Jacqueline Ravelo, LCSW

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Jacqueline Ravelo, LCSW

Therapy for teens, co-parenting coaching for parents. I help recently divorced parents co-parent their teens without chaos.

Telehealth in Florida via a HIPAA compliant platform. Book your consultation at www.jacquelineravelo.com/contact

06/09/2023

School’s out for the summer, baby!

Yesterday was the last day for many south Florida kids and I hope your teen was able to sleep in this morning and enjoy a slower pace.

Wishing your teen lots of slow mornings, pool and beach time, fun, and a safe summer!

What are you most looking forward to this summer? Drop it below!

05/15/2023

The parents I work with really want their kids to feel better. Sometimes, parents are so concerned that their kids won’t focus on the problem at hand that they make requests for me to broach topics that they feel are important for their kids to address.

I say this with love, I’m not a dj, I don’t take requests in therapy.

If I’m handling a parent’s agenda in therapy, we miss out on a few things:
-We lose the child’s perspective of the issue at hand
-We don’t give the teen the opportunity to explore for themselves
-We don’t have the opportunity to relinquish control

Therapy should be a safe place for your kid, and if I’m working on your agenda, it won’t be. If I’m spying for you, it won’t be either.

My role is not to be another adult who tells your kid what to do, but to be a guide and mirror and walk alongside them.

It’s hard letting go of control, but I promise, your kids know what is important to bring to therapy. You just need to give them a chance 🌟

05/11/2023

Thinking of my fellow 1st gen high-achievers 💜

We don’t have to be defined only by what we have accomplished, we are so much more than our accolades.

I wonder how your child would introduce themselves if they weren’t a student. Would they talk about their passions, their interests, their hobbies? A hidden talent? A love for comida criolla or tacos or arepas? What would they say to define who they are aside from their grades and extra-curriculars?

Chances are, they probably wouldn’t know what to say. For so long they have been praised about what they’ve done and how they show up in the classroom that they haven’t had an opportunity to define themselves in this way.

Adolescence is an important time for identity building. Your child has an opportunity to discover who they are and who they want to be. Who do you want them to be?

Looking to help your child explore? Set up your consult at the link in bio 🌟

05/05/2023

“Fix my kid.”

You child is not broken. They are in survival mode. The reaction you’re seeing now is coming from a place of activation, fear of the future, and the limited capacity your child has to act now. Because your child is still developing, because they’re still learning their body and its responses, their stressors, their desires and dreams, they may not act the way they used to. They may be different and this is normal.

The behavior you’re seeing now is an adaptation to their new circumstances. It comes from a new schedule, moving houses, increased academic demands, a focus on their future, being a teenager with increased responsibilities and awareness, etc. Your kid is stressed out and they are acting within the parameters of the capacity they have at this moment.

Because they’re acting differently, this means you need to act differently. The strategies you used when they were 5, 8, 10, or even 12 years old will NOT work the same as when they are 14-17. They are at a different place and you have to parent differently.

Did this resonate with you? Share this with another parent 🌟

05/02/2023

Your kid is rarely going to tell you “this is giving me anxiety.” Instead they’ll say:

“I’m really overwhelmed”
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me”
“I can’t sleep”
“I don’t feel good”
“I’m really stressed out”

The reason being is because kids are able to identify what their body is feeling much easier than what is happening emotionally or cognitively. And with good reason: anxiety is rooted in our nervous system and often shows up as physical symptoms like sleep troubles and stomach issues. Teenagers are learning how to label and express this information and this is typically what is accessible to them.

If your kid is telling you these things, use that moment as an invitation to slow down and get grounded. Get some information about the feelings and ask, “what do you think this feeling is trying to tell you?” Asking this question will help them develop more self awareness and identify the feelings, triggers, and solutions with more ease.

Resonating with this post? Share with a friend 🌟

04/28/2023

We all want the BEST for our kids, but what if the best isn’t the “best?”

We often judge the best thing based on the perceived benefit it offers. We look at quality, value, our own values, etc, but what is more important than these factors is ALIGNMENT.

You can have something which is awesome, like a school, a partner, a job, but it’s not the right fit. And fit determines whether things will work out (especially in therapy).

Is the college tour child is going to the right fit? That’s what matters 🌟

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04/26/2023

I learned soooo much during EMDR training!

It was an incredible experience and I’m so excited to share what I learned with you. Here are some big takeaways:

The past is present
Our nervous systems can be stuck at 5, 6, 7 years old or earlier. It can still feel present even if the incident was years ago.

The bigger the reaction, the older the memory
Present triggers can active past emotionally charged experiences that haven't been updated and consolidated with existing strengths. The more intense, the more traumatic and earlier the experience.

Neurons that fire together, wire together
Our brains are always problem solving.
Our brains typically encode beliefs, strategies, and behaviors from 1-7 years old, 10 years old at the latest and these neurons get linked together.

You have to send vour emotional system to college
Because our brains have encoded at an early age, our nervous systems can get stuck at 5, 6, 7 years old or earlier because of adverse experiences.

Our brains are ways encoding
We're so sophisticated! We're always taking in new information and are not doomed to continue old patterns. Our brains can change.

Many thanks to for facilitating this amazing training!

What did you find most interesting? Comment below 🌟

04/13/2023

I used to be REALLY good at chasing.

“I’ll be happy when I go to high school…when I have more friends…when I get in the top 10% of my class…when I get the scholarships…when I go to my dream school.”

Guess what- I wasn’t happy when I accomplished these things. What ended up happening is I continued to chase what I felt would make me appear successful into adulthood- a very busy and important sounding job, trainings that made me look like an expert, a fancy apartment on the beach. It took years to divest from the idea of success I grew up with to finally get to what I have been working towards-ease.

I bet your daughter is really good at chasing too. I wonder what life would be like for her if she didn’t chase- if she chose instead?

Sending love on this rainy Miami day 💜 If this resonated with you, share with a friend 🌟

04/07/2023

So excited to announce this upcoming live with !

Dr. Dani Rosenkrantz is a Florida psychologist who supports Jewish LGBTQ+ and BIPOC young people and parents. Dr. Dani is passionate about helping folx build lives where they can be authentic and well despite ongoing oppression. In addition to supporting individuals, Dr. Dani supports parents of LGBTQ+ kids.

Please join us for this important talk and drop your questions for us here!

01/31/2022

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People have kids for a lot of reasons. This shouldn't be one of them. Your child does not exist for you to work your sh*t out or to fill with your own anxiety.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What would it look like if the patterns of intergenerational trauma were interrupted? What would your relationship look like with your kid? What would your relationships with your own caregivers (who probably had no idea they had a trauma history) look like?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Leave a 💜 below if this resonated 🌟

01/28/2022

Almost every parent I talk to has their own mother wound. Maybe you wanted to go to therapy and she was dismissive. You don't want to repeat these patterns with your own child.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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01/27/2022

As a parent, you want to protect your child from all the harm that could come their way and feel responsible for shielding them from that. When your kid is hurting, you are too.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you have a history of anxiety in your family or in your own life, you might see your child having panic attacks and feeling nervous or dreading school and feel responsible. You might think, "this is my fault" or "I'm a terrible mom" or "I don't know how to help them." But I want to assure you, you're not a failure as a mom if your kid is going through this. This is not your fault. By being here, you're showing up for them.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Want to get your kid the support they need? Click the link in the bio to work with me 🌟

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