02/03/2025
The other day I while I was driving, I said out loud “it’s too much pressure to be perfect” and from the back seat came a resounding YEAH! from both of my kids. We were talking about how some things you have to learn by doing and there are a lot of falls and mistakes involved, while both your mind and your body figure it out.
In Human Design, I am a 1/3 profile - Investigator/Martyr. My son is a 1/3 also, and my daughter a 3/6 (martyr/role model). So this Line 3 is incredibly important in my household. It is all about learning through trial and error. Allowing space for experimentation. Reflecting on what worked and what didn’t. Not telling them to just take my word for it, but honoring their lived experience as the greatest teacher, helping them to find the wisdom in the wound. Parenting in this way pushes me to always be monitoring the current situation, weighing risks, and biting my tongue a lot. Sharing more facts, less opinions. Or sharing from my own experience while leaving space for theirs to be different. I’ve learned the power of asking open-ended questions that lead to new insights. And you’ll never hear me say any version of “I told you so.”
