Relationship Experts by Idit Sharoni, LMFT

09/09/2025

✨ Team Retreat ✨
This weekend, our Relationship Experts team gathered in the mountains of Banner Elk, NC for a much-needed retreat. Between breathtaking hikes, shared meals, and plenty of laughter, we got to reconnect not just as colleagues, but as people who share the same mission: helping couples heal and thrive.

Grateful for this team, for the conversations that filled our days, and for the reminder that slowing down together makes us stronger when we return to the important work we do. 💙

09/06/2025

Forgiveness after betrayal isn’t a magic switch. It doesn’t mean forgetting, condoning, or pretending the pain never happened.

Instead, forgiveness is an internal process—a gradual release of anger and bitterness, often made possible when reconciliation is paired with consistency, transparency, and accountability.

In this week’s podcast episode, I talk with Ana De La Cruz, LMFT, about the real role of forgiveness after infidelity. If you haven’t listened yet, this is the one you’ll want to press play on.

✨ Forgiveness may not be required to begin healing—but it can be one of the most powerful outcomes of doing the work.

🎧 Catch the full episode at iditsharoni.com/89

09/04/2025

🎙️ Episode 89 is live! 🎙️

Can you ever forgive infidelity? Today, I’m joined by Ana De La Cruz, LMFT, to talk about one of the most misunderstood parts of healing after an affair: forgiveness.

In this powerful conversation, we cover:
✔️ The real meaning of forgiveness (and what it isn’t)
✔️ Why forgiveness is different from reconciliation
✔️ Why “cheap forgiveness” often doesn’t last
✔️ How consistency and accountability can make forgiveness possible

If you’ve ever wondered whether forgiveness is even possible—or worried that you “have to” forgive in order to heal—this episode will bring clarity and hope.

👉 Listen now at iditsharoni.com/89

08/29/2025

✨ New Episode! ✨

If you’re in the aftermath of infidelity, you know how overwhelming it feels to search for the right help. The truth is, not all therapists, coaches, or programs are equipped to guide you — and choosing the wrong one can cost you time, money, and hope.

In Episode 88 of Relationships Uncomplicated, I share:
✔️ What real, effective help looks like after betrayal
✔️ Why it’s so critical to choose wisely early on
✔️ Red flags to avoid
✔️ How to prepare for a consultation call

💛 You deserve the right kind of help — one that truly supports your healing and rebuilding.

🎧 Listen now: iditsharoni.com/88

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08/28/2025

✨ BIG NEWS! ✨
I’m honored to have shared my perspective in SELF magazine’s latest article, “What’s Worse Than a Cheater? Apparently, Staying With One.”

In the piece, I talk about how women who choose to stay after infidelity often face harsher judgment than the person who cheated—a reflection of deeply rooted societal double standards.

💡 This isn’t about excusing betrayal. It’s about challenging the narratives that silence empathy and reduce women’s agency when they stay. It’s time to see these decisions through a more nuanced, compassionate lens.

As I share in the article:

“When a woman chooses to stay, she can be judged just as harshly for not leaving.”

I’d love for you to read it and reflect. You can check it out here:
👉 iditsharoni.com/SELF

Let’s reimagine compassion and dismantle outdated stigmas—together. 💛

08/28/2025

💔 “Should I start healing… even if I’m not sure I want to stay?”
If this question has been living in your head and heart, you are not alone.
And this week’s episode of Relationships Uncomplicated was made just for you.

🎙 In Episode 87, I sit down with our incredible program specialist, Alana Tokayer, LMFT, to talk about one of the most tender, confusing moments couples face after infidelity:
👉 Starting the healing process while still sitting in deep uncertainty.

We explore:
✔ Why not knowing is normal
✔ What to look for before committing to healing
✔ How real remorse and trust are rebuilt
✔ And how clarity often comes through healing, not before it

Whether you're the hurt partner or both of you are in that “maybe” place—this episode will meet you with compassion, insight, and permission to not have it all figured out.

🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts or at iditsharoni.com/87

👇 In the comments, let us know: What helped you start healing before you had all the answers?

07/27/2025

“Everyone keeps asking... so, are you staying or leaving?”
When you’ve just found out about a betrayal, that question can feel like an added wound. And yet — it’s one of the first things people ask.

🎙️ In Episode 87 of the Relationships Uncomplicated Podcast, we dive into why so many hurt partners feel rushed to decide — and why that pressure can be harmful.

Here’s what often fuels it:
⏳ Family and friends demanding clarity
📣 Cultural messages that say staying = weakness
💭 Your own expectations of how you thought you'd react if this ever happened

But the truth? You don’t owe anyone an immediate answer.
Not even yourself.

Clarity doesn’t come from pressure. It comes from healing.

💬 “Making a permanent decision in emotional survival mode rarely helps.”
You’re allowed to slow down.
You’re allowed to not know.
And you’re absolutely allowed to begin healing anyway.

🎧 Episode 87 is out now. Listen wherever you get your podcasts.

07/19/2025

Everyone’s talking about it…
But we’re not here to gossip.

In our latest podcast panel, our team of infidelity recovery experts takes a different approach to the now-viral Coldplay concert affair involving Andy Byron and Kristin Cabot.

We talk about what really happens when infidelity becomes public:
💔 The trauma of exposure
🧠 The pressure placed on betrayed partners
⚖️ The “digital courtroom” effect
❤️‍🩹 And what healing actually looks like behind the scenes

This is not about judgment. It’s about understanding.

If you’ve ever experienced betrayal—or been affected by the noise surrounding stories like this—you’ll want to hear this honest and compassionate conversation.

🎧 Listen now: iditsharoni.com/coldplay
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06/20/2025

Let’s get real: infidelity shakes everything, and the search for answers often leads to one loaded term: “s*x addiction.”

But here’s what we unpack in this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated:

🧠 5 Key Takeaways to help you move from confusion to clarity:

1️⃣ S*x addiction isn’t a recognized diagnosis
The DSM-5 doesn’t include it because the science isn’t there. That matters.

2️⃣ Out-of-Control S*xual Behavior (OCSB) is a more accurate lens
It focuses on values, choices, and emotional regulation, not disease or shame.

3️⃣ Stopping the behavior ≠ healing
Without understanding the emotional drivers behind it, change doesn’t last.

4️⃣ Mislabeling can block healing
Calling everything an “addiction” can strip away personal agency and keep couples stuck.

5️⃣ There is a path forward—without shame
You can move through this, together or separately, with the right support and clarity.

💬 Whether you're the partner who strayed or the one left hurting, this episode is for you.
🎧 Listen now https://iditsharoni.com/is-it-s*x-addiction-understanding-out-of-control-s*xual-behavior-after-infidelity/.

06/18/2025

If you've just discovered infidelity or are navigating its aftermath, you might be grappling with some tough questions. 🤔

Are they addicted to s*x? Am I a s*x addict? It’s completely understandable to seek answers in the chaos of betrayal. But remember, labeling these complex emotions can sometimes hinder healing rather than help it.

Let’s focus on understanding and communication instead of getting stuck in labels. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to seek support along the way. 💔✨

Full episode at iditsharoni.com/85

06/17/2025

“Is it s*x addiction?”
When infidelity happens, it’s one of the first questions people ask. It seems to offer an explanation—but what if that label leads you down the wrong path?

🎙️ In Episode 86 of Relationships Uncomplicated, we break down why the term “s*x addiction” can be misleading—and why understanding out-of-control s*xual behavior (OCSB) gives couples a clearer, more healing-focused way forward.

What we cover in this episode:
Why “s*x addiction” isn’t an official mental health diagnosis
What OCSB is—and how it centers accountability, not shame
How to move beyond behavior change into real emotional healing

If you or your partner feel stuck in painful s*xual patterns, this episode offers a compassionate framework grounded in real research, not stigmatizing labels.

💬 You’re not broken. You’re not alone. There is a better way forward.
🎧 Tune in now https://iditsharoni.com/is-it-s*x-addiction-understanding-out-of-control-s*xual-behavior-after-infidelity/.

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06/04/2025

🎙️ EPISODE 85 IS LIVE: “Do I Need to Know Everything to Heal?”

After infidelity, many partners fall into what we call the data collection phase—the need to gather every detail of the betrayal.

This is totally normal. But when it continues for weeks, months, or even years, it can hold couples back from healing.

In this episode, we’ll explore:
🧩 Why hurt partners ask for so many details
🔁 Signs you might be stuck in the forensic data loop
🛠️ Steps to shift out of it and move toward real recovery

🎧 Listen now:
👉 https://iditsharoni.com/85-do-you-need-every-detail-for-infidelity-recovery/