02/26/2026
Losing a loved one can lead to a range of emotions, including the stage of bargaining, where we may find ourselves seeking ways to undo or alter the reality of the loss. As we experience change that is outside of our control it is normal to feel an urge to regain control through bargaining.
Bargaining often involves thoughts of "what if" or "if only," as we attempt to negotiate with ourselves or a higher power to change the outcome. While this is a natural part of the grieving process, it's essential to recognize and address these feelings in a healthy way.
One action item you can consider is practicing mindfulness or meditation to help ground yourself in the present moment and accept the reality of your loss.
Take a moment to reflect on the bargaining thoughts or behaviors you've experienced and know that your feelings are understandable. Ask yourself: What am I trying to negotiate or change about the situation? How does holding onto these thoughts impact my ability to grieve and heal? Allow yourself to explore these questions with compassion and self-awareness.