Grounded Birth Doula CT - Doula Jordana Frost

12/17/2022

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You are not a milk factory. As you feed, your child's heart rate slows, their attachment hormones spike, their microbiome is nourished and their brain falls into a deep, restorative calm, much like adult brains do during meditation.⁠
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Suckling causes oxytocin release in both mother and child, promoting a felt sense of wellbeing, safety, love and contentment. ⁠
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Oxytocin lowers blood pressure and stress reactivity in mothers. In infants, oxytocin increases resilience to stress and drives the formation of more oxytocin receptors in the amygdala (for healthy social behaviour and a lowered risk for anxiety). ⁠
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Simultaneous oxytocin release, repeated over time, changes both mother and infant brains, in ways that underpin long term attachment and synchronicity. It literally rewires brains in favour of love and wellbeing.⁠
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You are not a milk factory.⁠ You are a retreat, a safe space, a perfect tonic.⁠
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You are laying the foundations of long term wellbeing with every feed. ⁠
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You are a hero.⁠

⁠incredible words by

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09/19/2022

Such a true and important reminder. Hold and care for the mother during those initial raw weeks postpartum. 💗 It gets better and easier over time, but it can be so hard at first… you’ve got this, Mama. I see you.

Hold the mother, not the baby.⁣
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Because the baby’s being taken care of—⁣
fed, snuggled, and given all the love in the world—⁣
by not only the mother,⁣
but her partner, grandparents, siblings, cousins, and friends.⁣
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But the mother,⁣
may have gaps in her mind from lack of sleep,⁣
may be mechanical in her motions as she’s healing,⁣
may feel more like a mess than a mother,⁣
may be sitting in bed, crying, feeling overwhelmed in her body and life,⁣
may be full of mom guilt because in her mind, "she's not good enough,"⁣
and she’s bleeding, wincing in pain, swollen and emotional.⁣
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And the mother’s that baby's whole world and needs to be seen, so she doesn't disappear into that postpartum fog.⁣
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So, hold the mother, not the baby.⁣
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A mother agrees that her baby matters more.⁣
But she’s hurting, while she’s the person behind the baby,⁣
in the background, making it all happen:⁣
feeding her baby at all hours,⁣
snuggling her baby close to comfort newborn cries,⁣
and being that baby’s everything.⁣
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So, it’s the mother who needs your love.⁣
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And a mother will remember who held her up.⁣
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So instead of “I’m coming to see the baby,”⁣
try saying, “I’m coming to see you 𝘢𝘯𝘥 meet the baby, too.”⁣
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Because the mother needs to be held more.⁣
📸: This Mama Doodles
Words: Living FULL

08/21/2022

Dear Men,

Remember how beautiful, smooth, and sculpted her body was at the beginning of your marriage.

She is still the same beautiful woman with the same spirit that you have always loved.

The difference is that she gave your children life.

The price for that was the loss of the body she once had.

Do not complain about your wife because her fat increased and do not think that she likes it!

A mother's affection makes her turn a blind eye to all of that and her only concern is her children and your happiness.

Remember that this tummy was once the warm home that hugged your children for 9 months with all their pain, fatigue, and weight, to seal them until childbirth.

A thousand hearts to all the Mothers.💕

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08/15/2022

Such a sweet reminder of the precious bond that nursing creates. 💗