02/04/2026
Such a powerful post to meet self with grace, tenderness, and patience while engaging in the healing journey.
Healing isn’t one voice.
It’s a negotiation.
Your inner child is terrified and just wants to feel safe again.
Your inner teenager is furious and wants someone—anyone—to be held accountable.
And your adult self is exhausted and just wants some damn peace.
So when healing feels messy…
When you’re crying one day, rage-texting in your head the next, and numb the day after—
you’re not “regressing.”
You’re integrating.
Healing isn’t linear because you’re not one person.
You’re a whole system trying to come back into balance.
The work isn’t silencing the scared part.
It isn’t shaming the angry part.
And it isn’t bypassing everything just to “be mature.”
Real healing is learning how to hold all of you at once—
to create safety without self-abandonment,
to honor your anger without letting it run your life,
and to choose peace without pretending nothing hurt.
If you’re tired, it doesn’t mean you’re failing.
It means you’ve been doing deep work.
And deep work is heavy before it’s freeing.