Inspire Mental Wellness PLLC

12/02/2025

Estrangement… 💔

Murray Bowen began to look at family systems in the 1950’s. He recognized the interconnectedness of the family unit and its complex interactions that are passed down through generations.

Fractured family is not a new thing. The way we handle it has just evolved.

Historically, we were forced to sit quietly with our trauma. We were compelled to pretend in the drama. We were constrained to keep emotions at bay. We were coerced to stay silent for the sake of the family image. We were belittled into invisibility. We were ignored and excluded into oblivion.

Some therapists may have followed culture down a “no contact” rabbit hole, with subjective truth leading the way, but placing blame will not facilitate repair.

Some only seem to hear the breaking when someone has the nerve to say the quiet part out loud, but is that where it started? Is it the denial or minimizing from one side that becomes the cut off or is it the invisibility and futility of trying from the other side?

When someone is unwilling to change hurtful patterns, the only choice left is to close the wound and heal; often from a distance that cannot be reconciled alone.❤️‍🩹

Making an appointment for Individual therapy and/or Family therapy can be a positive direction toward reconciliation.

10/15/2025

🚶‍♂️ Every small step you take today builds momentum for tomorrow. Over time, those daily steps add up to giant leaps forward. Keep moving.

10/10/2025

I frequently hear, “I know what to do, I just don’t do it”.

Psychologically we tend to prefer the comfortable and familiar. We blame externals and rationalize sameness. We avoid the vulnerability of change, but hope for the miraculous.

This state of being stuck in negative patterns can impact our functioning at home, at work and in relationships.

There are productive and meaningful ways to address this pattern of default, whether we prefer faith strategies or clinical tools.

Pavlov’s famous dog experiment and Paul of Roman’s 7; both give us valuable information on the human condition.

All truth is God’s truth whether it comes from Pavlov or Paul!

10/03/2025

“Learn something new every day”. Charlie Kirk

It is the small consistent changes over time that make the big difference!

My husband has shared with me two new things he has learned today, on Youtube University as he calls it. Now I may never enter “commercial carpet squares” or “flat paint facts” into the YouTube search bar, but thankfully there is something for everyone.

Learn something new today, do something different tomorrow. Time will pass either way.

09/25/2025

“You must determine where you are going in your life, because you cannot get there unless you move in that direction. Random wandering will not move you forward.”

Jordan B Peterson

09/15/2025

So much has been said…

Let us pray for all…

Pray for strength for Charlie’s family and all who are experiencing grief in the wake of his death.

Pray for healing for all who have witnessed or viewed disturbing images of hate, hostility and tragedy.

Pray for peace for Iryna Zarutska’s family, friends and country.

Pray for comfort for all feeling the devastation and horror of another school shooting.

Pray for a new heart for those who celebrate the loss of life and rejoice in the pain of others.

Pray for the souls of those who murder and for comfort for those who love them and must live in the painful aftermath of such a decision.

Pray for wisdom for the therapist who must help others carry weight too heavy to bear alone.

Pray for courage for every pastor whose voice must proclaim loudly the truth of God’s Word.

Pray for unity for our country, our leaders, our judges, our teachers, our helpers, our parents, our children.

Pray for humility for all who profess Christianity. May their speech and conduct be filled with both the truth of God’s Word and the grace of His presence.

Humanity and pain is something we share, even if our orientation differs.

“Rejoice in hope; be patient in affliction; be persistent in prayer.” Romans 12:12v

07/12/2025

I love how this pastor shows emotional health as an important part of spiritual growth. We do not have to deny or avoid our emotions. We get ourselves in a lot of trouble by pretending or relying on willpower to get rid of something that we need to develop some skill and maturity around. We can be saved and sound!

07/08/2025

Praying for the Mama’s and Daddy’s hearts. Praying for the children. Praying for all the heroes and helpers. Praying for the extended families, friends and communities. Praying for those who see, understand with their heart and carry the weight of grief from afar. Praying for our leaders and representatives as they make decisions that impact those they lead. Praying for the pastors, teachers, counselors, social workers and pediatricians who will care for the hearts of the hurting in the months to come. Praying for the hardened and calloused who leave foot prints on tender hearts with foolish social media posts. Praying for all. May the love of God take up residence in our speech and conduct. May God bless America and God bless Texas.

07/02/2025

The Bible is the best selling book of all time.

According to Barna, half of our pastors and leaders do not have a Biblical worldview. Not shockingly; an even smaller percentage of professing Christians are operating from a Biblical worldview.

Increasingly, we live under the weight of strained relationships, sexual perversion, a lack of love for one another and a general malaise regarding the value of human life. Additionally, we are seeing record numbers struggling with sexual perversion, trauma, depression, anxiety and substance use disorders; just to name a few.

Could it be that we have answers lying dusty on the coffee table? What are we missing? Did God give us everything we need for life and godliness? Did He have a plan for fear, anxiety and worry? Did He set us free? Can we have a sound mind? Self-control? Can we love our enemies? Not defile the marriage bed? Can we have wisdom? Peace? Joy?

We operate in the flesh and expect a supernatural return. We feel our way through decisions and call it discernment. We easily believe a lie over the truth. We apply scriptures out of context and call it wisdom. We seek gifts instead of the giver. We pick up a devotional instead of the living Word. We go through the Christian motions and live miserable.

There is freedom. We have been set free. Haven’t we? What are we missing?

Maybe it is time to make an exchange.

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06/15/2025

My husband and I attended a funeral today. The speaker mentioned how the church has failed in the area of mental health. Sadly, I cannot disagree.

Church hurt and deconstruction are terms that flood secular counseling offices today. Every church and every shepherd should be concerned.

As a professional counselor and a Christian it hurts my heart to see churches without a plan for believers struggling with mental health issues. Is there a solution to this problem? I believe there is.

A family said goodbye to a loved one today. I did not know him except by acquaintance, but I will never forget him. He inspired me. Thank you Christopher.

To be continued…

03/29/2025

Recognizing patterns is a fundamental cognitive skill that can help us in everyday life. Very often we get stuck in a rut or in a default pattern because it offers us the least resistance or it gives us a convenient comfort, but if we get curious, there is much to learn.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is a book of observable and measurable patterns of disorder. The Bible is a book of interactional patterns of order and reliable measures of function.

Could it be that the result of conforming to the patterns of this world is in stark contrast to what can happen when we are transformed by the renewing of our minds?

A lot of clients ask the question of whether they will ever be well. My education and credentials will not allow me to say yes. My knowledge of God will not allow me to say no; but, let me tell you a story…

03/26/2025

If I call myself a therapist, but do not possess the education and credentials to back up my profession; that would be a lie. It is no less an untruth to claim Christianity and decidedly remain Biblically illiterate.

Might it make a difference in our own lives and consequently in the lives of others if we practice what we profess? What kind of impact might we have in our own hearts and minds if we evaluate what we are believing and how it is setting the stage for how we respond in and to the world around us?

When there is so much insistence that how someone identifies needs to match what we see; maybe we should be so focused on applying that same standard to our own inconsistencies. Maybe the label we apply to ourselves should be congruent with what people see and experience when they are in our presence.

Is it possible that some of our mental health issues in the Christian world are a lack of congruence between what we profess and what we feel and do?

Could Biblical literacy make a difference? Discipleship perhaps?

What do you think?

I am a licensed professional trained to help others work through inconsistencies and live differently. If you want the same, keep doing the same thing. If you want change, do something different.