Building Pathways Counseling Services

09/08/2024

*Solution-finding
*Semantics matter
I do agree with the use of the word ‘invite’, but even that somehow implies a passiveness on the part of the client. I learned years ago from you guys at BRIEFand Dr. Linda Metcalf that change started the moment the client picked up the phone and scheduled an appointment. That choice is very active on the part of the client. No passivity. No invitation necessary. You all taught me that my job is just to facilitate. The metaphor I imagine is that I put “snacks” (my questions/observations/reflections) on my table. I put them out there. It’s totally up to my ‘guests’ if they pick them up. You are the masters and I am glad to have learned from you and now walk along the road you path.

07/04/2024

Sometimes, we need to think of this over and over again. ESPECIALLY, when things get really really hard.

07/04/2024

I LOVE when things are going well for my clients! That’s got to be one of the best feelings in life.❤️

02/15/2024

Love Wins ❤️

02/03/2024

11/17/2023

I walked out of my garage this morning to get in my car and head to my office. For some reason, I was struck by this beautiful scene. I wonder how often I just stop and am present in moments like this? Probably not often enough. How about you?

11/06/2023

World kindness day. Spread it like wildflower seeds.❤️

11/04/2023

I just wish we could all get along and respect each others’ opinions. No one is going to change someone else’s mind. If we stop trying, we might be able to have peaceful coexistence. People can believe different things and still be friends. Just sayin’. Here’s a cute picture of a Spanish rooster for your enjoyment. 😀

11/01/2023

Who do you carry on the back of your bicycle? Enjoy the ride.
❤️Find the Joy

10/21/2023

I tell my clients that come in for couple’s counseling that some of the most important things to remember is that Commitment Is a choice. Honoring vows is a choice. Choose each other every day.

10/21/2023

https://fb.watch/nOZW6m3tOY/?mibextid=oUgV5P

10/19/2023

Years ago, anthropologist Margaret Mead was asked by a student what she considered to be the first sign of civilization in a culture. The student expected Mead to talk about fishhooks or clay pots or grinding stones.
But no. Mead said that the first sign of civilization in an ancient culture was a femur (thighbone) that had been broken and then healed. Mead explained that in the animal kingdom, if you break your leg, you die. You cannot run from danger, get to the river for a drink or hunt for food. You are meat for prowling beasts. No animal survives a broken leg long enough for the bone to heal.
A broken femur that has healed is evidence that someone has taken time to stay with the one who fell, has bound up the wound, has carried the person to safety and has tended the person through recovery. Helping someone else through difficulty is where civilization starts, Mead said."
We are at our best when we serve others. Be civilized.
- Ira Byock.

10/17/2023

In this industry, people see your feet. I believe my shoe game is strong!