E-Motion Psychotherapy

E-Motion Psychotherapy Licensed marriage and family therapist Tory L. Eletto. LIV by E-Motion Psychotherapy is a located in Westchester and NYC.

We are dedicated to empowering individuals and their surrounding relationships. Our hope is to help foster growth, and teach you how to life the life you want. Liv, our Mind & Body Studio, is an addition that is unique and proactive. Our studio offers Yoga & Meditation, combined with insight, to truly embody overall well being.

03/26/2026

Because it’s not about how well you understand yourself, it is about how you show up when it actually matters.

Healing isn’t a mood, it’s a practice. The messy middle, risky unknown, vulnerable hard stuff will always feel that way....
02/25/2026

Healing isn’t a mood, it’s a practice. The messy middle, risky unknown, vulnerable hard stuff will always feel that way. It’s when you learn to show up for yourself in it that’s healing. Where you learn to be present with your feelings instead of escaping them.

Where you learn to meet your shame instead of becoming it. Where you learn to be in fear, in resistance, and anxiety but it doesn’t dominate you.
Healing isn’t about feeling calm or secure during, that’s the outcome of it.

Not who you are on vacation, or who you are when everything feels aligned. Not who you are when you feel chosen and calm...
02/23/2026

Not who you are on vacation, or who you are when everything feels aligned. Not who you are when you feel chosen and calm, but who you are when you’re triggered. When you are misunderstood. When shame shows up.When your nervous system is loud.

That’s where your relational patterns are revealed. Emotional adulthood isn’t about avoiding tension.
It’s about learning to stay connected to yourself inside of it.

I told my husband last night that if we were dating in today’s world, I’m not sure we would have picked each other. I th...
02/13/2026

I told my husband last night that if we were dating in today’s world, I’m not sure we would have picked each other. I think we could have easily gotten scared about each other’s imperfections, and found enough content online to tell us to run.

Because even though I was already a therapist when we met, and he was already 30, we still had a lot of healing and growing to do. We still do, but we keep on evolving.. well, because relationships also are what help us grow.

There are parts of me I would have never fully met until he triggered them. Parts of him he would have never fully faced without me. And we weren’t this “oh thanks for being my mirror” couple from the beginning.

We power struggled. And we got stuck. And we broke up. But we came back. Not to repeat the same cycles, but to lean into them more honestly. To take full ownership of our own sides, our own work, our own stuff.

I remember when we got back together, I did not know if it was going to work. I knew we were both committed, we had both evolved, and we were both willing to show up. It was a feeling that he was meant for me and that is what I bet on.

I remember when we got married, I knew all of him. I knew the challenges, but I also knew were both willing to show up. I was able to choose him fully because of it.
Ten years later, he is the best human in my world.

I’m not fully healed and neither is he. There are still parts of me to discover, parts of him I’m excited to meet. Stages and circumstances we have yet to endure. But the journey together has been the best part of my life. I’m so glad I trusted my gut.

10 years of marriage be like… 🤪🤷🏼‍♀️🔥❤️👩🏼‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻We’ve been in love and we’ve been exhausted.We’ve been playful and sill...
02/12/2026

10 years of marriage be like… 🤪🤷🏼‍♀️🔥❤️👩🏼‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻

We’ve been in love and we’ve been exhausted.
We’ve been playful and silly, and we’ve been stretched thin. We’ve been deeply connected, and we’ve had moments where we had to work hard to find each other again.

We’ve been roommates and best friends. We’ve been tired parents and wildly magnetic together. We’ve been overwhelmed and overjoyed. We’ve been in sync and completely missing each other.

We’ve grown together, triggered each other, and healed parts of ourselves because of each other. There have been seasons where everything flowed,
and seasons where loving each other required intention, humility, and courage.

And still… we show up.

I wouldn’t want to do this life with any other person. I’m so grateful that no matter what season we’re in,
we always find our way back.

I love you deeply. The imperfect, lil bit avoidant, deeply loving, super sarcastic, dedicated father, whole human version of you. And as an unexpected bonus, you’ve aged like a fine wine. 🍷❤️ happy 10!

Big decisions rarely come with certainty because they come with vulnerability. With the unknown, the risk, and the expos...
02/11/2026

Big decisions rarely come with certainty because they come with vulnerability. With the unknown, the risk, and the exposure. With that quiet voice asking, “What if this is wrong?”

But alignment isn’t about guarantees, it’s about whether a choice reflects your values. It’s about the stretch being expansive, not constrictive.

How do you know if you are making a value based choice?

1. It feels stretchy, not avoidant.
2. It asks you to grow, not hide.
3. It moves you forward, not smaller.
4. It aligns with movement, not safety.
5. It comes with integrity, not relief.

Aligned choices can often feel scary, risky, and nerve wracking. Because all choices ask us to step into the unknown.

Just remember self trust isn’t about the outcome, it’s a reminder we will show up for ourselves no matter the outcome.

Blame gives our shame somewhere to go. It discharges the pain onto someone else when it feels too heavy to hold alone. A...
01/27/2026

Blame gives our shame somewhere to go. It discharges the pain onto someone else when it feels too heavy to hold alone. And honestly, it makes sense why we do it.

Anger moves and blame feels certain. Shame is different - it sits in the body and makes us feel small and vulnerable. Of course we push it outward, blame is protective.

But here’s the quiet cost: when we throw the pain away, we often throw away our agency too. Because if it’s all their fault, there’s nothing left for us to access, to learn, to change, or to grow.

Healing asks to feel the anger and to feel the shame. To stay curious about what’s happening inside us. To be able to hold someone accountable and gently ask ourselves, “what part of this belongs to me?”

Making new friendships as an adult has been one of the more humbling parts of my life. It’s brought up way more vulnerab...
01/24/2026

Making new friendships as an adult has been one of the more humbling parts of my life. It’s brought up way more vulnerability than I ever expected.

We assume friendship should be easier than romantic relationships, but friendships are attachments too. They can feel surprisingly tender because they touch in us the need to belong.

So of course it stings when plans change, when you feel left out, when the energy changes, or you don’t know where things stand. That’s not you being dramatic - that’s attachment.

Friendships aren’t casual to the body, they live in the same tender territory as love. Which means if friendship feels vulnerable, it’s because it matters.

The work isn’t avoiding that vulnerability but noticing how you show up inside it.

Do you shrink?
Pull away?
Judge yourself? Or others?
Cut people off to protect your pride?

Or can you learn to stay, soften, and hold yourself a little more gently in the tenderness of caring. In the unknown if someone wants to meet you there to.

Anything that touches our need to belong will always feel vulnerable, the work is learning to hold ourselves in that vulnerability and show up as our true self.

01/23/2026

FYI any time the word narcissism comes up, it can be activating. For many people, that word holds years of confusion, pain, and very real harm. So if you feel something stir, it makes sense.

To be so very clear - not centering her healing around Steven’s narcissism doesn’t mean we ignore it or minimize it. We absolutely acknowledge it. We process it. We validate it.

It means her healing isn’t analyzing him or studying him, but meeting the parts of her that are why she is repeating these patterns. That’s where you see wholehearted growth.

P.S. Would you want me to do one on Steven next? 😬

I’m no longer scared to be misunderstood because I deeply know who I am. I truly care when people feel hurt, but I reali...
01/23/2026

I’m no longer scared to be misunderstood because I deeply know who I am. I truly care when people feel hurt, but I realize I can’t create meaningful work from a place of fear or constant self-protection.

I know, especially with hot topics, that we don’t just hear what’s being said. That our nervous system tells us what it means. And suddenly we’re reacting to the meaning we attached through our filters, our wounds our fears, our history.

When we slow down and get curious about what was activated inside us, we understand ourselves more deeply. We don’t jump to shame, attack, or cut people off - we use activation as information.

That’s how we grow, that’s how we communicate, and that’s how we connect to ourselves and each other.
That’s why self attunement matters and why I teach this work so dearly.

It’s also why I don’t immediately block people from my page if they are activated, because I like to model this work from both sides. I really do believe we need spaces on the internet that are doing things differently. Thanks for being here

01/22/2026

I’m a therapist with a very sensitive nervous system. It makes me an incredibly skilled therapist but also someone who needs to intentionally and deeply care for myself - or else I would burn out.

I’m a mom with a very sensitive nervous system. It makes me attuned, and silly, and present - and can also make me overstimulated and overwhelmed. I need to intentionally and deeply care for myself or else I would be a very reactive mom.

I’m also a wife, a friend, a sister (I have many roles as I am sure you do too). I have my own pain, my own hardships, and also intentionally inform myself of the tragedies of the world. But I make sure to deeply care for myself - or else I would be a mess.

I don’t know how many roles you are holding, what personal hardships you might be navigating, or how the weight of the world’s tragedies land on you. But I do know that many people are very overwhelmed right now.

Please, please take care of yourself. With how you consume, how you process it all, and how you choose to advocate. There is no one way, or no right way, and anyone that claims there is - is likely feeling overwhelmed and in pain.

I hope to help contribute by using the gift I have- and that is what I will continue to do on here. Sending all of you a little extra warmth, love, and hope as you navigate it all too.

Loneliness can show up in a quiet room, a crowded space, even beside someone who loves us. But what we do with that lone...
10/10/2025

Loneliness can show up in a quiet room, a crowded space, even beside someone who loves us. But what we do with that loneliness becomes a pathway towards deeper connection, or a hole we desperately try to fill.

When we meet loneliness with presence, it becomes an invitation: to have the hard conversation, to tend to our body, to put down our phone, to create, to express, to go outside, to feel connected again.

The more connected we are to ourselves, the less likely we are to numb away and abandon who we are around our feelings.

The less likely we are to outsource our worth, silence our needs, feel invisible when our needs aren’t met, or shrink to stay loved.

The less likely we are to cut off relationships the moment they are uncomfortable, avoid hard conversations, or blame/ yell/ attack instead of showing up more honestly.

We don’t cure loneliness by chasing connection, but by returning to the places within ourselves we have abandoned.

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