07/04/2025
When a narcissistic guy who is an underachiever gets with a strong, independent woman, I call it *the male lion routine*. At first, he’ll appear proud to be by her side—he’ll praise her accomplishments, admire her ambition, and act like he’s impressed by her drive. But underneath that charm is entitlement and insecurity. He doesn’t actually admire her success—he wants to *leech off it*.
He uses her strength as his own armor. Her accomplishments become his bragging rights. He starts inserting himself into her achievements, taking credit where it’s not due, and positioning himself as the reason she’s thriving. Slowly, what was once “hers” now becomes “theirs”—but really, it becomes *his*. Her income, her home, her connections, her energy—all tools to elevate his image. He wants people to think, *"Look how valuable I must be if someone like her chose me."*
But behind closed doors, it shifts. The compliments fade. The subtle digs begin. He'll mock her independence, undermine her decisions, and plant seeds of self-doubt. Why? Because her strength threatens his fragile ego. He doesn't want to rise to her level—he wants to drag her down to his.
A woman in the comments perfectly called him *“The Lyin’ King.”* Not just because of his deception, but because of the false narrative he builds—one where he’s the king of the pride, when in reality, he’s living off someone else’s hunt.
These men don’t want strong women. They want what strong women *can do for them.*