E-Motion Psychotherapy

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E-Motion Psychotherapy

Licensed marriage and family therapist Tory L. Eletto. LIV by E-Motion Psychotherapy is a located in Westchester and NYC.

We are dedicated to empowering individuals and their surrounding relationships. Our hope is to help foster growth, and teach you how to life the life you want. Liv, our Mind & Body Studio, is an addition that is unique and proactive. Our studio offers Yoga & Meditation, combined with insight, to truly embody overall well being.

10/29/2025

It’s beautiful to want to be deeply seen as that longing lives in all of us. But that need is also an invitation to practice deeply witnessing ourselves.

Notice your own effort. Your tenderness. The ways you keep showing up. See your growth. Witness your strength. Wholeheartedly honor your experience.

And from there, extend that same energy outward. See someone you love & time to truly see and express appreciation for them.

When we remember to become the one who sees,
we no longer chase feeling seen because we embody belonging.

10/28/2025

Intimacy isn’t built through constant agreement, it’s built through emotional honesty. We often mistake peace for connection, but peace without truth is suppression dressed up as harmony.

The highest form of intimacy is our truth, the kind when we are willing to be seen and known, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s saying, “This is what’s real for me,” without managing how it lands.

It’s showing the parts we’re afraid might be “too much” or “not enough,” and letting love meet us there. Truth allows us to trust that we can be ourselves and still belong. It’s the foundation for the connection we all deeply crave.

10/27/2025

Getting your needs met and outsourcing them can look similar, but one is rooted in self abandonment while the other is rooted in self connection.

🩷 Getting your needs met (rooted in self connection)
→ Self-awareness
→ Self-validation
→ Communication
→ Boundaries
→ Self Worth

💔 Outsourcing your needs
→ Over-focus on what others are doing or not doing
→ Seeking worth through their responses only
→ Self-abandoning when they can’t meet your needs
→ Hyper-fixating on them to avoid your own discomfort

The difference is ownership.
One creates belonging.
The other repeats abandonment.
One is dependent.
The other is rooted in self connection.

The biggest question is, when someone cannot meet you, can you still hold on to yourself?

10/23/2025

How someone ends things often mirrors how they showed up relationally. Avoiding discomfort, deflecting accountability, disappearing when things got real, are all a skill set that gets highlighted in the ending.

On the flip side, we think we’re chasing closure,
but often we’re continuing the same pattern that kept us stuck. The hyper focus on them versus being able to be with ourselves.

Closure requires presence, and if they couldn’t show up at the end, the presence it requires is from you. Presence around the truth, around the patterns that are being highlighted, around the clarity that forces you to stop abandoning yourself in the name of hope.

Now the relationship can do what all are meant to do - help us grow. Help us see. Help us reconnect more firmly within, and show up more fully with ourselves and others. Now the ending becomes your new beginning.

10/14/2025

When we feel unseen, we tend to move away from ourselves. Some of us retreat, avoid, or pull away, while others protest, demand, or fight to be seen.

Both are ways we try to protect ourselves, but both lead to the same place: disconnection. Because whether we shut down or yell, we lose touch with the part of us that actually needs care.

We can’t find safety in someone else’s reaction. We can’t find safety in hiding and shrinking. The real work begins when we turn inward with presence.

When we start to embody the safety and validation we’ve been seeking outside of us. Because when we can hold onto ourselves in that way, the energy shifts.
We can step forward with honesty and vulnerability, not from a charged place, but from a grounded one.

That’s the highest space for true connection.

10/13/2025

Emotional maturity is a daily practice.

It’s the soft, steady work of choosing awareness over impulse, accountability over blame, and presence over protection.

Emotional maturity is self trust in motion.

It’s how you notice your reaction instead of becoming it, how you hold on to your truth so there’s room for another’s, how you not only seek healing, but become it.

Emotional maturity allows you to carry your wounds so that you can operate from your values.

10/10/2025

Loneliness can show up in a quiet room, a crowded space, even beside someone who loves us. But what we do with that loneliness becomes a pathway towards deeper connection, or a hole we desperately try to fill.

When we meet loneliness with presence, it becomes an invitation: to have the hard conversation, to tend to our body, to put down our phone, to create, to express, to go outside, to feel connected again.

The more connected we are to ourselves, the less likely we are to numb away and abandon who we are around our feelings.

The less likely we are to outsource our worth, silence our needs, feel invisible when our needs aren’t met, or shrink to stay loved.

The less likely we are to cut off relationships the moment they are uncomfortable, avoid hard conversations, or blame/ yell/ attack instead of showing up more honestly.

We don’t cure loneliness by chasing connection, but by returning to the places within ourselves we have abandoned.

10/09/2025

Anxiety isn’t the enemy; it’s a messenger. But when we make calm the goal, we sometimes perform regulation by suppressing emotion, hiding, avoiding or doing everything we can to look okay.

But when self trust becomes the goal, the entire experience shifts. You stop trying to escape the sensations in your body, and you start learning how to stay with them. You begin to understand that activation isn’t danger, it’s a signal asking for care.

Self-trust sounds like:

“I can feel anxious and still be safe.”
“I can feel my heart race and still stay connected.”
“I can let the wave move through me without losing myself.”

That’s what healing actually is, not the elimination of anxiety, but the expansion of your ability to hold yourself through it. Real peace doesn’t come from never being activated, it comes from knowing that even when you are, you have your own back.

10/08/2025

Your body might protest when you start fully showing up & that’s okay. If peace used to mean self abandonment, authenticity will feel uncomfortable at first.

This is what healing looks like: staying with yourself long enough for your body to realize that being honest is safe now.

Remember you are not regressing, you are expanding. Keep going.

10/06/2025

Resilience isn’t about staying positive, it’s about learning to trust yourself to hold what hurts with gentleness, rather than control.

When your sense of safety depends on things going right, life will always feel fragile. But when your sense of safety lives inside you, everything shifts.

You begin to realize that resilience isn’t found in the absence of pain, but in the presence of self-trust.
It’s knowing: I can feel this. I can move through this. I don’t have to abandon myself to survive it.

That’s what makes you steady, not unbreakable, but rooted.Not untouched by life, but deeply connected to yourself through it. That’s resilience. That’s self-trust. That’s healing.

09/24/2025

Advice from other people is a useful tool, perspective, and mirror, but it is not a map. When you choose to follow your own truth, you likely will disappoint someone else’s expectations.

When advice feels like judgment, it always says more about the person giving it than the one receiving it. Their judgement is filtered through their own history, their own fears, and their own values.

What matters most is that you can listen outward without losing your ability to listen inward. To keep coming back home to your clarity, even when it shakes someone else’s comfort zone.

Remind yourself their certainty is not my clarity, and their opinions or judgment is not my truth. Each time you honor your path in the face of judgment, you build a deeper trust within, which allows you to walk your own unique path.

11/21/2024

I didn’t know how to honor who I was becoming because I was too caught up chasing who I thought I would be. I didn’t know how to listen to my body until I burnt out. I didn’t know how to understand my needs because I was busy comparing & judging my burn out.

I didn’t know how to connect to myself because I had so much to do. I didn’t know how to feel my emotions because I was to busy numbing to survive. I didn’t know how to take self accountability because I was so busy casting blame. I didn’t know what to do once I finally let myself feel it all.

I didn’t know the radical changes motherhood would have on my nervous system. I didn’t know that no matter how much support I received, I ultimately had to rediscover myself. I didn’t know that I would have to slow down in my career to really live the practices I taught.

I didn’t know how important that was to my soul. I didn’t know what it would do to our family financially. I didn’t know that all the healing I have already done wouldn’t save me from having to meet myself again. I didn’t know that healing was really just a way we choose to live.

I didn’t know, or maybe in the reverse, I knew too much. Sometimes that makes us blind to learning. To discovering. To leaning into the true unknown around being human. I don’t know what that means for me on here but I do know how grateful I am to have this space to show up on this human journey with you. Love to you all 🫶

Address

501 E Boston Post Road
Mamaroneck, NY
10543

Telephone

+19144973075

Website

https://tory-eletto.mykajabi.com/

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