Vibrant Health Company

08/01/2025

Unlock your true potential! 🚀 By setting clear INTENTIONS, you'll pave the way for meaningful COMMITMENTS, which will blossom into empowering HABITS and eventually become a sustainable, thriving LIFESTYLE. Remember, motivation is just the spark - it's your daily choices that will fuel lasting transformation 🔥

08/01/2025

07/31/2025

Want to help a grieving friend? Let them be sad.⁣ Really. ⁣Sadness is a natural response to loss, hardship, and death. It just is.⁣
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And it's hard to know what to do when your friends are hurting. It sucks to see someone you love in pain. The thing is, you can’t cheer someone up by telling them to look on the bright side, or by giving them advice. It just doesn’t work.⁣⁣
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The trick is to lean into your helplessness in the face of your friend’s pain. Your job, honestly, is to feel awkward and stay there anyway. Just hang right out with their pain.⁣⁣
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When things are dark, it's ok to be dark. Really. Not every corner needs the bright light of encouragement. In a similar vein, don't encourage someone to have for good things that happened to them in the past or good things that still exist. ⁣
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Example: We recently we saw someone respond to grieving person's comment about their sadness by telling them to shove down all the "bad feelings" and think about the good things they still have in their life. ⁣
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NO! ⁣
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First of all, just say no to unsolicited advice. When someone talks to you about how hard this is, notice your impulse to jump in with a solution, and then DON'T DO IT. Most of the time people are simply looking for acknowledgment about how awful this situation is. ⁣
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Second, good things and horrible things occupy the same space; they don't cancel each other out.⁣ Sadness is healthy. Telling someone to look on the bright side or appreciate what they still have just tells them you're not someone they can talk with about their pain. ⁣
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Instead, mirror their reality back to them. When they say, "This sucks," say, "Yes, it does." It may seem too simple, but it's amazing how much that simple acknowledgement helps.⁣ It is an unfathomable relief to have a friend who will sit with you and let you feel exactly how you feel.⁣
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For more tips on how to give the support you intend, visit refugeingrief.com
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07/30/2025

Mindfulness.

07/30/2025

Creating truly safe systems and relationships requires flexibility —
The kind of flexibility that comes from internal groundedness,
which allows other people to be different than you.
When you're connected to you, it's easier to allow other people to be in different life stages, emotional states, to have different needs & values, to respond differently to an event, etc.

To develop this type of groundedness requires learning how to connect to yourself;
to your own feelings, needs, and limitations so that you can take responsibility for and share them with others as you need to.
This self-connectedness intuitively helps you respect others' needs to stay connected to themselves, too.

Politeness has its place,
but if you always default to "nice" and "easy" to keep the peace,
if you don't actually feel that way,
but you always default to the thing that will keep the moment light or the conflict at bay,
it means you're not sharing important information that will help people see, know, and respect you.

Conflict and rupture are a requirement in healthy relationships, too.
Uncomfortable feelings, hurt, and disagreement give us the opportunity to go deeper with the people we care about.
To learn more about ourselves and the other person.
Finding out where our edges bump up against one another helps us to see and respect each other more deeply.

And yes, I do understand that for many people this can be a trauma response, but that doesn't mean it's not worth explaining the impact this behavior has on relationships :)
I think understanding the impact can help increase the motivation to walk toward deeper healing —
fawning & people-pleasing are signals that there are parts of you that need your attention & care.

If you always live at the surface level, then your relationships (and your body) will feel the tension that you're avoiding.

If you're working on going more deeply with yourself and others, the Cycle Breakers year long program begins September 2nd (and early bird pricing ends soon!). If you're doing the slow, deep, and often quiet work of meeting yourself in new ways as you shift old patterns and break the cycles that are no longer serving you, then this program is for you.
It's small group, lead by me over the course of a year. Come practice in community and keep returning to yourself again and again. 4pm group is about halfway full!

https://theeqschool.co/cycle-breakers

07/29/2025

With self-awareness, you grow in an ever-evolving stage of change. You're tuned in to what you feel, think, need, and want. You have the right to change (your mind, your opinions, your job, your decisions, your friends, your diet, your schedule, your partner, and your life).

07/28/2025

07/24/2025

Graduation haircut! 6 inches off in the layers! One inch for every year I’ve spent writing the TSP workbook, lol! Thanks Jordan!

07/24/2025

Eudora Welty

07/24/2025

The is an immediate resource available 24/7. Contact 988 for one-on-one skilled, caring and substance use support.

07/23/2025

Individuals living with CPTSD can look forward to navigating the gnarly topic of forgiveness in our upcoming workbook! 🌟 This game-changing project, started in 2018, was put on hold until I completed my doctorate to ensure a deep understanding of the literature. Now, the wait is over as I write furiously! Watch this space as our journey unfolds to prepare for the release of this workbook filled with novel perspective on hope, healing, and transformation! 💫😁