Melora Moore, LCSW

06/26/2025

Check out these conversation starters from my May newsletter — designed to help couples slow down, tune in, and reconnect emotionally (without it feeling like work).

💌 My June Better Together newsletter drops this Friday!
Each month, I send out 3 thoughtful talking points straight to your inbox—meant to spark deeper connection in the middle of real life.

👉 Tap the link in my bio to subscribe. Your relationship deserves moments that matter.

05/13/2025

Why I Created the Better Together Newsletter”

✨ Not every couple is ready for therapy.
✨ Not every struggle is visible.
✨ But every relationship deserves support.

I created the Better Together Newsletter because I want to offer something beyond the therapy room—something accessible, honest, and real for anyone in a relationship.

As a therapist—and more importantly, as a partner—I know that even the strongest relationships can have hard days. Days where it feels disconnected, tense, or lonely.

I want you to know:
You’re not alone.

So many couples silently carry the same questions:

Is it supposed to feel this hard sometimes?

Why do we get stuck in the same arguments?

Are we the only ones feeling this way?

You're not. Truly.

This newsletter is a place where I’ll share gentle encouragement, emotional insight, and simple steps to help you reconnect with the person who matters most.

It’s not therapy.
It’s thoughtful, grounded support for real relationships.
And the first edition goes out soon. 💌

Want in?

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05/04/2025

✨ Something new is on the way...

For anyone who’s ever said, “I just need a little encouragement and emotional clarity,” I’ve created something with you in mind.

The Better Together Newsletter launches May 9—offering reflections on emotional health, relationship insight, and grounded inspiration.

Want to be one of the first to receive it? Sign up now.

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05/03/2025

✨ Something new is on the way...
💛 We are wired for connection. But in the rush of life, it’s easy to feel untethered.

That’s why I created the Better Together Newsletter—a monthly dose of grounded reflection, emotional insight, and practical tools to help you stay connected to yourself and the people you love.

The first edition goes out May 9, and I’d love to share it with you.

📬 Sign up today and join a growing circle of people who believe that emotional wellness is worth tending.

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06/06/2024

“Let’s slow down here, I have a feeling this is important.”

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06/06/2024

I use EFT in all client work. Whether you are a couple, family or individual. It spans all areas of work in therapy. I love that about EFT.

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05/01/2024

I am so excited to share that my practice is growing and I am looking forward to offering two new services.

• Walk & Talk Therapy - Session options available in the morning to get your day started. And lunch break sessions. Walking can be based on your personal fitness level needs.

• Family Therapy - I love working with clients using Emotionally Focused Therapy. I desire to grow my client base of family clients to continue to incorporate this dynamic model in my work with families.

Reach out to schedule your session or set up a consult to discuss how these services can benefit you.

04/17/2024

Your most important relationship is worth it.

🔗 Building a strong connection with your partner? Couple therapy can be a game-changer! 🌟

Ever wondered how couples therapy works to strengthen bonds and enhance understanding? It's not about placing blame, but about creating a safe space to communicate, understand each other's perspectives, and develop healthier ways to relate.

Here's how it helps:

1️⃣ Improved Communication: Learn to express feelings and concerns effectively.
2️⃣ Enhanced Understanding: Gain insights into each other's needs, fears, and desires.
3️⃣ Conflict Resolution: Develop strategies to resolve disagreements constructively.
4️⃣ Deepened Connection: Reconnect emotionally and reignite the spark in your relationship.

Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. If you're looking to build a better connection with your partner, couple therapy could be the key! 🗝️❤️

04/17/2024

Please, don’t silence them. I know it feels hard to see our kids express big emotions. They need a soft place to fall not a brick wall of “stop”.

Expressing emotions freely is a particularly hard concept to accept, especially for those of us who felt it was easier to keep our emotions tucked away when we were kids. But this challenges us to think about things differently now that we're parents—to see emotions as a reflection of what's going on inside, and the importance of creating a safe space to express them in a healthy way.

For those of you who are feeling the tension of approaching emotional expression in a way that's different from how you were raised, we see you. We commend you for doing this hard, yet important work.

04/15/2024

Just had a conversation similar to this is a session today.

Watering the plant with gasoline = thinking you’re working on the relationship (watering the plant) by telling your partner what they need to do differently, sending messages that they’re the real problem and that you “wouldn’t have to” blame, protest, get escalated, *enter any other ineffective behavior here*, if they would just change. Thinking you’re working on the relationship by accepting your part vaguely, but when pinned down you’re very committed to protesting, blaming, criticizing because you really do think your partner is the main problem and that you’re justified to react to their ineffective behaviors in any way that helps you feel comfortable in the moment.

Telling your partner they should just be happy = avoiding responsibility for your part by sending messages to your partner they’re too much, that they’re being irrational, that they have unrealistic expectations, etc. Protecting yourself from conflict or from feeling like a relationship failure by trying to get your partner to see things differently, at the expense of addressing real problems.

Neither approach is better or worse than the other. They are different manifestations of the same root problem… insecure attachment.

How to get out of these stuck places? Lots of insight, advice, and scripts on this account to help with that. Start with my “start here” highlight….or for a deeper dive you can get my book “Secure Love.”

Anxious partners: please no lashing out against those with avoidant attachment in comments. Use your urge to lash out as an opportunity to feel your feelings instead of acting them out in comments. This is a safe space for all, and I’ll have to remove anyone from the account who isn’t willing to help me with that.

04/10/2024

Works every time. I do this with my clients as a part of my work as an Emotionally Focused Therapist. When I started to apply this to my parenting and the way I interact with my kids, changed the relationship with my kids.

Re: my last post, one of the most supportive things you can do for another human is allow a safe environment for them to feel & be where they are emotionally, without trying to fix or change anything. And one way you can do that is by helping people name how they're feeling in a validating and non-judgmental way.

This can help all of us learn to be with our feelings with less judgment, and to allow ourselves to feel so that we can move through & learn from our feelings, instead of internalizing or projecting them.

When we're upset, we're often not just feeling one feeling. Feelings can be layered and complicated, especially because many of us resist certain feelings we've been shamed out of at some point in our lives, so we instead opt to express in a way that we've learned is more socially acceptable.

For example, I may feel deeply sad but if I've been shamed out of crying, I might continue to say it's not a big deal and hold back the tears that are begging to be released in an attempt to look strong, or to downplay what's actually coming up for me.

So when you're holding space for another, it can be incredibly helpful to mirror back what you notice them experiencing.

"Wow, that sounds super disheartening. It's okay if you're feeling disappointed."

"It sounds like that was really painful to experience."

"It makes sense to me that you'd be angry! I know how much effort you put into that."

For many of us, it can be hard to name what exactly what we're feeling, but when someone else can accurately name the thing that's going on inside of us, it touches on something; it validates the feeling, allows it, and makes it safer for it to exist.

And simply allowing ourselves to feel what we need to feel can help us calm our nervous system to help us be present with the feeling so that we can better move through it.

This also gives them the opportunity/space to say, "actually, that's not quite it...it's more like this." which can be very helpful, too, especially for external processors.

New dates are up for the next Let It Go (emotional self management) Workshop! When you get better at holding healthy space for yourself and your feelings, it becomes the natural next step to offer this compassionate space to others.
Register with code EARLYBIRD75 to save $75 before April 17th.

https://theeqschool.co/let-it-go-workshop