04/21/2025
Struggling with impulsivity that is damaging your relationships?
For many, trauma is a major driving force behind impulsivity, leading to actions we later regret.
Here’s why:
✨Living with trauma feels like constantly fleeing overwhelming emotions. Unable to process these feelings, we turn to shopping, eating, drinking, or reckless behaviors to escape.
✨Emotional dysregulation blocks our ability to self-soothe, pushing us toward quick, shortsighted choices that briefly ease discomfort or racing thoughts. While these impulsive acts offer temporary relief, they often worsen our state later. Reckless behaviors are common in trauma or PTSD, serving as attempts to numb pain and self-protect.
✨These choices come from unconscious parts that serve to protect. This is why for so many their behavior, often chronic, is hard to understand and hard to change.
The good news: we ALL have self energy-core innate wisdom and presence. our true self is always in service to our highest self. A whole self, not our parts, is our greatest healing force.
Making thoughtful, long-term decisions requires a calm, ventral vagal parasympathetic state, where logic overrides survival instincts. And where our healing parts collaborate fostering healing.
To reduce impulsivity, prioritize self-care, emotional regulation, and self-compassion. Develop self leadership through clarity, compassion and connection with your true self.
Before acting, ask, “What would the healthiest version of me choose?”
Through commitment to your healing, you can integrate parts, ultimately fostering wiser decisions and rebuilding a healthier life and relationships.
