Emotesy Child and Family Counseling Services

09/09/2025

We have a 2nd group running this fall, check it out!

09/09/2025

We have a new group starting 10/4-11/4 on Saturdays 1-230 PM! Contact Allison if you're interested!

09/04/2025

PESI is having an anniversary sale with deals on $46 trainings! Use the link below to get the deal, sale ends 9/8! Get a jump on your CEUs!

09/01/2025

INTRODUCING OUR NEW TOPIC

With children back to school after the long break, it seemed a good time to revisit AFTER SCHOOL RESTRAINT COLLAPSE - as well as a toolkit which as usual will condense all the content over the next 14 days and equip you with tools and resources - for parents and educators.

NOW AVAILABLE
After School Restraint Collapse Toolkit for Parents & Educator at link in comments.

WATCH THIS SPACE - be sure to FOLLOW!

07/08/2025

Our team just keeps growing! Tatiana has openings on Fridays 10-2!

07/08/2025

05/29/2025

We have additional session times for our Confidence Crew Group. You can choose 10-1130; 1-230; or 4-530. Save your spot today! www.emotesy.com/groups

Emotesy offers groups to help children develop and practice skills. Groups can focus on building confidence, social skills, or specific topics.

05/24/2025

Long holidays can sometimes mean short fuses. Let's identify some ways to minimize power struggles:

**Stay Calm**: Keep your emotions in check. Responding to defiance with anger can escalate the situation. Remember, your job is to be the thermostat and help co-regulate, not be the thermometer and react.

**Pick Your Battles**: Not every issue is worth fighting over. Focus on what truly matters and let the small things slide when possible. Ask yourself, "Is this a "me" problem or an actual problem?"

**Offer Choices**: Give your child a sense of control by presenting options. For example, “Would you like to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt?” This helps minimize resistance.

**Set Clear Boundaries**: Make sure your child understands the rules and the consequences of their actions ahead of time. Have a sidewalk conversation before heading into the store/party/even.

**Validate Their Feelings**: Acknowledge your child's emotions by saying things like, “I understand you’re upset.” This helps them feel heard and can lessen their resistance before jumping into problem-solving.

**Pick Your Battles**: Not every issue is worth fighting over. Focus on what truly matters and let the small things slide when possible. Ask yourself, "Is this a 'me' problem or an actual problem?"change.

**Be Flexible**: Sometimes, being willing to negotiate or change plans can reduce power struggles. Show that you’re not rigid and can compromise when appropriate.

**Model Problem-Solving**: Demonstrate how to work through disagreements calmly and constructively. This teaches your child valuable life skills for managing conflicts.

By using these strategies, parents can create a more cooperative environment and reduce power struggles with their children.

05/16/2025

A fidget toy or another tactile object can significantly enhance focus and relieve stress. These small, handheld devices allow you to channel nervous energy through subtle movements, making it easier to concentrate on tasks at hand. Help your child understand that using a fidget in school is a tool by:
- **Explain the Purpose**: Start by explaining what fidget toys are designed for, and emphasize the benefits of using fidget toys, such as improved focus, reduced anxiety, and enhanced learning capabilities.

- **Demonstrate Usage**: Show your child how to use fidget toys in a way that promotes concentration. For example, demonstrate using a fidget spinner during reading time or studying.

- **Incorporate into Activities**: Use fidget toys during specific activities, like homework or group projects, to illustrate their role as tools that can aid in productivity.

- **Set Clear Guidelines**: Establish rules about when and where fidget toys can be used. This reinforces their purpose as tools to support learning rather than distractions.

- **Encourage Self-Regulation**: Teach kids to recognize when they need a break or focus aid, allowing them to use fidget toys responsibly.

- **Create a Positive Environment**: Foster an environment where using fidget toys is normalized and encouraged within appropriate contexts, such as classrooms or study times.

- **Encourage Creativity**: Allow kids to explore different fidget tools to find what works best for them, encouraging them to view these tools as personalized aids for focus.

- **Use Visual Reminders**: Create posters or charts that highlight the benefits and proper use of fidget toys as tools, making the concept clear and accessible.

05/01/2025

When your 6 am webinar is trainer view only, and no one can see your bedhead 😅

03/28/2025

Things are taking shape in the remodel! We’re taking on an extra suite to give us some extra space.

03/13/2025

We are hosting our Children's Confidence Crew group again this summer! Sign up now to save your spot! Email Allison if you're interested: filacounseling@gmail.com