

🔹 Read the full method → https://bit.ly/3VQ7sjO

Which part of GAIN do you find hardest to access under pressure?

10/06/2025

You’ve achieved a lot. But lately?
Even the wins don’t feel as satisfying.

If being hard on yourself actually worked, you’d feel amazing by now.

Instead, you’re tired, wired, and wondering if something’s off.

In my latest blog, I explore a powerful (and uncomfortable) truth:
Self-compassion isn’t weakness. It’s your performance advantage.

🔹 Read the blog → https://bit.ly/3VQ7sjO