Antonia Intuitive

06/08/2025

Hello again,

11/29/2024

10/30/2024

"I wonder if the subject matter of the next six posts will lead to more engagement…. Not that i’m necessarily writing these for engagement, I say that more to make a point. It’s well known that the topic of S*x and S*xuality is an intriguing, excitatory, stimulating, often heavily loaded topic…even repulsive to some. If you briefly inquire into S*xuality, what comes up for you?...."

A brief intro to the next 6 modules...

10/14/2024

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08/25/2024

”There are many Friendships that stabilize themselves around the collusion of not rocking the boat because of these various things. Sometimes there are difficulties with aloneness, issues around support, transference from parental figures or sibling transferences. Friendships then can become stagnant, not an alive dynamic, and then it is more a matter of company than a thriving crucible for learning, for realization. That is fine, some Friendships are just like that, and they have their place. It does not mean you cannot be Friends if there is that situation. You can be Friends, but it is limited. We do not expect all our Friendships to be completely open and spontaneous and total. It is not realistic.”

Module 6 Review

08/19/2024

Addressing the three instinctual drives (survival, sexual, and social) is an important part of our maturation. Many of us are ruled by these drives without being consciously aware of it. The more we bring these drives into consciousness, the more we can work with them as opposed to being ruled by them. This is not about "right" or "wrong", it's about being honest and real about being human.

What are some *survival* needs/drives/motivations in the context of dating and relationship? (I'll ask the same and make separate posts for the other drives - those being the social drive and the sexual drive)

I'll start

1. Financial support or security - broken down as;
Help with paying rent, help with affording a mortgage, help with affording the expense of having children, help with paying bills, help with having enough money for the future/retirement, having financial support in case of emergency.
The survival drive may also motivate someone to avoid a relationship or stay in a dysfunctional relationship based off of not wanting to have to pay for a divorce or child support

2. Help with household/life tasks, errands, chores, and duties

3. Procreation

4. The safety of having a partner who you feel could protect you from physical harm if need be

I would love to hear more from others :)

08/16/2024

”…the openness, the mutuality and the responsibility, the responsiveness. When these are there, then the intimate relationship can become a situation that opens the mysteries of Being for the couple, for the two people in some amazing, wonderful, beautiful ways…and I think that is one big reason why people want it and love it, but we need to remember the other big reasons, the social drive, the sexual drive, the survival drive. Not lie to ourselves that it is all the enlightenment drive….Part of the work of maturation is how to align the other drives with it.”

Module 5 Review

08/12/2024

"What does Social Intimacy look and feel like? Some of its defining qualities are depth, truth, openness, authenticity, honesty, attunement, acceptance, empathy, compassion, presence, contact, sensitivity, and responsiveness - these may flow into qualities of connection, peacefulness, being-ness, harmony, love, and union. They may also flow into healthy separation and individuation. We often experience Social Intimacy with counselors, coaches, therapists, best friends, spiritual communities, support groups, and ideally family (although this is not always the case)."

Module 4 Review

08/05/2024

Satisfaction in relating has to do with the quality of the relationship and relational capacity. “An experience in a relationship or in relationships that end up being experienced as a success, as satisfying, revealing, satisfying for both. It is a successful interaction and a successful engagement because part of the difficulty in the past is that we might not have experienced that success. Success means we can actually work out things and work them to our mutual satisfaction, with mutual gratitude and we both learn and grow…There is contact. There is connectedness. There is a sense of attunement or responsiveness, a sense of nourishment, experience of learning, mutual appreciation that is emotionally satisfying, emotionally encouraging and supportive. That makes us feel optimistic about the possibilities of relationship in general.”

Module 3 Review

07/29/2024

What is crucial to understand, especially for the heady intellectual types who may have trouble accessing their emotions or their heart, is that cognitive understanding in the neocortex is not powerful enough to change the limbic brain. Which means that even if we could somehow retrieve or learn every single explicit detail of information pertaining to our early life experiences, the cognitive awareness and understanding alone is not enough to rewire the brain and therefore not enough to change our tendencies, beliefs, thoughts and behaviors.

”In other words, what is needed is not just an understanding of what happened between you and your mother and remembering all that. You need to have a new experience of the right kind for your relational skills to develop.”

Module 2 Review

07/12/2024

So, if not through intellectual understanding, then how do we fully process and liberate our behaviors, patterns, experiences and drives? This is where the power of the Optimizing force of the Enlightenment drive comes in, but not without exploring the instincts first! We can not bypass the instincts. “Human beings first have to have some kind of integration of the first three drives, some kind of development or some level of harmony of them, some level of satisfying them, some level of dealing with them, of coming to terms with them before the enlightenment drive begins to exert its influence and exert its force.”

Module 1 Review

07/10/2024

The first of many in my course review series.

Survival, S*xual, Social - A Course Review