12/09/2025
Managing holiday stress
Be realistic, yes, you can do 483 things a day during the Christman season, but should you ? Choose shortcuts you'll be happy with. I love wrapped gifts but they are time consuming so gift bags have become my friend. If there's time I'll wrap one for each kid- maybe. The day before Thanksgiving or Christmas we grab pizza or eat light (AKA get your own and by the way, do you really need to eat today, you can make up for it tomorrow! ). I also ask people to bring food, maybe things I dislike making, someone will like. Share the fun, even Santa has elves!
They say decide what you want the holidays to feel like (the feels are what we hold on to), maybe festive, peaceful, connected or Grinch-like. Whatever, let that help you navigate the things you do or don't do. Reflect on prior Christmas memories to find the things you enjoyed the most and make them happen. Playing games used to happen spontaneously at our house so now I plan game nights- with fun and easy finger foods. Get rest and schedule down time. Watch a favorite Christmas movie, take a nap, take a long bubble bath- anything that has no purpose, only your enjoyment.
Plan ahead and prioritize, making lists of what must be done, what you'd like to do and what you'll save for, "only if I have time."
Break it down, many holiday tasks require lots of steps. Gifts for example, you choose who to buy for, what to buy, do the buying, and wrap the gifts, hopefully you have an elf. Simplify when you can, great gifts can be duplicated. I like to give event gifts like a gift card for a meal, one for an event (the Bridgeview in Ottumwa has comedians, concerts and rodeos), and one for dessert. In theory I could repeat this for everyone easily.
The bottom line is don't live up to your high expectations. Don't do more than you can or should. Get organized, enjoy the season, be kind, smile, hold the door and spread cheer when you can. Leave the Grinch for movie night.