Becky Kronske LCPC

06/23/2022

06/15/2022

It is easy these days to become overloaded and constantly stressed. Remember to slow down. Slow down your mind. Slow down your body. Connect with nature. Take a walk. Take a breath. Just for a moment. Don't worry, the stress will wait for you.

12/31/2020

What else can be added to this list of healthy and unhealthy?

12/21/2020

Published my first book

You Are Your Soulmate: Choosing to love and accept all parts of yourself

10/24/2020

To all the ladies that struggle like I do

Learn which foods to avoid and which foods can help relieve pms symptoms naturally to make you feel better each cycle...

06/28/2020

Belief is half of all healing. How aware are you of your core beliefs?

06/05/2020

Highly recommended this!

Hello!  I'm really excited to share what I've been working on for the past few months.  I have teamed up with my friend and colleague Kaylee Johnson to create The Empowered Cycle to educate and encourage women to take control of their hormone health. An online course from The Empowered Cycle (Lain...

05/24/2020

"It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent; it is the one most adaptable to change.”
— Charles Darwin,

So many misunderstand Darwin. It's the most adaptable that survives. What do you think it takes to be the most "adaptable"? Not just physically but mentally? What's your level of resistance to opposing information? How well do you take information that contradicts your current beliefs? How dependent are you on solid ground? What happens when a possibility that strongly opposes your current beliefs is put in front of you? Do you shut down? Deny the possibility? Or do you surrender and explore? Do you really open up to the possibility that you know NOTHING? Scary right?

05/03/2020

Yes!

05/01/2020

You cannot move past what you have not accepted.

This world is a reflection of all that is within you. The moment you judge, reject, and shame what you see outside of yourself, you are not accepting what is actually inside of you. Many will read this, feel the resistance, and disagree with me. Where do you think you got your beliefs? Selfishness is bad, self-pity is bad, greed is bad, on and on. Someone or somethings taught us this. In these experiences, we learned that if I am "selfish", "greedy" "sorry for myself" so on, I will not be loved. The loss of love is a deep core fear for most if not all. Babies die if they are not loved even if they receive food and shelter. So we will push down and deny the parts of ourselves that we were told were unlovable. But, you cannot move past what you have not accepted. If you really want to see a world of peace and love, then it's time to accept the repressed parts of ourselves. The parts we were told are bad and unlovable. How do you find them? Watch your judgments. What we judge in others, we resist in ourselves.

04/30/2020

One of my favorites and a good reminder🤗

Great song from the French trio.

04/29/2020

When we are in survival mode (think fight or flight), we are in a state of selfishness. Because everything we do is in an attempt to feel better. Our focus is on self, not others. When we think it's on the other, it's only to elicit a response we believe we need to feel better. When we stop looking to others to feel better and instead put that responsibility on ourselves, by forgiving our humaness, allowing our feelings, and facing our fears, we find true freedom and move to true selflessness/no-self. Other becomes self and what is best for other is best for the self.

04/23/2020

Today's challenge.(as if you dont have enough!). Stop before you act. Ask yourself, what emotion is behind this action I am about to take? Is it anger, fear, shame? Or is kindness, compassion, empathy? Then ask yourself, what am I hoping the outcome will be from this action? Do I want another to feel or do a certain way or thing? Finally ask yourself is this action truly in alignment with your greatest self. Is this who you want to be?

What ever emotion you are responding from, you are going to create more of that emotion. When our top priority is to change others, we feel victimized when they dont change. But if your actions stem from being that which you desire. Acting in ways you are truly proud of, then there may be disappointment that your actions seemed to have no to little effect, but you walk away proud of yourself. Knowing you said and did what you needed to, for you. That is a huge win. Finally, using anger, guilt or shame against self or another, will not bring about kindness, love or understanding. Shaming yourself with not grow self love, peace and understanding. Neither will shaming others. Remember, acknowledging your feelings and acting on them are two very different things. This is not about supressing or denying your emotions. Its about choosing to not be a puppet to your emotions. Take the wheel, you are in charge. This is a huge challenge I'm giving you. It requires self awareness and total honesty. Think you're up for it?

04/21/2020

What if every truth was true. What reality would you prefer? Now ask your self what actions are you taking that do not reflect the reality you want? What action could you take today that does?

04/16/2020

SELF ABADONMENT. This is something we are all guilty of. You do it everytime you have an emotion you don't like and try to change your state of being. This is one if the core reasons for addiction. Doing an activity (shopping) or consuming something(food or drugs) to alter your current state of being. Even "healthy" activities (exercise) can be a form of self abandonment. Now I'm not saying you should sit in all your hurt and pain all the time, non stop. But if you constantly run away from yourself, you're actually just creating more pain. Your actions are basically stating conditional love. I'll only be with you if you are a certain way. So here is what I suggest. When you are having a strong negative emotion, identify it. Realize this emotion is not who you are, it is what you are experiencing and you are most likely experiencing it due to a past trauma (not good enough, rejection, etc). Tell that emotion, "of course I want you to feel better, but I know you have a valid reason for this experience. I and I am CHOOSING to love you unconditionally which means I will sit with you for as long as you need and feeling this emotion with you". Think of a small child who is hurt. What do you think would be better for the child? Get over this now. I don't want to be with you when you feel this way. OR I'm sorry you feel this way and I wish I could take it away for you, but I can't. What I can do is sit with you while you hurt and love you. For as long as you need. That is how important you are to me. I don't love you for your emotions, I love you for your existence.

04/15/2020

A meditation for today. Laughter is powerful. Today make time to laugh. Not a little giggle, but a big belly laugh. Watch something funny or just start laughing. Have someone join you. How ever you choose to do it, dedicate a good 5-10 mins to focusing on laughter. Then notice how you feel afterward. ❤

04/13/2020

Love and the Hero’s Journey

Love has been on my mind quite a bit lately. I think many, if not all of us, are seeking love. We can fall into the trap of doing and saying things that we believe will bring us love. But how many of us really know what love is? This makes me think of the hero’s journey. A term popularized by Joseph Campbell who I am a big fan of. We see the hero’s journey quite often in many of the movies we watch. To put it quickly and simply, there is a hero who is called to an adventure. The adventure is turned down due to fears that will be faced. The hero meets a mentor that gives him wisdom and insight. Giving the hero the push he needs to face the unknown. In this the hero is confronted with challenges as he has stepped into the unknown and unfamiliar and is failing at them miserably. This brings him to his inner most cave. He is confronted with his deepest fear. Most likely the very fear that caused him to not want to start the journey to begin with. Here there is what would be called the dark night of the soul. Death of the old for the new to be reborn. As the hero faces this fear and comes out the other side, he is rewarded with greater insight and knowledge, but his journey is not over. He is tested again, but this time with greater understanding, of himself and a higher cause. He is victorious over his challenges and fears, emerging with greater depth, growth, awareness and wisdom.

How does this all connect to love you ask? What is our desire? To experience love. We are being called to bring love to the world, but as we try to get love from others with approval and success, we can see that we are not bringing any love further into the world with this behavior. So, we start to face our deepest fear. What if I am unlovable? What if I don’t get to be loved? This leads to other deeper questions. Do I even know what love is? If I was receiving love, would I recognize it? Maybe my work here is not to receive love, but to bring love. Maybe when I bring love, I will begin to understand what love is. The death is surrendering your desire for love to a greater goal. I understand that I desire love and have been doing things in order to attain it. I surrender this behavior. I accept that I cannot force love to me. I see that maybe instead; I must first learn what love even is before I could ever receive it. If I am not familiar with love, how will I even recognize it? So, I put my desire aside for now. I have not pushed it away or denied it. I just see that I do not understand enough in order to fulfill that desire. In order to be able to see clearly what I want; I need to be familiar with what I am looking for. I can do this by giving love. Not giving love to get love but giving love to understand love.

How does the story end? I don’t know yet. We are all still on the hero’s journey. Exciting isn’t it?!

04/12/2020

We were all trained to be dissatisfied with ourselves. If you want to stop fearing the enemy without then you need to befriend the enemy within. There's an old African proverb, "when there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm.”

04/11/2020

How to discover root cause of emotions and heal them

04/11/2020

Albert Einstein said "no problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." So how do we change our level of consciousness? With acceptance. Radical acceptance might be a better way to state it. (Term coined by Marsha Linehan) Acceptance is neither resignation nor powerlessness. Instead of saying "no" to what is happening, you say "yes". Instead of saying "this isn't fair, I don't want this, why me"? Try saying "I may not like this, but it has happened. It is. I'm in this situation". This small yet radical shift of perspective changes your state of consciousness and will open you up to new ideas, solutions and choices.

04/10/2020

Here's a passage from a book I'm reading. Read it and notice your response. Let me know what you think.

Addicted love
How can you love people when you need people? You can only use them. If I need you to make me happy, I've got to use you, I've got to manipulate you, I've got to find ways and means of winning you. I can not let you be free.

Awareness Anthony De Mello

04/09/2020

If you have not read these series of books I highly recommend. You can find all three on youtube for free. Personally I prefer to read, but I thoroughly enjoyed listening to this series. Neale Walsh has another book I highly recommend as well, home with God. If you're not familiar with Neale's story and how he got to writing these books, that too is an interesting story.

04/08/2020

Timely video, well worth watching!! I highly recommend watching all of Anthony Chene's videos.

Chris Kito explains how his near-death experience happened, and to what extent it has changed his vision of life and death. http://www.anthonychene.com https...

04/07/2020

Just wanted to throw out a breathing tool to you all that you might find useful when anxious. It's call voo breathing. Take a nice deep breath in thru your nose and when you breath out say vooooooooooooooooo... On your entire breath out. Deep breath in and again voooooooooooooooo. Go ahead and do it one more time. Sound is powerful and the voo sound vibrates your diaphragm and vagus nerve letting your system know to calm down.

04/05/2020

I'm curious, if I offered my services for free, what you would you be interested in receiving?

04/04/2020

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03/28/2020

I was observing myself in meditation, watching how easily I am adapting to a life of isolation. Those who really know me know how much of an introvert I am. I have found myself loving this social distancing, surrounded only by my loved ones and all other contact through a computer screen. As I watch...

03/27/2020

Yes. This❤

An Empowering Message to Humanity from Ayahuasca

03/27/2020

If you want to get your brain right and your mind right, it is imperative to regulate your body’s production of insulin and to stabilize blood sugar levels.

03/26/2020

Its even more important to take care of yourselves during times of high stress!!

Researchers have found fish oil can help kick bad sugar habits.

03/25/2020

I feel like I'm in a bad episode of the walking dead. I stopped watching the walking dead around the second season or so because I found it so sad that this horrible virus hits humanity and instead of people uniting, they split and fight each other. So I turned it off. I can't turn it off now. Sure I can turn off social media, but it's still right outside my door. And sticking my head in the sand is not going to help me open my eyes. So I sit with it instead. I'm look at the world fighting and I observe what it brings up in me. Anger. I feel anger at the judgement. I feel anger at the lack of compassion, I feel anger at the closed mindedness. Then I hear a small child inside of me screaming, "WHY DONT YOU LOVE ME!?" There it is. There's my wound. My inner wounded child who just wants to be loved and accepted for who she is, flaws and all. I see her holding her scraped up knee as she is getting a lecture for being so stupid for getting hurt. Its pain upon pain. "Why don't you love me?" I take her in my arms and ask forgiveness. I tell her I'm so sorry I have been ignoring her. She shows me that she feels like she can do nothing right. She is frozen in fear. For any move might mean rejection again. She has felt so alone and like a failure for existing. I just witness her pain. I let her know I see this has been her experience. I just allow her to express. I don't argue or tell her she's wrong. I just apologize that she ever had to feel this. Then I bring her with me out of that loop of hell. No more lectures. No more earning love. I feel overwhelming love for her and I share this with her, like she shared her pain with me. She is relieved. She asks me to just hold her in my arms forever. As I hold her I look at the World again. This time I see so many wounded children, crying, "why don't you love me". I get it. No more lectures for scraping your knee. Im so sorry you are all hurting. Im so sorry you are frozen in fear. I see you.

03/24/2020

As you heal and become whole, you don't experience more positive, you become less fearful of the negative. Integration is the acceptance of that which we fear and resist within our selves. Then the energy once spent on resistance, can now be spend on that which you enjoy.

03/22/2020

A tool to help separate yourself from your emotions

03/20/2020

Low-quality “foods” are destroying the brain health of America. Being in love with something that hurts you is an abusive relationship.

03/14/2020

Breath, listen, honor. Times like these are opportunities to become more aware of ourselves and the parts that need more love. When we are not in our best state, we need more love, not less. Shame, blame and anger has not and will not heal. It will not heal you or anyone you project it on. When you feel those emotions come up, don't try and suppress them, make space for them. They come from within, they are not created from our external world. What we see happening right now are exposed emotions that have long been simmering in our collective. You do have a choice on how to define this experience. As Einstein put it, one of the most important CHOICES we will ever make is this a friendly universe or a hostile universe. You will experience whatever you choose. Awareness is the first step, we cannot change what we are not aware of. So breath and look within. See your fears, anger and sadness as small children that just want love and validation. As you see the parking lots full of people and the shelves of stores empty, see how this is the response of scared children feeling unsupported. Is holding toilet paper going to fix that? No of course not. But neither will shame or blame. The first step is practicing compassion for yourself. We cannot be of service to others when in our own internal crisis. There is very little that can be controlled at the moment. This is scary. You are at a crossroads. Either respond on your fear, or sit with that fear as if it was a small child. Let it share with you it's fear. Validate the fear. This is scary! No, you actually can't promise it will all be ok, because you don't know that for sure. But you can promise to not abandon yourself in this time of fear. You can promise to hold your fearful child's hand and ride this crazy ride with them. I don't know when it's going to end or how it will end, but it will end. Then from that calm state of surrender, we can come from a place of compassion. This is where change will be created. To quote Einstein again, we cannot solve a problem from the same state it was created. ❤

03/08/2020

Choosing to love all parts of yourself, light and dark, is no different than entering into the commitment of marriage. You don't take those vows just once. You take those vows everyday in every moment. If you are willing to do that for another, what is stopping you from doing that for yourself?