03/24/2025
I am sure y’all have heard about the Netflix series Adolescence. It is a powerful and unsettling reminder of the challenges today’s teenagers face, particularly in the digital age. It highlights how isolation, a lack of guidance, and exposure to harmful online influences can lead young people down dangerous paths. As a parent, it’s important to recognize the key messages from the show and consider how they apply to real life.
I strongly recommend watching this if you’re raising children. While it’s primarily focused on young boys, its message applies to all kids. Be aware that there is strong language, so choose an appropriate viewing space. Even if you don’t watch the full series, I encourage you to at least watch the last 20 minutes of the final episode, where parents reflect on the warning signs they missed.
One of the biggest takeaways is the importance of parental involvement in a teenager’s life. The series suggests that when a strong, supportive parental presence is missing- it can leave adolescents vulnerable to seeking connection and identity elsewhere, sometimes in harmful places. While every family dynamic is different, Adolescence reinforces the idea that parents need to be engaged, available, and proactive in their child’s life. This doesn’t mean being overly controlling, but rather taking an active interest in their thoughts, struggles, and social influences. Even simple daily conversations can make a difference in ensuring a teen feels seen and heard.
The show also sheds light on the dangers of online radicalization and negative digital influences. In today’s world, social media and online forums expose teenagers to all kinds of content—some of which can manipulate their emotions, exploit their insecurities, or push them toward extremist views. Adolescence serves as a wake-up call for parents to be aware of what their children are consuming online. Fostering open conversations about online safety, critical thinking, and emotional resilience is key. Helping teens develop a strong sense of self-worth and guiding them toward positive communities can counteract the lure of harmful digital spaces. And yes- it’s okay to restrict access… it is going to make you the “strict parent” but 8-10 year olds should not have full access to internet.
Another crucial lesson from the show is understanding the signs of emotional distress and seeking help early. The protagonist, Jamie, is clearly struggling, but the warning signs are either ignored or misunderstood by the adults around him. This highlights the need for parents to pay attention to behavioral changes—withdrawal, anger, secrecy, or a sudden shift in interests. If something feels off, addressing concerns early and providing access to counseling or mentorship can prevent bigger issues down the road.
Parents don’t need to have all the answers, but they do need to be present, engaged, and willing to have difficult conversations. By fostering open dialogue, setting healthy boundaries, and creating a supportive home environment, parents can help their teens navigate the challenges of adolescence in a way that promotes resilience, confidence, and positive decision-making.
It is not healthy for your child to lock themselves away in their rooms. Even if it’s “kids these days”- It shouldn’t be.
It is not healthy for your children to be more active online than real life.
It is not safe for your child to have unmonitored access to online content and unsafe spaces.
It is not healthy for your child to have no reassurance, guidance, or active positive role models.
It is not okay If you don’t know what your child is experiencing at school. You’re their parent.
Kids learn from watching the adults around them. Be physically and emotionally available. Kids need us.
I am very aware that I am a very direct and to the point counselor. I care deeply about your child’s wellbeing, I care enough to have direct and uncomfortable conversations. Let’s work together to heal our children. 💛
