A lot of the time one combines with the other. Both addictions act the same in many ways. In fact all addictions, gambling, drugs, alcohol, shopping and many others are treated in the same way, only thing that is changed is the names. The primary purpose of our FAM groups are to carry the message of recovery to the alcoholic/addict who still suffers. The group provides each member with the opportunity to share and to hear the experience of other alcoholic/addicts who are learning to live a better way of life without the use of drugs. The group is the primary vehicle by which our message is carried. It provides a setting in which a newcomer can identify with recovering addicts and find an atmosphere of recovery. We the Individuals of FAM in recovery have our own definition of sobriety that depends on what is best suited for our own personal needs and well-being. It is important to understand that one person’s definition of sobriety may not be the same as another’s. There is a variance of opinions on the most effective method of managing a drug or alcohol addiction. The diversity of opinions may confuse an individual as we begin the process of seeking help. Traditionally, abstinence-only programs have been the most prevalent within the U.S and some proponents argue that there are more ways to achieving true and lasting recovery. There are many methods of treatment when it comes to alcohol and drug addiction. One of the most popular ways to seek help for an addiction is through 12-step programs like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA). These programs allow individuals to build a peer support system to help guide them through the process of recovery. We here at FAM have combined the two together as one. There are many of us that have been to both, including Celebrate Recovery, have learned something from each one. Sobriety actually means, first, not being intoxicated. How many times have we came to the conclusion, after the discussion with with the families (including our own) of the alcoholic or addict who have just been indoctrinated at some of the 12-steps that recovery is not making sure that the person never uses any psychoactive substance again for the rest of our lives. It's about a person's being alert and proceeding in life. Recovery/Remission is the main focus is an engagement in life. Being sober conveys an overall seriousness and purpose that people have. The absence of something such as, not drinking or using are impossibilities of many of the new addictions we are recognizing, like eating, shopping, electronic media, sex, love, etc. The 12 steps sometimes miss the important part of our recovery. Look at the word “sobriety.” What does it mean to you? Sobriety means to us not being impaired by one or the other addiction. Sobriety means never taking any consciousness-altering substance, ever. This was a hard one for me and many others. The fixation of abstinence requires that people who recover through the 12 steps decide that their lives revolve around in a very empty space. You can’t commit to a life of nothingness, but only focus on your health, goals, plans, and believe in yourself. FAM not only does Alcohol and Drug dependencies. We also help in suicide prevention programs, seniors, educating those who are worried about someone in the family with a drinking or drug problem. Reaching out to those in need. We do support, in groups and alone with addicts struggling with different Addictions. When it come to Addictions, speak out with us in the fight. After all, it isn’t just the Addict that suffers, It’s the Whole FAMily. Our Hero is and always will be, Bill Wilson. Without him, there wouldn't be a FAM, NA, AA or any other. FAM President/Founder & Minister
Jack Ament
