The Restoring Place Counseling

The Restoring Place Counseling She did not know how to articulate it at the time so coped by playing the role of daughter, sister, and student as perfectly as possible.

Coaching & Counseling for high-functioning adults in McKinney, TX; & FL (online)
anxiety • boundary guilt
Somatic therapy & EMDR
Asian American & faith-integrated The Parth Toward Freedom, Joy & Hope

Getting to know Lydia

Growing up in a culture where emotions were not permitted much less discussed, Lydia felt something was missing. Everything appeared okay on the outside but on the inside, sh

e knew she was losing her sense of self. By eventually finding the words to identify her feelings, Lydia was able to start the path towards freedom. Lydia completed a master’s degree in cognitive neuroscience and nearly entered a PHD program in the same field while living in Beijing. When she moved to Dallas, her path was redirected to pursuing biblical counseling at Dallas Theological Seminary. Her time in the program quickly confirmed a deep seeded passion to become a counselor. Working directly with people aligned much closer to her goals and desires than working in a lab and analyzing data. Helping Clients Discover the Best Version of Themselves
It is important for Lydia to create a safe place for her clients to pause and reflect on circumstances, patterns and motivations in their lives. She thinks of therapy as a client’s opportunity to be heard, understood and accepted. The real power to change can happen through the relief of emotional distress, insight into feelings, thoughts and behaviors, regaining hope for the future and so much more. She believes that needing time and space to sort through things is not being weak; sometimes that's just what it takes to be the best version of oneself. Lydia has successfully worked with women of all ages including teenagers and college students. She specializes in depression, anxiety, life transition, trauma, grief and relationship issues. Her expertise extends to working with couples, and she enjoys helping them reconnect and rekindle lost love. Her background as an international student shapes her unique ability to help individuals, couples and families through cross-cultural challenges. Lydia has been married to her wonderful husband Leon for more than 7 years, and they have 2 children, with one on the way! When she is not counseling, Lydia loves to explore different places to hike and bike with family and friends. She also enjoys jogging, swimming and simply soaking in nature. Lydia 的简介

Lydia 从小成长的文化中是不“允许”有情绪的，那就更不鼓励讨论这类的话题就了。她感觉到生活中缺点儿什么，但那时候并不知道如何表达。因此就像周围人一样：努力做好学生，好女儿等等。表面上看起来生活一切正常，但在内心深处，她知道自己在失去自我。后来终于在学习如何表达和处理自己的情绪的过程中开始找到真正的自由。
申秋鸽在北师大取得认知神经科学的硕士学位，并计划赴美留学开始同一领域的博士学位。但感恩的是，事情并没有按计划发生：结果是她去了达拉斯神学院并在那了完成了以圣经为基础的心理辅导硕士学位。在学校的学习和后来的实习很快就确认了她内心深处做一名咨询师的热情：与做实验，数据分析和写论文相比，在咨询室里帮助来访者的她更是找到了真正的自己。

帮您找回最佳版本的自己／夫妇
申秋鸽很擅长在咨询室里给她的来访者创造一个安全和保密的环境：暂停生活中的压力， 反思他们所处的境况，行为模式和动机。 她认为咨询很重要的一方面是给来访者一个被倾听，理解和接纳的机会； 而在这样的安全环境中蕴藏着很宝贵的可能性：痛苦情绪得以释放，对自己的情绪，想法和行为的理解，重新获得喜乐，平安和对未来的盼望等等。
需要时间和空间来理清自己的思绪，退一步来思考生活，并非软弱的表现。有时候这正是我们成为最好的自己，情侣／夫妇的必经之路。我很期待与您见面，并在这旅程上支持和帮助您。
在过去的这些年里，申秋鸽帮助过很多各样年龄的女性（包括大学生，青少年，妈妈，和年长女性）来克服她们的焦虑，抑郁，人生新阶段的适应，创伤，悲痛和关系问题。她也很擅长婚姻辅导：帮助夫妇们解决冲突，建立亲密关系，重新点燃他们对彼此的爱。另外，最初以国际学生的身份来到美国的经历也让他更加理解在移民过程中遇到问题的个人和家庭，并帮助他们克服在多员文化环境中生活的挑战。
申秋鸽和她的丈夫2013年结婚，有两个宝贵的孩子（第三个快要出生）。在她不做咨询的时候，她喜欢与家人和朋友一起探索不同的地点去骑车和散步，她也很享受慢跑，游泳和享受大自然。

04/23/2026

You’re holding it together…
but inside, your mind feels busy and overwhelmed.

This is a 2-minute reset to help your body to calm down.

Try it now—or save it for when you need it most.

04/22/2026

High performers struggle the most when things start going wrong!!
They don’t struggle when things are going well.

They struggle when things start to fall apart.

That’s when the instinct kicks in:

👉 push harder
👉 keep going
👉 don’t slow down

But sometimes… that’s exactly what makes it worse.

Just like an injury.

If you keep pushing through it,
you don’t get stronger—

you make it worse.

And a lot of people do this emotionally.

They push through exhaustion.
They push through stress.
They push through everything.

Until their system forces them to stop.

—

So the real question isn’t:

“Can I push through this?”

It’s:

👉 “Is pushing helping… or hurting me right now?”

—

If this resonates,

there’s more in the link in my bio.
—

Which do you tend to do?

A. Push through
B. Step back

04/20/2026

You finally get a break… but somehow you feel worse.

…and almost immediately,
you feel like you should be doing something.

That’s not just restlessness.

For a lot of high performers, it’s this:

👉 “If I’m not doing something, I’m falling behind”
👉 “If I’m not producing, I’m not enough”
👉 “If I’m not contributing, I’m not worthy”

That didn’t come out of nowhere.

It’s something you learned.

And for a while… it worked.

It helped you achieve.
It helped you succeed.

But over time, it becomes exhausting.

Because your worth starts to feel like something
you have to keep proving.

—

So the question isn’t:

“Why can’t I relax?”

It’s:

👉 “What do I believe happens if I stop?”

—

If this feels familiar,
there’s more in the link in my bio.

—

Which feels closer right now?

A. I can’t fully rest
B. I feel behind when I slow down.

04/17/2026

Anxiety isn’t just in your mind. It lives in your body.

Tight chest.
Knots in your stomach.
Tension you didn’t even realize you were carrying.

That’s not you “overthinking.”
That’s your nervous system trying to protect you.

So instead of trying to think your way out of anxiety…

Try starting here:

Look around.
Name 5 things you can see.
Slow your breathing as you do it.

You’re not fixing your thoughts.
You’re helping your body feel safe again.

04/16/2026

You finally sit down to rest…

but your body won’t let you.

Your mind says:
“I’m tired.”

But your body stays:

👉 restless
👉 tense
👉 like something isn’t done yet

That’s not lack of discipline.

For a lot of high-functioning people,
your system learned:

👉 slowing down isn’t safe
👉 rest means falling behind
👉 stillness feels unfamiliar

So even when life gets quiet…
your body doesn’t.

—

The work isn’t just learning to rest.

It’s learning:

👉 how to feel safe when you do

—

If this feels familiar,
there’s more in the link in my bio.

What happens when you try to slow down?

A. I feel restless
B. I start thinking about what’s next
C. I avoid resting altogether

04/15/2026

Save this if it resonates. “What if real strength doesn’t mean you can do it all?”

For a lot of high performers,
doing more is what got you here.

Saying yes.
Taking on more.
Pushing through.

And for a while… that works.

But over time, something shifts.

Because high performance isn’t just constant intensity.

It’s knowing:

👉 when to push
👉 when to stop
👉 what actually matters

—

So the question isn’t:

“Can I do more?”

It’s:

👉 “Am I using my capacity wisely?”

—

If this resonates,
there’s more in the link in my bio.

04/14/2026

“I just need to push harder.”

For high performers, that belief often comes from fear:

👉 losing momentum
👉 falling behind
👉 everything slipping

And over time, the pressure doesn’t turn off.

So you keep going—
until your body starts to show it:

sleep issues
restlessness
constant tension

—

The real question isn’t:

“Can I push harder?”

It’s:

👉 “Why do I feel like I have to?”

—

How does this resonate to you? performers

04/10/2026

“Is saying no weak?”

A lot of high performers were taught:

Push harder
Don’t stop
Don’t say you can’t

And for a while, that works.

It builds discipline.
It creates results.
It leads to success.

So when you hear:

“slow down”
“set boundaries”
“say no”

…it doesn’t feel right.

Not because it’s wrong—
but because it challenges what worked before.

—

So the real question isn’t:

“Is this weak?”

It’s:

👉 Is this still sustainable?

—

If this pattern feels familiar,
you can learn more or get started through the link in my bio. performer

04/09/2026

You say yes at work…
even when you’re already stretched.

You hold it together all day.
And then later—you feel drained or irritable.

That’s not random.

For a lot of high-functioning people,
it’s not just overworking—

it’s saying yes when your system is already at capacity.

—

So the real question isn’t:

“Can I handle this?”

It’s:

👉 What is this costing me later?

04/08/2026

High performers are trained to act fast.

But internally, that same instinct can work against you.

You feel discomfort → you act → you try to fix it

But not every internal signal needs immediate action.

Sometimes the shift is:

pause
and not act right away

—

More in the link in bio if this resonates. When you feel that discomfort, what do you do usually?

04/03/2026

You can be strong… and still feel overwhelmed.

Jesus didn’t hide His sorrow.
He said it out loud.
He asked for the cup to be taken away.

And still—He went to the cross.

Which means this:

Your pain is not unseen.
Your struggle is not unfamiliar to Him.

He understands it…
and He stayed.

Because of the cross,
you are not alone.

And because of the cross,
there is hope. 🙏

Kudos for all!!! We’ve all endured a really long winter. Treat yourself with some springs! “Glimmers” in nature ...
03/18/2025

Kudos for all!!! We’ve all endured a really long winter. Treat yourself with some springs! “Glimmers” in nature

Address

2530 Eldorado Pkwy Suite 205-G
McKinney, TX
75072

Opening Hours

Tuesday 9:30am - 2pm
Wednesday 9:30am - 8pm
Thursday 9:30am - 7pm
Friday 9am - 2pm
Saturday 1pm - 6pm

Telephone

+4696081038

Website

https://lydiashen.com/

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