08/17/2024
As a behavior analyst, who works in and outside of the schools, I see the positive influence a kind child can have. Unfortunately, more often than not, I see how cruel children can be and the negative influence they have in the life of anyone who is different from them 😔. My mom did a great job at modeling and teaching my sister and myself kindness and compassion. I believe it is something which MUST be taught- because I can tell you, it is not what you see when children are in social situations. So what do you teach your child? Here’s a few things I would advise teachers and parents to teach:
- Excluding someone from a game is not kind. Even if you are not the one telling the child they can’t play and keep playing then you are NOT making a kind choice. Choose to do better, stand up for others by leaving the game or letting others know what is happening is not kind.
- Making a decision to stop talking to your friends when someone you “don’t like” comes around is cruel and a type of bullying. Include others in your conversation, it will cost you nothing.
- Laughing with someone and laughing at someone are different. Know the difference by putting yourself in the other person’s shoes.
- Not answering someone or acting like you can’t hear them is not kind. Respect everyone the same way you would like to be respected.
- Telling someone to do something that is dangerous, will get them in trouble, or something that will make others laugh at them is cruel. If you see someone doing this to someone then tell the teacher and stand up against bullying.
- Using someone’s name in any other way than the way it should be said is not nice. Calling them anything other than their name is not kind.
- Being kind may mean you help- maybe help by playing with the other child, by smiling, by helping with something that may be easy for you but hard for them.
- Show compassion for the children that may not have nice clothes, school supplies, or may not smell to good- not everyone has parents that may be able to care for them the way you are cared for- so try to be extra kind to them- share your supplies or give it to them.
- Being kind is an action