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05/03/2026

What Love Makes Possible
Last week I wrote about two women I know.



I didn’t choose them because they’re “nice.”



I chose them because they are two of the finest women I know.



The first—you’ll almost never hear her talk about herself.



She’s deeply concerned for others… in a way I don’t even think she’s aware of.



And she hasn’t had an easy life. Her father, mother and brother died by her 18th birthday.



When you speak with her, it’s like your problems become hers—and she genuinely wants to help in any way she can.



The second woman… What's unique about her is what she’s done with her life.



Sometimes people rise above hard circumstances and become better because of it.



She did something different.



She took good circumstances—and outgrew even those.



She could have hidden behind the gifts she was given.



Instead, she chose to use them to help as many people as she can.



Now let me be clear:



Both of these women are human.



They have hard days.
They get frustrated.
They face challenges like anyone else.



I say that because I’m not trying to put them on a pedestal.



But I am saying this:

05/03/2026

What Love Makes Possible

Last week I wrote about two women I know.

I didn’t choose them because they’re “nice.”

I chose them because they are two of the finest women I know.

The first—you’ll almost never hear her talk about herself.

She’s deeply concerned for others… in a way I don’t even think she’s aware of.

And she hasn’t had an easy life. Her father, mother and brother died by her 18th birthday.

When you speak with her, it’s like your problems become hers—and she genuinely wants to help in any way she can.

The second woman… What's unique about her is what she’s done with her life.

Sometimes people rise above hard circumstances and become better because of it.

She did something different.

She took good circumstances—and outgrew even those.

She could have hidden behind the gifts she was given.

Instead, she chose to use them to help as many people as she can.

Now let me be clear:

Both of these women are human.

They have hard days.
They get frustrated.
They face challenges like anyone else.

I say that because I’m not trying to put them on a pedestal.

But I am saying this:

04/29/2026

“Loneliness can make the past look better than it really was.”

https://bertastacio.com/it-wasnt-love-it-was-familiar/

04/26/2026

How to have a good day.

https://youtu.be/6rhfkzv65KM

04/25/2026

The Courage To Feel

She was 11 years old. It was summer, and she woke up late.



She came downstairs looking for her friends, but her mom told her they had already come by.



She didn’t want to wake her.



So, she went out back and sat on an old sofa in the yard, alone in the sun.



The neighbor’s dog came over and jumped up beside her.



As she petted him, she felt something under his skin.



It was a leash—so tight it had grown into him. It must have been on since he was a puppy. It was almost fused to his skin.



She gently worked her fingers around it, searching for any loose space.



She found just enough.



She went inside, grabbed scissors, and came back. Slowly, carefully, she began cutting it away—doing everything she could not to hurt him.



The dog didn’t move. Not a whimper.



When she finally got it off and saw his skin, she burst into tears and ran inside.



Her mom came, and they went to the neighbor.



The dog was taken to the vet.



He ended up being okay.



But she wasn’t.



That moment overwhelmed her.



She told me this story… 80 years later.



She said she couldn’t contain the tears.



Another friend of mine was driving through a rough neighborhood in Philadelphia after volunteering.



She saw things people see every day.



But something in her broke open.



She started crying as she drove.

Two women.

Two moments.

Both moved to tears by what they felt.



And it moved me enough to share this:



The ability to feel deeply matters.



Why?

Two women, decades apart, were moved to tears by what they saw—one freeing a dog from pain, the other witnessing hardship in a struggling neighborhood. Their stories highlight something essential: the ability to feel deeply is not weakness, but a powerful connection to what matters. In a world tha...

04/23/2026

https://youtu.be/9_VLOAGa75M

https://bertastacio.com/why-modern-relationships-feel-broken-and-why-theyre-not/

2 likes. "Relationships aren’t failing. They are repositioning! "

04/21/2026

“For anything to be good, truly good, there must be love in it. Whether the art is sculpture, farming, teaching, or raising a child-nothing is what it’s supposed to be if love is not at the core.” -from Theo of Golden

04/18/2026

The Affair That Wasn't About Love
He was one of the wealthiest clients I ever worked with… and I found out he was having an affair.



His health was a mess.



Somewhere along the way, in building his success, he picked up a smoking habit… and a drinking habit to go with it.



But that wasn’t the whole story.



He was brilliant.

Charismatic.

Kind.

And I genuinely liked him.



His wife eventually found out about the affair.

Somehow, they managed to put their marriage back together.



But there was one question he couldn’t shake:



What was it about this woman that had such a hold on him?



How could someone as intelligent as him be so easily pulled in?



What made it even more painful…



His wife knew this woman. Trusted her.



They had even helped her financially.



The betrayal cut deep.



He didn’t hire me to fix his marriage.



He hired me because he knew something else was at stake:



His life.



After 35 years of building his career, he could see the direction he was heading.



And if nothing changed… he wouldn’t live long enough to enjoy what he built.



Over time, he opened up about the affair.



At one point, he told me he wanted to see her again.



“Just once more,” he said.



He needed to understand how he got pulled in like that.



Maybe that was true.



Maybe part of him just wanted to feel it again.



I told him not to do it.



He did it anyway.



And that decision ended his marriage for good.



Months later, we talked about it again.



I still wanted to help him. Not just physically—but to see this clearly and be free.



So, we did a little coaching and I asked him something simple:



“What did you actually do with your affair partner that felt so good?”



He thought about it.



“We shopped… we drank… we smoked… we went out… It was fun!”



I said,



“Exactly.”



Then I told him something he didn't expect.

A successful and intelligent man risks everything for an affair, only to discover it wasn’t love—but a reflection of a deeper void within himself. Through coaching and reflection, a powerful truth emerges: real love doesn’t enable self-destruction—it protects against it. The story becomes a ...

04/12/2026

Why Modern Relationships Feel Broken (And Why They’re Not)

I’m noticing something about relationships today.



Men and women—and even boys and girls—are interacting differently than they used to.



Some people call it hookup culture.



Others say a growing number of people aren’t dating at all.



So what’s going on?



I don’t think relationships are in trouble.



I think they’re repositioning.



The old way of doing relationships clearly wasn’t working very well.



If it were, the divorce rate wouldn’t be so high.



Today, fewer people are getting married, and fewer people are even entering relationships in the first place.



That doesn’t mean people don’t want connection.



It means they’re disillusioned with how it’s been done.



Here’s something we don’t talk about enough:



Most of us get very little training in relationships.



We learn by watching our parents.



And if their relationship was unhealthy—or absent—we’re left without a real map.



We’re expected to somehow “figure it out” without ever being taught how.



And here’s a hard truth that might help explain a lot:



Really good relationships elude many people because they’re chasing a fantasy.



To be fair, society sells that fantasy constantly—romance, intensity, chemistry, drama, s*x.



But fantasy can’t substitute for what is actually fulfilling.



Let me share a story that may shed light on this.



There were two dating shows in England.

One was similar to The Bachelor—lots of chemistry, attraction, drama, and emotional highs.



The other matched couples based on values, personality tests, communication styles, and long-term compatibility.



When the shows ended, the results were striking.

https://bertastacio.com/why-modern-relationships-feel-broken-and-why-theyre-not/

04/04/2026

It Wasn't Love....It Was Familiar
“I miss John, I know there were problems… but we had some really good times.”

That’s what my client told me a few months after ending a relationship.

When we first worked together, she needed support walking away from a man who was truly abusing her.

She ended it. Deleted his number.

She did everything right.

But now… she missed him.

And she was thinking about going back.

I understood her more than she knew.

Because I’ve been there too.

For a long time, I struggled to leave relationships that weren’t healthy for me.

I came from a neglected background without my parents, and because of that, I didn’t really know what healthy looked like.

I wasn’t discerning and over gave ignoring what didn’t feel right.

And I attracted people who could sense that—and would take advantage of it.

I thought I was being loving.

But really, I was just used to accepting less than I deserved.

So, when my client said, “we had some really good times,” I paused.

And then I told her something that changed the way I see relationships:

Unhealthy relationships are hard to leave because they aren’t entirely bad—they meet emotional needs and feel familiar. This creates attachment, even when there is pain. True, healthy relationships are not built on intensity, but on mutual care, respect, and a sense of ease. Growth comes from le...

03/31/2026

“ What I’m saying is… to take your life seriously… but not yourself. “

(This week’s session with a client)

03/31/2026

To all the ‘hot mess’s out there!

“There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings.

Those who are at times described as being a 'hot mess' or having 'too many issues' are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world.

Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”

Anthon St. Maarten

Many people today struggle not because they feel too much, but because they’ve lost touch with their feelings altogether. In a world filled with constant stimulation, anger is often the only emotion that seems acceptable, while fear, sadness, and vulnerability remain hidden. Yet our feelings are e...