Guiding Sol Doula Services

04/28/2026

04/28/2026

Yesterday's grief group...

Today’s grief support group was… deep.

Not just surface-level “I’m okay” conversations. I’m talking about the kind of deep that makes you sit with things you’ve been trying to outrun. The kind of deep that reminds you grief isn’t just about losing a person—it’s about lost time, lost versions of yourself, lost peace, lost expectations.

There were moments of silence that said more than words ever could. Moments where you could feel the weight in the room… but also the strength.

Because here’s the truth:
Healing doesn’t happen when we avoid it.
It happens when we finally allow ourselves to feel it.

And today, people felt it. Fully. Honestly. Courageously.

If you’ve been carrying something heavy, know—you don’t have to carry it alone. There is space for you. Some people understand. And there is healing, even if it doesn’t feel like it yet.

Grief is deep… but so is the strength it takes to face it. 💙

We welcome you to join us for our next group meeting on Monday, May 25 at 1pm.

04/28/2026

There is strength in planning ahead.

Talking about end of life wishes is not about fear, it is about making sure your voice is heard when it matters most. At Guiding Sol Doula Services, we help individuals and families have these conversations with clarity, compassion, and support.

You deserve to be honored in every stage of life.

Reach out to learn more about how we can walk alongside you.

04/27/2026

C

💭…

Today’s question comes from The Death Deck and asks what scares (or worries) you most about dying?

A. Fear of the unknown
B. The pain of the process
C. It happening too soon

is there something not listed that worries you?

04/26/2026

A 111-year-old New Jersey man — believed to be the oldest in the U.S. — shared his three secrets to living a long life. bit.ly/4uasHfa

📷: FOX 5 New York/Youtube

04/26/2026

Our week in review

04/26/2026

Another busy week has passed. Here’s the week in review.

Ready for another busy week to come. 😁

04/25/2026

When I am dying, I don’t want the last sounds I hear to be machines beeping and alarms going off telling me what I already know, which is that my body is shutting down and I am dying.

I don’t want machines keeping me alive.
I don’t want machines feeding me.
I don’t want to feel the suffocation of the blood pressure cuff as it squeezes my arm every hour on the hour.
I don’t want IV’s stuck in my arms, or tubes down my throat.
I don’t want other people making decisions for me.

I don’t want to be in a room that isn’t mine, with a view of medical charts and notes stating when I had my last bowel movement, when my medications are due, or how many times I have been turned and repositioned, which by the way is obnoxious when you are dying and I definitely do not want that.

I don’t want fluorescent lights on above my head, forcing me to keep my eyes closed so they don’t burn from the glare.

I don’t want people walking into my room as though it is theirs and not mine.

I don’t want strangers telling me what to do or how to feel or treating me like I don’t have feelings.

I don't want people to talk over or about me as if I can't hear. I can hear and I will hear you!

I don’t want my family to wait day after day in a stark hospital room knowing there is nothing else anyone can do but wait.
This is not how I want to die.
This is not how I want the people who love me to see me die.

I have written down everything that is important to me so that none of the above ever occurs.
I have listed where I want to be, who I want there, what music I want to hear, how I want to be cared for, what I want to wear, how I want my symptoms managed, and to what extent I want people to go to keep me alive.

When I am dying, I want my wishes honored, my voice heard, and my death peaceful.
I want this for you too!

Please write down your wishes and share them with the people you love.
Have the conversation.
Talk to your family and friends.
I promise you… it won’t happen sooner because you talked about it.

xo
Gabby
www.thehospiceheart.net

My book “The Conversation” is a great way to get the conversation started.
https://a.co/d/5kDTiSn

My class “Your End-of-Life Wishes”
can be found here:
https://www.thehospiceheart.net/your-end-of-life-wishes

You can find this blog here:
https://www.thehospiceheart.net/post/when-i-am-dying

04/25/2026

Come chat with us at the expo today in the Mall.