11/19/2025
Just because you washed Judas feet doesn’t mean he’s going to stay clean.
See… Some of us keep forgetting that part.
We take on the responsibility of cleansing, fixing, repairing, and restoring people who have no desire to walk in what we prayed over them.
And the truth is… Some people don’t get better because of your kindness…
Some people don’t transform because you prayed…
Some people don’t stay loyal because you love them…
Some people don’t honor you just because you honor them…
But… it’s not your failure. It’s their character.
You can’t disciple a heart that’s already decided to betray you.
You can’t purify a mindset that protects its own dysfunction.
You can’t keep someone clean who keeps running back to the mud.
See… water doesn’t change a heart.
Obedience does.
Surrender does.
Conviction does.
And Judas didn’t want any of that.
Jesus bent down, served, washed, and loved a man who was already planning the betrayal.
And some of us are doing the same…
Pouring into people who in their heart already made a decision about us. You can be the most faithful person in the room, but if someone is committed to disloyalty, your kindness won’t rewrite their script.
So I repeat… Just because you washed Judas feet doesn’t mean he’s going to stay clean.
Some people experience your grace and go right back to the habits that hurt you. Some people will receive your forgiveness and return to the behaviors that broke your heart.
Some people will let you cover them, help them, pray for them, and still walk out with the same intentions they had before yall said amen.
And that’s a hard truth…
Especially when you have a soft heart. When you love deep. When you give generously. When you show up consistently. When your first instinct is compassion instead of retaliation.
It makes betrayal feel personal.
It makes you question your discernment.
It makes you wonder if you should’ve loved less or held back more.
But hear me clearly…
Jesus knew exactly who Judas was… and He still washed his feet.
See the act of love was the obedience.
The betrayal was Judas decision.
And for that… Your love didn’t fail.
Your discernment didn’t miss.
And your heart wasn’t foolish.
It’s just… Some people don’t stay clean because they don’t want to.
This is the part where most people stop reading, but you’re not average so let me go deeper…
Because here’s the truth most folks don’t want to admit
Some betrayals were never sudden they were predictable.
The signs were there.
The inconsistency was there.
The entitlement was there.
The silent jealousy was there.
But you just kept washing their feet hoping the water would change their intentions.
And other times…
God lets you serve a Judas so you can learn the difference between assignment and attachment.
Sometimes God lets you love a Judas so you can see how pure your heart really is.
Sometimes God lets you walk with a Judas so you can stop confusing potential with character.
Judas had access, proximity, and privilege and it still wasn’t enough to change him.
And the same is true for some of the people around you.
So release the guilt.
Release the responsibility.
Release the pressure to keep someone clean who keeps choosing dirt.
Your job was to love.
Their job was to honor that love.
And they failed their assignment.
But you didn’t fail yours.
With love ♥️
~ Tamm Watts
