Monica Loren Transformation & Relationship Coaching, Marina del Rey, CA (2025)

10/14/2025

The Power of Presence

Becoming the Masculine Anchor for the Feminine

The feminine doesn’t need you to fix her.
She needs to feel you.
Your presence.
Your grounded breath.
Your ability to stay when emotions rise.

This is what creates trust.
This is what makes her body exhale.
This is what opens love.

When a woman feels you. Truly feels you. She relaxes into her natural essence.
She softens.
She opens.
She becomes radiant.

And you… become grounded, powerful, and deeply connected to your masculine core.

What It Means to Be the Masculine Anchor

To be the anchor means you are steady in your nervous system.
You breathe through intensity instead of reacting.
You listen without fixing.
You hold space without trying to control.

Your presence becomes the container where her emotions can move and release.
Not because you’re trying to manage her,
but because your groundedness communicates:
“You are safe here.”

Why This Matters

The feminine heart blossoms in safety, not logic.
When she feels held, she trusts.
When she trusts, she opens.
And when she opens, intimacy deepens, polarity strengthens, and love flows freely.

Your presence becomes the bridge between her chaos and her calm.

How to Cultivate This Presence

1️⃣ Regulate your nervous system.
Ground yourself daily through breath, stillness, and embodiment.

2️⃣ Listen without fixing.
Let her words and emotions move through you. Reflect, don’t react.

3️⃣ Stay connected to your body.
Your body is the anchor, not your mind.

4️⃣ Practice stillness.
Presence isn’t passive. It’s powerful, rooted awareness.

When you master this art, you don’t just hold her,
you liberate her.

This is the sacred role of the masculine:
to create safety, presence, and stability that allows love to expand.

🔥 Ready to embody the kind of presence that makes her feel safe, seen, and open?
Get The Power of Presence workbook today and begin mastering the art of emotional depth and masculine leadership. Link in bio.

10/08/2025

When someone cannot own their inner experience they avoid shame and vulnerability by pushing their uncomfortable feelings out onto others. This is called projection. It’s a defense mechanism that protects them from feeling the pain, but it keeps them stuck and often creates confusion, tension, and emotional chaos in relationships.

When you understand what’s actually happening, you stop taking it personally and start seeing the truth: this is a wounded child reacting from pain.

Signs someone is projecting their pain onto you
✨ They blame others for how they feel instead of naming their emotions and needs
✨ They react with defensiveness when invited to reflect or apologize
✨ They use statements that start with “you” and end with accusation
✨ They deny or minimize your experience when you share it
✨ They repeat the same story where they are the victim and others are the cause
✨ They withdraw, punish, or shut down instead of staying open to repair
✨ They have little curiosity about their triggers or emotional reactions

Why this happens
It often comes from deep shame, fear of vulnerability, and early experiences where emotional responsibility wasn’t modeled. Many grew up in environments where admitting fault or feeling emotions wasn’t safe, so blame became a survival strategy. Underneath that pattern is a part of them that feels helpless, unseen, or terrified of rejection.

When you can see them through the lens of a wounded inner child, compassion naturally arises. You begin to recognize that the person in front of you is reacting from unhealed pain.
You can hold compassion without excusing the behavior.
You can see their hurt while still holding your boundaries.

This is where your power lies. You stop being pulled into their emotional storm and start staying anchored in your truth.

✨ You’re ready to make a high-level investment in yourself because you know your healing and growth are worth it
🌀 You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone
🔥 You’re fully committed to doing the deep inner work no more surface-level fixes or bypassing
💌Send me a message for 1:1 Transformation

10/08/2025

When someone cannot own their inner experience they avoid shame and vulnerability by pushing their uncomfortable feelings out onto others. This is called projection. It’s a defense mechanism that protects them from feeling the pain, but it keeps them stuck and often creates confusion, tension, and emotional chaos in relationships.

When you understand what’s actually happening, you stop taking it personally and start seeing the truth: this is a wounded child reacting from pain.

Signs someone is projecting their pain onto you
✨ They blame others for how they feel instead of naming their emotions and needs
✨ They react with defensiveness when invited to reflect or apologize
✨ They use statements that start with “you” and end with accusation
✨ They deny or minimize your experience when you share it
✨ They repeat the same story where they are the victim and others are the cause
✨ They withdraw, punish, or shut down instead of staying open to repair
✨ They have little curiosity about their triggers or emotional reactions

Why this happens
It often comes from deep shame, fear of vulnerability, and early experiences where emotional responsibility wasn’t modeled. Many grew up in environments where admitting fault or feeling emotions wasn’t safe, so blame became a survival strategy. Underneath that pattern is a part of them that feels helpless, unseen, or terrified of rejection.

When you can see them through the lens of a wounded inner child, compassion naturally arises. You begin to recognize that the person in front of you is reacting from unhealed pain.
You can hold compassion without excusing the behavior.
You can see their hurt while still holding your boundaries.

This is where your power lies. You stop being pulled into their emotional storm and start staying anchored in your truth.

✨ You’re ready to make a high-level investment in yourself because you know your healing and growth are worth it
🌀 You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone
🔥 You’re fully committed to doing the deep inner work no more surface-level fixes or bypassing
💌Send me a message.

10/06/2025

Go where you are celebrated.

Stop trying to prove your worth to people who can’t fully see you.
Your energy isn’t meant to be explained. It’s meant to be felt.

When you stay in spaces where your light isn’t received, you start dimming yourself just to belong.
And that’s the very thing that keeps you disconnected from your true power.

When you begin honoring where your energy naturally expands, everything changes.
You stop chasing validation.
You start radiating confidence.
You become magnetic to people who meet you with presence and appreciation instead of resistance or projection.

Going where you’re celebrated isn’t about seeking constant praise.
It’s about choosing environments and relationships that honor your essence.
It’s about surrounding yourself with people who value your presence, not just your usefulness.
People who see your potential and call it forward.
People who don’t need you to shrink in order to feel safe.

When you release the spaces that drain you, you create room for the ones that amplify you.
Energy expands where it is welcomed.
The more you honor that truth, the more aligned relationships, opportunities, and love begin to flow toward you.

You don’t have to work hard to be understood.
You simply have to stop going where your soul contracts.

Go where your energy is met.
Go where your heart opens.
Go where you are celebrated.

If you’re tired of overgiving, trying to fit in, or being misunderstood, and you’re ready to attract relationships and opportunities that truly meet you where you are…

This work isn’t for everyone.
It’s only for you if you’re truly ready to go all in on your healing and transformation.

You’re ready to make a high-level investment in yourself because you know your healing and growth are worth it.
You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone.
You’re fully committed to doing the deep inner work—no more surface-level fixes or bypassing.

If you’re reading this and feeling a full-body yes…
If you’re truly ready, committed, and willing to invest in your transformation,
Send me a message. Let’s talk about what’s possible when you say yes to your healing.

09/30/2025

How Unprocessed Trauma Impacts Your Relationships

Most people think their struggles in relationships come from bad timing or picking the wrong partner. The truth is much deeper. Unprocessed trauma lives inside your body and nervous system. It shapes the way you show up in love, the way you connect, and the way you protect yourself. Until you face and release the trauma you carry, it will keep repeating the same patterns no matter how much you want things to change.

✨ How trauma impacts your relationships

1️⃣ Emotional reactivity
Your nervous system is wired for protection so small conflicts or differences can feel overwhelming. Instead of responding with calm, you may react with anger, withdrawal, or shutting down.

2️⃣ Fear of abandonment
Old wounds can create a constant sense of “waiting to be left.” This fear can make you cling, overgive, or accept less than you deserve just to feel secure.

3️⃣ Difficulty trusting
When you carry unprocessed pain, it can feel unsafe to let someone fully in. You may second-guess their words or actions, always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

4️⃣ Attracting emotionally unavailable partners
Your body unconsciously seeks what feels familiar. If trauma taught you love equals inconsistency or emotional absence, you might find yourself pulled toward partners who cannot fully show up.

5️⃣ Shutting down intimacy
Deep connection can feel threatening when the body still holds pain. You may struggle to fully open your heart, communicate your needs, or allow yourself to receive love.

6️⃣ Codependency and people-pleasing
Trauma can teach you to abandon yourself in order to feel safe. This leads to giving too much, losing your boundaries, and sacrificing your own needs in relationships.

In my work I guide you through releasing the trauma stored in your body and heart so you can finally break free from these patterns.

✨ You’re ready to make a high-level investment in yourself
🌀 You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone
🔥 You’re fully committed to doing the deep inner work no more surface-level fixes or bypassing
💌Send me a message

09/29/2025

🪩If You Are New Here

I was born in chaos. Conceived on the first date in a Buddhist community. Two months early. A twin. He did not make it. My heart stopped too, but somehow I came back. Survival has been my story since day one.

My dad lived on the streets, in sober homes, and carried the intensity of narcissism. He abs*d me. My mom, a sweet country girl from the Midwest, raised me on her own with Buddhist values and unconditional love. She did her best.

I grew up in Los Angeles, rebellious, wild, running with skater kids, dropping acd in junior high. By the time I graduated I was modeling, swept into a vortex of dysfunction. Nights blurred into parties, men, and toxic chaos. I was drgged. SA happened. I was approached to be sold as something I was not. I was spinning in a world that was never meant for me.

But life has a way of bringing us back. In high school I had been introduced to Kundalini yoga as my P.E. class. Years later, at my rock bottom, I found myself pulled back to it. I signed up for teacher training and for the first time in my life I was meditating for hours before the sun rose. The practices cracked me open. Decades of pain, buried emotions, and self worth wounds, especially tied to my father, began to rise to the surface.

That awakening led me to years of deep energy healing and therapy. It became the foundation of everything I teach today.

The greatest gift I gave myself was turning inward. To feel the pain I had been running from, to hold my emotions instead of numbing them, to love myself back into wholeness. That was how I transformed my life.

Now it is the work I do with others.
To help you feel.
To help you release.
To help you come home to yourself.
To transform your life.
To live in your purpose.

Everything I teach is something I personally had to learn and embody. It all truly comes from my own experience and people feel that when they speak to me.

This work is sacred.
This work is my honor.
This work is why I came here.

09/28/2025

✨ My Work ✨

I guide people into the depths of their shadows, the hidden and often challenging parts of themselves and their past traumas. In this space, every part of you is welcome. This is where true healing begins.

Through somatic release, we access the trauma stored in your body and allow it to move. This can look like emotional expression, physical sensations, or subtle energetic shifts. These are natural responses as your body lets go of what no longer serves you.

Trauma that stays unprocessed dysregulates the nervous system. By accessing and releasing it, your system returns to balance. From here, your higher self becomes more accessible, the part of you that carries wisdom, unconditional love, and the ability to nurture your inner child.

This is the process of lasting transformation:
🌿 Somatic healing
🌿 Higher self connection
🌿 Rewiring old patterns

💫 Is this you?
▫️ You feel deeply and want to understand your emotions on a deeper level
▫️ You’re committed to self reflection and personal growth
▫️ You crave authenticity and spiritual connection
▫️ You value deep, meaningful relationships
▫️ You’re ready to break free from old cycles and step into change

🌹 You want to heal:
▫️ Childhood wounds and emotional scars
▫️ Negative emotions like guilt, shame, or fear
▫️ Feelings of unworthiness and self doubt
▫️ Repetitive patterns that keep you stuck
▫️ Disconnection from your true self and purpose
▫️ Overwhelm that blocks peace and clarity

🔥 Imagine if you could…
🌟 Release the weight of the past
🌟 Step fully into your purpose
🌟 Trust yourself deeply
🌟 Experience authentic love and connection
🌟 Move through life with peace and ease

This is the work I guide you through, using somatic embodiment, meditation, self inquiry, and inner child healing to create lasting change.

This work isn’t for everyone.
It’s only for you if you’re truly ready to go all in on your healing and transformation:

✨ You’re ready to make a high level investment in yourself
✨ You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided
✨ You’re fully committed to deep inner work, no more surface level fixes
💌 Send me a message.

09/24/2025

Have you ever noticed how often you say yes when you actually mean no? On the surface it can look like being kind, accommodating, or keeping the peace. But beneath the surface, every time you override your truth you are eroding self trust. Your body feels the misalignment even if your mind tries to justify it.

When you say yes against your own boundaries, you teach your nervous system that your needs and feelings are not important. Over time this creates confusion, resentment, and a deep sense of inner conflict. You begin to feel disconnected from yourself, doubting your instincts and questioning whether you can rely on your own word. This is how people pleasing takes root and how codependency patterns grow stronger.

The path to healing starts with the courage to honor your no. When you consistently align your words with your truth, you rebuild the foundation of self trust. Your nervous system learns that you are safe to listen to, your boundaries become clear, and your relationships begin to shift into ones that honor mutual respect and authenticity.

⚠️ The impact of saying yes when you mean no
• Weakens your self trust
• Creates resentment toward others
• Trains your nervous system to ignore your own needs
• Leads to burnout, overwhelm, and emotional exhaustion
• Keeps you stuck in people pleasing and codependent dynamics

✨ The benefits of honoring your no
• Strengthens self trust and self worth
• Creates authentic and honest connections
• Builds nervous system safety by honoring your truth
• Protects your energy and emotional well being
• Opens the door to aligned and nourishing relationships

This work is not for everyone.
It is only for you if you are truly ready to go all in on your healing and transformation. If that is you, you will resonate with this:

✨ You are ready to make a high level investment in yourself because you know your healing and growth are worth it
🌀 You are open, receptive, and willing to be guided even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone
🔥 You are fully committed to doing the deep inner work no more surface level fixes or bypassing
💌Send me a message.

09/17/2025

Your mind is always scanning for what it already believes to be true. This is the power of the Reticular Activating System. It filters out billions of pieces of information every day so that you only notice what matches your current belief system.

This is why you keep attracting the same person in a different body. It is not because you are cursed. It is not because you are unworthy of love. It is because your subconscious patterns and unresolved wounds are still running the show. Your nervous system feels more familiar with chaos than with safety. So your RAS continues to highlight what aligns with those old imprints.

That is why dating often feels like a loop. You meet someone new, but the dynamic feels strangely familiar. The same red flags. The same unmet needs. The same cycle of attraction, intensity, disappointment. Until you interrupt the pattern, your system will continue to seek what it already knows.

This is where my work comes in. I guide you to heal the roots of those patterns. We clear the trauma that keeps your nervous system locked in survival. We rewire your subconscious mind so that safety, devotion, and reciprocity begin to feel natural to you. We expand your capacity to recognize healthy love and allow your RAS to filter for aligned connection rather than repeating wounding.

If you are my soul aligned client, you know you are ready for this work. You are tired of being caught in cycles. You crave a relationship where you can be fully seen, deeply loved, and truly met. You feel the pull in your body when you read this because your soul knows there is more available for you.

This work is not surface level. It is for those who are ready to heal at the deepest layer, shift what your subconscious attracts, and finally embody the version of you who calls in the love you deserve.

✨ You’re ready to make a high level investment in yourself because you know your healing and growth are worth it
🌀 You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone
🔥 You’re fully committed to doing the deep inner work no more surface level fixes or bypassing
💌Send me a message.

09/13/2025

Let’s talk about the worthiness wound and how it impacts every single area of your life. This wound is one of the most potent wounds in humanity because it affects how you see yourself, how you receive love, how you set boundaries, and even how you step into your purpose. When this wound is active, it shows up as self-doubt, people-pleasing, overgiving, and constantly seeking validation from others. Healing this wound is the key to shifting every area of your life, your relationships, your career, your health, and your ability to live fully aligned with your truth.

✨ Traits of someone carrying a worthiness wound
💔 Constantly seeks approval from others
💔 Feels not enough no matter what they achieve
💔 People-pleases to avoid rejection
💔 Struggles to say no or set boundaries
💔 Attracts unavailable or toxic partners
💔 Sabotages opportunities or success
💔 Fearful of being fully seen or loved

🌟 Traits of someone who has healed their worthiness wound
💖 Fully embodies their value and worth
💖 Sets clear boundaries effortlessly
💖 Attracts healthy, aligned relationships
💖 Confidently expresses needs, desires, and feelings
💖 Experiences deep self-love and self-acceptance
💖 Makes decisions from alignment, not fear
💖 Flourishes in work, creativity, and personal expression

🌈 How I help you heal this wound
🌀 Guide you through deep inner child healing and somatic embodiment
🌀 Help you reclaim your energy, boundaries, and personal power
🌀 Teach you to release patterns of people-pleasing and self-abandonment

This work is only for you if you’re truly ready to go all in on your healing and transformation. If that’s you, you’ll resonate with this:

✨ You’re ready to make a high-level investment in yourself—because you know your healing and growth are worth it
🌀 You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided—even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone
🔥 You’re fully committed to doing the deep inner work—no more surface-level fixes or bypassing
💌Send me a message.

09/12/2025

So many people wonder why they keep attracting partners who are emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or unable to meet them deeply. The truth is one of the biggest reasons is self abandonment. When you repeatedly override your own needs, silence your voice, or stay where your body feels unsafe, you unconsciously signal to the world that your needs are not a priority. This becomes the energy that your relationships mirror back to you.

Self abandonment is one of the most important patterns to understand and heal if you want to attract a healthy and aligned partnership. Until you address it, you will find yourself repeating cycles of overgiving, people pleasing, and tolerating behavior that does not honor your worth. When you stop abandoning yourself, you naturally raise the standard for how others show up for you, and this shift becomes magnetic to a partner who is able to meet you in devotion, respect, and love.

💫 Signs you are stuck in self abandonment
✨ Saying yes when you mean no
✨ Minimizing or dismissing your feelings
✨ Staying in relationships where your needs are unmet
✨ Seeking validation outside of yourself instead of within
✨ Prioritizing others’ comfort over your truth
✨ Feeling resentful because your giving is not reciprocated

🌿 Signs you are healing from self abandonment
🌸 You honor your needs without guilt
🌸 You trust your body’s signals and listen to them
🌸 You set clear boundaries and uphold them
🌸 You no longer chase love or approval
🌸 You feel safe to express your truth openly
🌸 You attract relationships that feel reciprocal and nourishing

In my work I help my clients break free from the unconscious trauma responses that keep them abandoning themselves. Through deep somatic healing, inner child work, and embodiment practices, I guide you back into trust with your body and your truth.

✨ You’re ready to make a high level investment in yourself because you know your healing and growth are worth it
🌀 You’re open, receptive, and willing to be guided even when it stretches you beyond your comfort zone
🔥 You’re fully committed to doing the deep inner work no more surface level fixes or bypassing. Send me a message.

09/10/2025

When I lived in Bali, it awakened my deepest sensual side. I felt alive, soft, and in tune with the flow of life. But I also knew I had to leave, because what my soul and business were calling for was more structure 🏔️something I could only anchor back in the US.

Coming back gave me access to aligned structure, grounded people, and the energy I needed to grow. But in the process, I noticed how easy it is to disconnect from that sensual, pleasure-filled part of myself.

The truth is, we need both. The flow and the structure. The softness and the strength. The sensual and the grounded.

To any woman reading this🫶please don’t forget to prioritize your pleasure. It is not frivolous. It is not extra. It is the life force that moves you, nourishes you, and keeps you connected to your radiance.

✨ Pleasure is power.
✨ Pleasure is presence.
✨ Pleasure is creation.

The balance continues.

Monica Loren Transformation & Relationship Coaching

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