E-Motion Psychotherapy

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E-Motion Psychotherapy

Licensed marriage and family therapist Tory L. Eletto. LIV by E-Motion Psychotherapy is a located in Westchester and NYC.

We are dedicated to empowering individuals and their surrounding relationships. Our hope is to help foster growth, and teach you how to life the life you want. Liv, our Mind & Body Studio, is an addition that is unique and proactive. Our studio offers Yoga & Meditation, combined with insight, to truly embody overall well being.

11/30/2025

Your nervous system is wired for protection, not appreciation. It scans what’s wrong, what’s missing, and focuses on when the other shoe will drop.

And gratitude isn’t forcing positivity, or a simple mindset change. It’s the practice of presence, to be able notice and soak up moment’s of joy in real time.

Grounding, slowing down, and being present teaches your system to be able to hold both truth and tenderness. Both ache and ease. Both pain and joy.

11/25/2025

Before we have the language or understand the patterns, our bodies feel the truth of a relationship.
That tension shows up and often impacts how we show up.

Sometimes we over explain, walk on eggshells, shrink, people please, react, or withdraw. But we don’t realize that the tension underneath is driving it all. That something within the dynamic is pressing against your nervous system, and your body is communicating.

That tension is the moment their limits start shaping what’s possible between in the relationship. When you can’t be honest without a fallout. When you can’t bring needs without criticism. When you can’t access closeness without chaos. When you can’t show your fullness without someone shutting down.

And so your system tightens, not out of weakness but out of awareness. Healing here isn’t about overriding that tension or convincing yourself the relationship should feel different. It’s how you slow down enough to notice the tension & make more conscious choices on how to meet it.

11/19/2025

I believe we evolve in stages. Unraveling depths of us that are meant to be revealed at different points of our lives. We shed, we return, we learn, we repeat, we forget, and we come back to ourselves more evolved.

40 feels like a giant exhale. Trusting my timing, my pauses, my capacity, my gifts. I no longer desperately seek, I pause, soften, and become it. I no longer chase connection; I allow others to be who they are because I’m deeply rooted in who I am.

I know who I really am. I like who I am. I’m messy. Loving. Human. Open hearted. I know what I value. I know how to come back home to myself when I lose my way. And I trust when I lose touch with myself again that whatever version of me is uncovered, I will embrace her wholeheartedly.

I feel grateful to age. Grateful for my life. Grateful for health. Grateful for my family, my husband, my friends, for all of you. I feel beuatifully grounded in my own becoming, and I can’t wait to share with you what’s next. Here’s to 40 🎉

11/13/2025

When we don’t feel safe to be seen in our full humanity (our needs, our imperfections, our longing, our mistakes) we protect ourselves by judging others for theirs.

We critique, gossip, judge to subconsciously create distance from our own vulnerability. Yes, I know, sometimes it feels like a means to connection, but it’s a surface level one.

The more we can accept all of who we are, the less we lead with being “better than”. Because the truth is the more gently we hold our own humanity, the more room we have for the humanity in others.

10/29/2025

It’s beautiful to want to be deeply seen as that longing lives in all of us. But that need is also an invitation to practice deeply witnessing ourselves.

Notice your own effort. Your tenderness. The ways you keep showing up. See your growth. Witness your strength. Wholeheartedly honor your experience.

And from there, extend that same energy outward. See someone you love & time to truly see and express appreciation for them.

When we remember to become the one who sees,
we no longer chase feeling seen because we embody belonging.

10/28/2025

Intimacy isn’t built through constant agreement, it’s built through emotional honesty. We often mistake peace for connection, but peace without truth is suppression dressed up as harmony.

The highest form of intimacy is our truth, the kind when we are willing to be seen and known, even when it’s uncomfortable. It’s saying, “This is what’s real for me,” without managing how it lands.

It’s showing the parts we’re afraid might be “too much” or “not enough,” and letting love meet us there. Truth allows us to trust that we can be ourselves and still belong. It’s the foundation for the connection we all deeply crave.

10/27/2025

Getting your needs met and outsourcing them can look similar, but one is rooted in self abandonment while the other is rooted in self connection.

🩷 Getting your needs met (rooted in self connection)
→ Self-awareness
→ Self-validation
→ Communication
→ Boundaries
→ Self Worth

💔 Outsourcing your needs
→ Over-focus on what others are doing or not doing
→ Seeking worth through their responses only
→ Self-abandoning when they can’t meet your needs
→ Hyper-fixating on them to avoid your own discomfort

The difference is ownership.
One creates belonging.
The other repeats abandonment.
One is dependent.
The other is rooted in self connection.

The biggest question is, when someone cannot meet you, can you still hold on to yourself?

10/23/2025

How someone ends things often mirrors how they showed up relationally. Avoiding discomfort, deflecting accountability, disappearing when things got real, are all a skill set that gets highlighted in the ending.

On the flip side, we think we’re chasing closure,
but often we’re continuing the same pattern that kept us stuck. The hyper focus on them versus being able to be with ourselves.

Closure requires presence, and if they couldn’t show up at the end, the presence it requires is from you. Presence around the truth, around the patterns that are being highlighted, around the clarity that forces you to stop abandoning yourself in the name of hope.

Now the relationship can do what all are meant to do - help us grow. Help us see. Help us reconnect more firmly within, and show up more fully with ourselves and others. Now the ending becomes your new beginning.

10/14/2025

When we feel unseen, we tend to move away from ourselves. Some of us retreat, avoid, or pull away, while others protest, demand, or fight to be seen.

Both are ways we try to protect ourselves, but both lead to the same place: disconnection. Because whether we shut down or yell, we lose touch with the part of us that actually needs care.

We can’t find safety in someone else’s reaction. We can’t find safety in hiding and shrinking. The real work begins when we turn inward with presence.

When we start to embody the safety and validation we’ve been seeking outside of us. Because when we can hold onto ourselves in that way, the energy shifts.
We can step forward with honesty and vulnerability, not from a charged place, but from a grounded one.

That’s the highest space for true connection.

10/13/2025

Emotional maturity is a daily practice.

It’s the soft, steady work of choosing awareness over impulse, accountability over blame, and presence over protection.

Emotional maturity is self trust in motion.

It’s how you notice your reaction instead of becoming it, how you hold on to your truth so there’s room for another’s, how you not only seek healing, but become it.

Emotional maturity allows you to carry your wounds so that you can operate from your values.

10/10/2025

Loneliness can show up in a quiet room, a crowded space, even beside someone who loves us. But what we do with that loneliness becomes a pathway towards deeper connection, or a hole we desperately try to fill.

When we meet loneliness with presence, it becomes an invitation: to have the hard conversation, to tend to our body, to put down our phone, to create, to express, to go outside, to feel connected again.

The more connected we are to ourselves, the less likely we are to numb away and abandon who we are around our feelings.

The less likely we are to outsource our worth, silence our needs, feel invisible when our needs aren’t met, or shrink to stay loved.

The less likely we are to cut off relationships the moment they are uncomfortable, avoid hard conversations, or blame/ yell/ attack instead of showing up more honestly.

We don’t cure loneliness by chasing connection, but by returning to the places within ourselves we have abandoned.

Address

501 E Boston Post Road
Mamaroneck, NY
10543

Telephone

+19144973075

Website

https://tory-eletto.mykajabi.com/

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