01/15/2026
Here’s the truth most men hope women understand about marriage.
Dear Future Brides,
As little girls, many of you twirled in pretend wedding gowns.
You imagined the dress, the flowers, the music, and every perfect detail of the day.
But here’s the real question:
Are you just as excited to be a wife?
Have you thought as deeply about what it means to build a marriage as you have about planning a wedding?
Because the wedding lasts a day.
The marriage requires a lifetime of intention.
Are you ready to love him on his hardest days — not just his best ones?
Are you ready to carry weight when he is tired, discouraged, or unsure…
without keeping score or weaponizing it later?
Are you ready to extend more grace than you ever imagined you had, especially when his struggle doesn’t look the way you expected it to?
Are you willing to look in the mirror and do the uncomfortable, ugly work on yourself —
not to be perfect, but to be healthy for him and for the marriage?
Are you ready to hold space for his growth
instead of constantly reminding him of his shortcomings?
Are you willing to respect the man he is becoming, not just criticize the man he is today?
Are you ready to get your hands dirty — literally and figuratively —
when life floods the basement, breaks the plan, or demands teamwork instead of romance?
Are you prepared for the long, uncomfortable, all-night conversations where nothing gets “fixed,” but everything gets revealed?
Are you willing to choose sacrifice over selfishness, commitment over convenience, and unity over being right?
Are you brave enough to approach him with fierce vulnerability —
not to win an argument, but to protect the marriage?
Because being a wife isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence.
It’s about character.
It’s about choosing love when it costs you something.
And the strongest marriages aren’t built by flawless people —
they’re built by two people who are willing to grow, take responsibility, and fight for each other instead of against each other.
Men don’t need perfection.
They need partnership, respect, and a woman willing to grow alongside them.