Martha Kauppi

01/07/2026

If someone says you're not getting it, the only relational thing you can do is ask them to explain and do your best to understand.

01/05/2026

In this blog, I’m sharing a goal-setting process to help you get aligned with your goals for 2026. It’s actionable, inspiring, and practical. You can find it at the link below.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/relational-intimacy/202512/getting-in-alignment-for-the-new-year

01/02/2026

I'm launching a brand new free series, Anatomy of an Intervention! It's a four part exploration of my goal-setting process with clients. Sign up now at the link below to get the training delivered to your inbox. Then mark your calendar for a free webinar on January 23 at 1pm CST too!
https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/Anatomy-of-an-intervention-signup

01/01/2026

Episode 1 of my new podcast, Untangling Intimacy, drops today! In conversation with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith, I will help therapists learn to work with topics like s*x and relationships. Listen now!
https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/untangling-intimacy

12/29/2025

Have you heard? My new podcast with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith will drop in just two days (January 1)! Watch this space for a link. We believe EVERY therapist should be prepared to work with s*x issues — and we want to help you get there. (Not a therapist? Eavesdrop anyway — you’ll learn a lot, and have fun doing it.)

12/19/2025

I've been working on a secret project... a brand-new podcast with Dr. K. Skye Henry Smith. It's called Untangling Intimacy: Build Your Therapy Toolkit, and it's designed to help therapists and other caring professionals have fearless conversations about s*x, intimacy, and relationships of every shape and style. We had a lot of fun in the recording booth, and we think you'll have a lot of fun listening!

12/15/2025

When you started working as a therapist, what surprised you the most?

12/11/2025

Did you know we're on BlueSky? Check out our profile there!

Martha Kauppi is a marriage and family therapist, educator, author, speaker, and AASECT-certified s*x therapist and supervisor. She trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with relational intimacy challenges and s*x issues.

12/08/2025

" There is actually stuff that you can do differently that will change your attraction to your partner. And that's a real pivot compared to, societally, culturally, what we believe is if I'm not attracted to my partner, there's something my partner needs to change about themselves to make themselves more attractive to me. What a load of crap."

12/05/2025

We need to stay flexible in our expectations and what we measure as success for our partner. If we don't, they may experience it as dismissive of their goals. This can compound issues in the relationship.

12/03/2025

Sexual trauma is all too common, and its lasting impacts shape our client’s relationships with their bodies, with their partners, and with their world. My training “Pathways to Intimacy After Trauma: 7 Steps For Helping Clients Heal” is about contending with the long-lingering ramifications of trauma, and helping your clients forge a path forward.
https://www.instituteforrelationalintimacy.com/pathways-to-intimacy-after-trauma

12/01/2025

" There is nothing about s*xual function that say stays the same over the lifespan for anybody of any gender under any circumstances." - Martha Kauppi