E-Motion Psychotherapy

E-Motion Psychotherapy Licensed marriage and family therapist Tory L. Eletto. LIV by E-Motion Psychotherapy is a located in Westchester and NYC.

We are dedicated to empowering individuals and their surrounding relationships. Our hope is to help foster growth, and teach you how to life the life you want. Liv, our Mind & Body Studio, is an addition that is unique and proactive. Our studio offers Yoga & Meditation, combined with insight, to truly embody overall well being.

Blame gives our shame somewhere to go. It discharges the pain onto someone else when it feels too heavy to hold alone. A...
01/27/2026

Blame gives our shame somewhere to go. It discharges the pain onto someone else when it feels too heavy to hold alone. And honestly, it makes sense why we do it.

Anger moves and blame feels certain. Shame is different - it sits in the body and makes us feel small and vulnerable. Of course we push it outward, blame is protective.

But here’s the quiet cost: when we throw the pain away, we often throw away our agency too. Because if it’s all their fault, there’s nothing left for us to access, to learn, to change, or to grow.

Healing asks to feel the anger and to feel the shame. To stay curious about what’s happening inside us. To be able to hold someone accountable and gently ask ourselves, “what part of this belongs to me?”

Making new friendships as an adult has been one of the more humbling parts of my life. It’s brought up way more vulnerab...
01/24/2026

Making new friendships as an adult has been one of the more humbling parts of my life. It’s brought up way more vulnerability than I ever expected.

We assume friendship should be easier than romantic relationships, but friendships are attachments too. They can feel surprisingly tender because they touch in us the need to belong.

So of course it stings when plans change, when you feel left out, when the energy changes, or you don’t know where things stand. That’s not you being dramatic - that’s attachment.

Friendships aren’t casual to the body, they live in the same tender territory as love. Which means if friendship feels vulnerable, it’s because it matters.

The work isn’t avoiding that vulnerability but noticing how you show up inside it.

Do you shrink?
Pull away?
Judge yourself? Or others?
Cut people off to protect your pride?

Or can you learn to stay, soften, and hold yourself a little more gently in the tenderness of caring. In the unknown if someone wants to meet you there to.

Anything that touches our need to belong will always feel vulnerable, the work is learning to hold ourselves in that vulnerability and show up as our true self.

01/23/2026

FYI any time the word narcissism comes up, it can be activating. For many people, that word holds years of confusion, pain, and very real harm. So if you feel something stir, it makes sense.

To be so very clear - not centering her healing around Steven’s narcissism doesn’t mean we ignore it or minimize it. We absolutely acknowledge it. We process it. We validate it.

It means her healing isn’t analyzing him or studying him, but meeting the parts of her that are why she is repeating these patterns. That’s where you see wholehearted growth.

P.S. Would you want me to do one on Steven next? 😬

I’m no longer scared to be misunderstood because I deeply know who I am. I truly care when people feel hurt, but I reali...
01/23/2026

I’m no longer scared to be misunderstood because I deeply know who I am. I truly care when people feel hurt, but I realize I can’t create meaningful work from a place of fear or constant self-protection.

I know, especially with hot topics, that we don’t just hear what’s being said. That our nervous system tells us what it means. And suddenly we’re reacting to the meaning we attached through our filters, our wounds our fears, our history.

When we slow down and get curious about what was activated inside us, we understand ourselves more deeply. We don’t jump to shame, attack, or cut people off - we use activation as information.

That’s how we grow, that’s how we communicate, and that’s how we connect to ourselves and each other.
That’s why self attunement matters and why I teach this work so dearly.

It’s also why I don’t immediately block people from my page if they are activated, because I like to model this work from both sides. I really do believe we need spaces on the internet that are doing things differently. Thanks for being here

01/22/2026

I’m a therapist with a very sensitive nervous system. It makes me an incredibly skilled therapist but also someone who needs to intentionally and deeply care for myself - or else I would burn out.

I’m a mom with a very sensitive nervous system. It makes me attuned, and silly, and present - and can also make me overstimulated and overwhelmed. I need to intentionally and deeply care for myself or else I would be a very reactive mom.

I’m also a wife, a friend, a sister (I have many roles as I am sure you do too). I have my own pain, my own hardships, and also intentionally inform myself of the tragedies of the world. But I make sure to deeply care for myself - or else I would be a mess.

I don’t know how many roles you are holding, what personal hardships you might be navigating, or how the weight of the world’s tragedies land on you. But I do know that many people are very overwhelmed right now.

Please, please take care of yourself. With how you consume, how you process it all, and how you choose to advocate. There is no one way, or no right way, and anyone that claims there is - is likely feeling overwhelmed and in pain.

I hope to help contribute by using the gift I have- and that is what I will continue to do on here. Sending all of you a little extra warmth, love, and hope as you navigate it all too.

When children are taught to suppress their emotions, they don’t lose those emotions, they lose access to emotional prese...
01/20/2026

When children are taught to suppress their emotions, they don’t lose those emotions, they lose access to emotional presence, intelligence, and regulation. Our ability to stay present with our inner world is what allows us to feel passion, joy, creativity, and self-worth.

It’s what allows us to feel deeply connected to ourselves, and build connection with others. When couples come to therapy to work on communication, they don’t realize communication is an emotional skillset. The ability to regulate, attune, and stay present within, is what makes us more relationally skilled.

And it shows up in our parenting too. When we can’t hold our own emotions, we’re more likely to either suppress, fix, or feel overtaken by our children’s emotions. Not because we don’t care, but because we can only offer what we’ve learned to give ourselves.

Therapists don’t focus on feelings for fun. They focus on them because access to your emotional world forms the relationship you have within. It builds self worth, self trust, and your ability to meet others. And the honest and hopeful truth is what wasn’t taught, can always be learned.

(This quote was inspired by a clip of the amazing Dr. John Gottman)

Most of us try to heal our dysfunctional patterns from the outside. A new partner.A new job.Better boundaries.More disci...
01/19/2026

Most of us try to heal our dysfunctional patterns from the outside.

A new partner.
A new job.
Better boundaries.
More discipline.
More insight.

And sometimes those things help but they won’t resolve the pattern. Because the pattern isn’t just about what’s happening around you, it’s about what’s happening inside you when the moment arrives.

You don’t keep meeting the same issue because you haven’t changed enough on the outside. You keep meeting it because your body is still waiting for you to show up differently on the inside.

Real growth isn’t avoiding the trigger or perfecting your response. It’s not picking perfect friends, jobs, and partners. It’s learning how to stay present with yourself in the exact place you used to leave.

Because once you build relationship with yourself here - everything changes from the inside out.

We are not a generation lacking advice, information, or tools. We are a generation starving for safe places to land. A p...
01/14/2026

We are not a generation lacking advice, information, or tools. We are a generation starving for safe places to land. A place where someone can sit with us in the messy middle.

Where we don’t have to pretend we’re okay.
Where we don’t have to feel judged in our humanity.
Where we can be held long enough to remember who we are.

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is to let someone hold space for you until you can hold yourself again. You’re allowed to need people.

Four years ago, when I felt burnt out, I thought I was communicating my needs.But what I was actually doing was naming m...
01/14/2026

Four years ago, when I felt burnt out, I thought I was communicating my needs.

But what I was actually doing was naming my emotions:

“I’m exhausted.”
“I’m overwhelmed.”
“I can’t do this anymore.”
“I need a break.”

It felt like I was asking for support but nothing changed.

What I know now is this:
Emotions signal something important, but they don’t automatically translate into needs. I had to learn how to pause long enough to meet myself inside the feeling.

To say:
✨ This makes sense.
✨ Of course I’m overwhelmed.
✨ My body is telling a story.

But then ask:
“What do I need right now?”

That’s when it shifted from:
“I’m overwhelmed”
to
“I’m blocking off Thursday afternoons for rest.”

From:
“I can’t do this anymore”
to
“I need childcare support / a slower pace / a night off.”

That gap from emotion → validation → clarity → action
is how self-attunement becomes self-leadership.

Your needs don’t magically get met by another. You meet yourself first so you know how to meet and express them. That’s when others can show up more clearly too.

No one has hard conversations for fun. Most people are deeply uncomfortable with vulnerability, which is the heart of co...
01/13/2026

No one has hard conversations for fun. Most people are deeply uncomfortable with vulnerability, which is the heart of communication. So when someone chooses to bring something hard to you - a fear, a need, a hurt, a boundary they’re learning to name - it’s rarely about creating conflict.

It’s usually the opposite as hard conversations are a bid toward connection. A way of saying:

“I care enough about us to bring this forward.”
“I want to understand you, and you to understand me.”
“I’m choosing honesty over silence, even though silence would feel safer.”

Avoiding what’s real may feel easier in the moment,
but it slowly creates distance, resentment, confusion, assumptions, and unmet needs.

Naming what’s true , even when it’s messy or uncomfortable, is what allows repair, clarity, and growth.

Hard conversations aren’t a sign something is wrong.
They’re a sign someone wants to stay in it with you.
Because connection that’s safe and lasting is built on truth, not pretending.

Loneliness can show up in a quiet room, a crowded space, even beside someone who loves us. But what we do with that lone...
10/10/2025

Loneliness can show up in a quiet room, a crowded space, even beside someone who loves us. But what we do with that loneliness becomes a pathway towards deeper connection, or a hole we desperately try to fill.

When we meet loneliness with presence, it becomes an invitation: to have the hard conversation, to tend to our body, to put down our phone, to create, to express, to go outside, to feel connected again.

The more connected we are to ourselves, the less likely we are to numb away and abandon who we are around our feelings.

The less likely we are to outsource our worth, silence our needs, feel invisible when our needs aren’t met, or shrink to stay loved.

The less likely we are to cut off relationships the moment they are uncomfortable, avoid hard conversations, or blame/ yell/ attack instead of showing up more honestly.

We don’t cure loneliness by chasing connection, but by returning to the places within ourselves we have abandoned.

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