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10/24/2025

When the 𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 of marriage is prioritized over the 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘴 within it, marriage becomes an idol.

Yes—agreements and covenants matter deeply. But that sacred commitment can only exist when both people honor and uphold it.

When one partner abandons, neglects, misuses, or abuses the other, the covenant has already been broken. Asking the harmed person to stay silent or “preserve the marriage” in the face of betrayal or violence 𝘥𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘴 the very holiness we claim to protect.

Honoring marriage means honoring truth. It means naming harm, not hiding it. It means valuing safety—physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, and financial—above appearances.

🕊️ A truly high view of marriage begins with a high view of the image-bearers 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯 it. Safety first. Always.

10/24/2025

The Pearls have a truly distorted sense of what marriage and family discipleship (teaching and encouragement) ought to look like according to the Bible. Basically a poster child for TOXIC patriarchy.

I share this to help people who may be feeling confused in their marriage or beliefs and encourage you to do the same to help change the tide of abuse and even divorce rates in the church by pushing back against this religious rhetoric. I know many well meaning Christians embrace this ideology because it incorates scripture (however twisted), sounds like the traditional way your faith filled grandmother approached marriage but that doesnt actually make it sound Christian teaching anymore than being a benevolent slave holder was for your grandparents grandparents. We must be kingdom minded.

(I am a supporter of healthy patriarchy and matriarchy which simply means equality between the genders while honoring general differences not using them as a means to devalue or discriminate.) I share because of the massive amounts of Christian women dragging around the hellish ball and chain of bo***ge from internalizing these teachings concerning their worth, purpose, and role in life.

https://hopeforhurtingwives.com/how-debi-pearl-enables-abuse-in-marriage/?fbclid=IwZnRzaANo0j1leHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHqEucMdyQMh1zvUZE2TzigiDHH9jxrRebnUjrxqXN34pSIk1rzUWK_7GTlth_aem_1H0f2GqufJRaEQTohlwgrQhe e

Several people have requested me to take a look at Created to Be His Helpmeet by Debi Pearl and offer my thoughts. This is not a complete review of the book by any means; however, these are some of the more blatant examples of the ways Debi Pearl’s teachings enable abuse in marriage. 1. Debi […]

10/20/2025

Hey Ladies!!! Share with anyone you wanna make the journey with!!!

🌸 The Invitation:
This January, I plan to host an 8-week Discipleship Course + Therapy Support Group (available on-line and in person) designed to empower women with the truth of God’s Word. Drawing from both my theological training and my therapy specializations, I’ll guide you in uncovering the freedom found in God's word, throwing off everything that entangles, and stepping into the abundant life Christ has promised.
If you’re ready to get rooted and grounded in God’s truth to:
💡Live out your calling
💡Heal religious trauma
💡Overcome lies of shame
💡Break free from codependency
💡Establish positive communication
💡Set godly boundaries
💡Cultivate healthy egalitarian relationships
💡Understand how ungodly patriarchy model impacts destiny and relationships
💡Change the tide of history for future generations

Then comment below if you want to be on my sign up list for more details!

✨ EQUALITY: Women’s Freedom in Christ ✨
Your faith. Your freedom. Your firm foundation. JESUS!

10/08/2025

Of course women need to grow in love and in sanctifying their servanthood. That’s NOT what I refer to when I make these posts FYI

10/08/2025

This nonsense in the church is evil and an excuse to misuse the scriptures to abuse people made in Gods image. I want to encourage people to speak out against this ideology if it is percolating around you because it’s not just fringe.

Pastor Douglas Wilson says “servant leadership” is a sin. Instead, he promotes “servant lordship” and claims husbands should lead like rulers. Here's why his message is sparking outrage. The psychobabble of a wolf disguised as a follower of Christ.

A husband who defines his role as “lordship” is the Antichrist, and should be resisted like all devils (James 4:7). The Bible tells us, ““Don’t lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example.” — 1 Peter 5:3 NLT

There’s a difference between a mate and a clown, and Wilson is making a case for clowns not covenant husbands: “Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being joint-heirs of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered” (1 Peter 3:7). The operative word is “joint-heirs.” A man who thinks himself to be a lord over a wife as opposed to a joint-heir to the grace of life, has a pharisaical mindset, which Jesus refers to as blind guides, hypocrites, snakes and vipers (Matthew 23).

Men who subscribe to this heretical notion, more often than not, are religious narcissists — insecure, immature little man-boy abusers, and unfit to be a covenant husband: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” (Ephesians 5:25-33). All who believe in the way of Wilson are among the most dangerously ignorant in the body of Christ: “You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned” (Titus 3:11).

What do you think?

10/08/2025

Okay ladies out there…. It’s time to help eachother out. I don’t want to hear about the light weight teeny bopper stuff. Tell us hard working women where to find the “sweaty King Kong hanging from the Empire State Building” kind of strong deodorant. What naturalish dementia side effect free deodorant have u tried that actually factually worked without costing $14 a pop? Please don’t tell me I need to mix charcoal and arrowroot powder in a cauldron to make my own. Ahem…asking for the greater good. Comment below if you have found your odor blocking miracle.❤️🦄✨💐

10/03/2025

They may be children of God who have been used by him for many good things but their faulty and damaging theology also needs to be acknowledged

From the Orthodox Barbie archives:

[On the relationship between extreme and moderate forms of complementarianism]: “When it came to evangelical masculinity, the ideological extreme bore a remarkable resemblance to the mainstream. In the end, Doug Wilson, John Piper, Mark Driscoll, James Dobson, Doug Phillips, and John Eldredge all preached a mutually reinforcing vision of Christian masculinity—of patriarchy and submission, s*x and power. It was a vision that promised protection for women but left women without defense, one that worshiped power and turned a blind eye to justice, and one that transformed the Jesus of the Gospels into an image of their own making.” - Kristin Kobes Du Mez

From the book "Jesus and John Wayne: How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation"

10/01/2025

“Well, I don’t want to be just like Jesus because he is dead,” my 5-year-old son blurted out one morning on the way to school. His deadpan delivery startled me. My theological brain wanted to jump in about resurrection and eternal life, but he had named something profound: We want to be like

09/30/2025

Godly union is sacred and holy… but let’s not confuse that with a situationship of unrepentant abuse, abandonment, and addiction. Upward and onward as we love our enemies and guard our hearts. Love doesn’t mean allowing evil when you can do something about it. I’ve hardly ever seen more confusion than I do among scripture twisters.

09/30/2025

Marriage matters to God—but people matter more.

God created marriage as a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. But Jesus didn’t die to save an institution—He died to save people.

He laid down His life to protect His sons and daughters. And He grieves when they are abused, violated, or humiliated—especially in the very relationship that was meant to mirror His love.

Scripture makes God’s heart unmistakably clear:
He defends the oppressed.
He holds leaders accountable for how they care for His sheep.
(See Ezekiel 34 and Jeremiah 23)

🕊️ This October, during Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we invite you—churches, ministries, businesses, and organizations—to stand with us in truth and compassion.

We’ve created a free, practical Marketing Tool Kit designed to help you speak up, educate, and bring awareness to the realities of domestic abuse in faith communities.

🧰 This year’s updated kit includes resources for:
• Churches and ministry leaders
• Businesses and community organizations
• Individuals looking to advocate in their own circles

Because silence enables abuse.
But education, action, and truth-telling help set people free.

👉 Download the kit and be a voice for the oppressed this October. https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1aYR3ls98ogBs5NB1Yx1Xi3-4TzYUWjzu