03/04/2026
“I know it’s been a hard week for everyone because of what’s happening in the world,” is how a professional meeting started this week. A professional meeting in healthcare.
No. It wasn’t.
Having a feeling and a state of torment are different.
Most people I work with are white people in privileged spaces who are women that were able to come to work this week without fear. Most of them have husbands that they can take off work or work part time if they need to. They spend thousands of dollars on trainings that are way over budget for our CEUs. They are educated and wear what they want. And most morality warriors online are white spiritual people who somehow think they have a say in things. “I have known pain.” Correct, we all experience pain but it’s not your time to stand up. Control freaks that cloak their chronic Me’ism with “empathy.”
Posting on your social media page to “bring awareness,” about something you know nothing about is performative.
Stop inviting victim mentality as if this is happening to us. “It hurts watching the world right now.” Like what? In order to even have empathy, you have to experience something and then have a physical response. None of you that I know were forced to cover your entire body because of who you are. “My parents made my cover up when I went to school.” You went to school. And don’t compare modest attire to being silenced to such a severe degree you can’t exist or you’ll be ended. No. “You don’t know what I’ve been through.” Still making this about you, wild.
It’s not your time.
“I’m using my platform for good.” 🤦🏻♀️ Of course you are. You’re bias to say what’s good. Making global tragedy about you isn’t helpful.
“Your post isn’t compassionate.” Nope. I’m saving my compassion for my friends who are Iranian, Venezuelan, and Mexican. I know you’re worried about not having attention or making something about you. Because I’m not here to coddle you. I use my platforms for truth. To de-cloak selfishness. In myself and others. To promote accountability.
Stop making it everyone’s job to observe or care about you the way your parent did, or didn’t and now you’re spending data on making sure people look at you.
I’ll tell you: This ain’t about you. Stop making it about you. It’s not saying you don’t get your feelings, or don’t speak - it’s saying you are fortunate enough you get to choose. So today: Learn when to step aside.
