Dr. Jan Anderson

10/06/2025

You’ve achieved a lot. But lately?
Even the wins don’t feel as satisfying.

If being hard on yourself actually worked, you’d feel amazing by now.

Instead, you’re tired, wired, and wondering if something’s off.

In my latest blog, I explore a powerful (and uncomfortable) truth:
Self-compassion isn’t weakness. It’s your performance advantage.

🔹 Read the blog → https://bit.ly/3VQ7sjO

09/28/2025

Your strengths can sometimes backfire in the wrong situation.

Door 3 isn’t a reinvention. It’s a recalibration. Just enough to be effective without losing yourself.

If this message resonates, let’s talk.
Book your 15-minute consult → https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

Ready to feel better and function better? Contact Dr. Jan Anderson to schedule therapy or coaching for stress, relationships, estrangement, or executive-level support.

09/27/2025

Perfectionism paralyzes. Usefulness connects.

At the University of Louisville Depression Center’s annual benefit dinner, Kentucky musician Ben Sollee reminded us:
✨ “Music doesn’t fix. It accompanies.”
✨ “Breath isn’t just biological—it’s emotional. Foundational.”
✨ “Even thirty seconds of silence between songs can shift your whole nervous system. We don’t give enough credit to little pauses.”

In my latest MD-Update KY article, I explore how these insights align with what we know in psychology: that resilience and healing often come from presence, pauses, and small acts of self-regulation.

📖 Read it here: https://bit.ly/46ln84D

09/24/2025

You don’t need to reinvent yourself. You just need to recalibrate.

That’s the Door 3 shift:
Quiet → Calmly confident
Empathetic → Compassionate with boundaries
Driven → Purposeful, not pushy
Detail-oriented → Precise, not nitpicky
Calm → Steady, emotionally present

Small shifts. Big impact.

❓Which one of these shifts speaks to you most right now? Drop it in the comments.

09/20/2025

When your strengths start working against you, here’s a simple exercise I use with clients:

Journaling Prompt:
Door 1: Your default strengths
Door 2: The traits you avoid because they feel fake or forced
Door 3: A micro-dose of Door 2 that still feels like you

Try this:
"In this situation, I want to show up as someone who is _______, _______, and _______ — just enough to be effective without feeling fake."

Want to go deeper? I break down the full Door 3 Model—plus real-life examples—in this short video: https://youtu.be/ABqPRZwiMvQ

09/16/2025

She was smart, calm, and highly capable.

But in the room where it mattered most—her residency interview—her strengths stopped working.

Door 1: Humble, precise, quietly competent
Door 2: Loud, flashy, attention-seeking
Door 3: Confident, passionate, engaged—just enough to be effective without feeling fake

Once she found her Door 3, everything shifted. She got the residency.

Want to explore your own version of Door 3?
Read the full story → https://bit.ly/3VBiZTI

Ever felt like your real strengths didn’t come through in high-stakes moments? Let’s talk about it in the comments.

09/11/2025

When your strengths stop working, most people think they only have two options:

Door 1: Stay stuck in default mode
Door 2: Swing to the opposite extreme

But there’s another way.

Door 3 is a smarter setting on your internal dial. Just enough to be effective—without feeling fake or forced.

Curious about what your Door 3 might be?
Read the full blog → https://bit.ly/3VBiZTI

Which "door" do you tend to default to under pressure? Share below.

08/03/2025

Parent-Adult Child Estrangement is one of the most complex, painful experiences a parent can face.
You don't need quick fixes. You need real insight, compassion, and a path forward.

Feeling stuck or stretched thin? Let’s talk—just 15 minutes, no pressure. https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

And if someone you care about could use this kind of support, feel free to pass it on.

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07/30/2025

Confidence isn’t just what you say—it’s how you carry it.
This physician didn’t need a pep talk. She needed tools to show up sharp and grounded in a high-stakes moment. That’s what we did together.

Ready to feel supported and understood? https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

07/27/2025

Curious if we’re a fit? Let’s find out.

07/24/2025

If you’ve been holding it all together—for your work, your family, your future—
But under the surface, it’s getting harder to do...

You’re not alone. And you don’t have to keep going like this. Let's take the pressure off. A quick call might be all it takes to feel clearer.

Curious if we’re a fit? Let’s find out—no pressure, just presence. https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

07/20/2025

Resilience isn’t about “bouncing back.” It’s about growing stronger in the places you’ve been stretched.
If you’ve been hurt, therapy can be the place you start again, wiser.

Ready to feel supported and understood? Take the first step toward relief. https://bit.ly/3TlSKQc

Know someone who could use this kind of support? Pass it along.