
09/05/2025
When people start to reflect on how their childhood shaped them, they often get stuck on one fear:
“I don’t want to blame my parents for everything.”
But naming what shaped you isn’t the same as blaming the people who raised you. It’s about getting honest with yourself—so you can stop living on autopilot and start choosing how you want to move forward.
Many of the ways you show up today—your boundaries, your self-worth, your ability to trust, the way you react under stress—didn’t just appear. They were shaped by years of experiences, both spoken and unspoken. Some helpful. Some hurtful. Some that were never even acknowledged.
This isn’t about turning your parents into villains. It’s about understanding the blueprint you were handed, and realizing you don’t have to keep building from it. You can name what was missing. You can name what hurt. You can name what shaped you. And still hold space for the fact that your parents may have been doing the best they could.
At some point, healing becomes less about what happened back then, and more about what you want to do with that awareness now. Because once you understand where something came from, you get to choose who you want to be from here.
That’s not blame. That’s growth.