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02/28/2026

What she’s doing in that video is exactly how SOME people show up in therapy.

They learn the language.

They perform the insight.

They center their hurt feelings instead of the harm they caused.

And the moment their ego gets threatened, they snap right back into the same narcissistic, manipulative patterns they swore they were “working on.”

Because that’s not healing, it’s performance.

It’s “give me a cookie,” not “let me take accountability.”

It’s “I’ve changed,” until change requires discomfort.

Whether it’s politics or relationships, the pattern is the same:

If the growth is real, it holds under pressure.

If it’s performative, it collapses the second you stop rewarding it.

And too many women have dated this exact dynamic.

People who want the language of healing,
the appearance of insight,
the s*x/money/attention that comes with looking like a “good guy,”
but none of the internal restructuring required to actually be one.

This isn’t deconstruction, it’s ego maintenance.

And if this hit a nerve?

That’s the point.

Deconstruct the nerve. Don’t ask the nerve to stop reacting just because the truth finally grazed it.

02/15/2026

A lot of hyper-religious men were raised hearing, “God protects the good. God punishes evil.”

But in their own homes?

They watched abuse go unchecked.
They watched infidelity get excused.
They watched power win.
They watched silence protect the offender.

No lightning bolt came.
No divine intervention happened.
No one stopped it.

So what did they actually learn?

They learned morality is performative.
They learned authority goes unchallenged.
They learned you can harm someone and still be called “a good Christian man.”

That’s where the split forms.

Outwardly?
Bible verses.
Church attendance.
“God-fearing.”
“I want a Proverbs 31 woman.”

Privately?
Lying.
Cheating.
Manipulating.
Gaslighting.
Stealing peace from everyone around them.

Because they saw the truth early:
The man who cheated kept the marriage.
The man who controlled everyone kept the power.
The man who harmed others still got respected on Sunday.

Many of these men were also abused and told to stay silent.
Scripture was weaponized.
Obedience was enforced.
Masculinity was defined as dominance and suppression.

They were never given language for what happened.
Never given therapy.
Never given permission to grieve.

So they repress.

And repression doesn’t eliminate trauma — it fragments identity.

When your first experiences of intimacy are fused with shame, fear, secrecy, and power, intimacy gets distorted.
Desire tangles with control.
Vulnerability feels unsafe.
Exposure feels catastrophic.

So instead of confronting their trauma, they perform righteousness.

Publicly: devout, moral, “man of God.”
Privately: unresolved, compulsive, split.

They don’t fear God.
They fear exposure.

And when you say, “I want a man of God,” but you’re not evaluating character, accountability, emotional maturity, and self-awareness…

You’re selecting for performance.

Because churchy chitchat does not equal integrity.

02/13/2026

Therapists: children are in detention centers,
being eaten and s*xually abused and you’re talking about inner child work?

People are being killed. Vanished. And you’re posting your “gentle reminder to drink water” content?

Posting about boundaries and breathing exercises like the world isn’t on fire.

You are backing pedophiles, murderers, and liars with your silence.

And you, the person who asks your clients to be vulnerable, to trust you, to open up about their deepest pain, you can’t even post about it?

Pain that they’ve also experienced now being witnessed on a national scale and you’re….quiet?

You want them to show up on your calendar with their payments/insurance reimbursements in your wallet and you’re….quiet.

You want your audience to show up in your comments, buy your programs about inner child work, breath work and healing trauma and you’re…quiet?

Therapy is inherently political.

You don’t get to opt out.

You don’t get to hide behind “I’m not a political person.”

You chose a field that serves the most vulnerable people in our society.

That comes with a responsibility that goes beyond your session notes.

It’s not enough to turn off the TV anymore.

Life is not the same.

Your clients know it.

Their nervous systems know it.

The question is, do you?

I’m not asking you to be an activist.

I’m asking you to be what you already claimed to be: someone who gives a damn.

I said it in 2020 and I’ll say it louder in 2026:
If you can’t stand up for marginalized communities, quit this field.

Because you are not a healer.

You’re a transaction.

There’s no reason why ChatGPT shows more empathy than you have in your entire career yet talking about being replaced in our Facebook groups.

This is why. You lack the empathy you tell your clients they should have received.

And for that reason. Your silence is also mirroring the indifference many had about their pain.

And your audiences here on social media see it as well.

And I get it. We are fighting wars on many fronts. But don’t think for one minute this doesn’t affect you.

It does. That rage in your chest you feel watching/reading this?

Start there.

02/13/2026

WATCH TILL THE END. They are eroding everything down to the bone so that eventually, the only thing left for white women… is breeding.

It’s always been about control.

Black and brown women have spent years yelling into the void, not just for ourselves, but for you.

When we said it’s all connected, reproductive rights, mass incarceration, book bans, voter suppression, police brutality, transphobia, you thought we were being dramatic.

You were never exempt, just temporarily protected by proximity.

But even the patriarchy’s favorite daughters become disposable once they’ve served their purpose.

Ask history.

We’re not yelling anymore.

We’re watching.

But we are also warning you to STAND UP!

🎥 @ dmoncrea/Aunty Dar on TT

02/07/2026

Funny how “ideal femininity” just happens to look like a child.

Small. Hairless.

Soft-spoken.

Sexually inexperienced.

Agreeable.

Easy to control.

No appetite.

No anger.

No needs.

No voice.

Are we catching on yet?!?

A culture that glorifies women being tiny, submissive, inexperienced, and compliant isn’t celebrating femininity,it’s rehearsing power.

It’s training women to take up less space so men never have to grow UP.

Adult women have bodies.

Desires. Opinions.

Boundaries. Rage.

Wisdom.

And every system that tries to shave that down into “pretty,” “pure,” and “palatable” is telling on itself.

If your version of femininity requires women to be quieter, smaller, and easier than their nervous system actually is, you don’t want a partner.

You want a doll.

And we’re done pretending that’s not creepy.

02/02/2026

Please find something safe to do that isn’t your messy ex or another rebound tour 😂

Let’s listen to our intuition or whoever you pray to at night because rolling recklessly into another pit stop on that rebound tour isn’t what you want 😂😂😂

*ahem* *therapist voice*

Let’s consider the consequences of not sitting with our feelings and giving ourselves a chance to heal.

Mmkaayyyy??

We’re ushering the era of high standards, healthy boundaries and paying attention to red flags when they show up while also embodying the very things we want in a healthy partner.

Take my relationship avatar quiz if you’re ready to find out what’s keeping you stuck on your healing journey!

Link in bio: lovingmeafterwe.com/raq

We’re not doing potential anymore ❤️

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01/27/2026

I want to try something different here, because a few of you said you were hoping for a healthy conversation, and I’m actually open to that.

So this is me asking, genuinely: no political rhetoric answers allowed.

Given what is publicly documented and unfolding right now, that Black and brown men and women are being disproportionately targeted in ICE enforcement, what led you to believe that a Black woman who speaks openly about feminism, patriarchy, misogyny, and safety would be okay with this?

I’m not asking that rhetorically.

I’m asking it because I’m trying to understand the internal logic.

There are law-enforcement officials themselves who have spoken out about this targeting and said plainly that it has crossed a line.

Brooklyn Park Police Chief Mark Bruley in Minnesota reported that federal ICE agents are racially profiling and targeting people of color, including off-duty officers, during immigration enforcement operations.

So when some of you say, “I thought you were different,” I pause.

Different how?

Different as in quieter?

Different as in willing to compartmentalize harm?

What I’m wondering and again, this is curiosity, not accusation is whether familiarity with self-silencing makes other people’s silence feel normal.

When you’ve learned to tolerate things in your own life in your family systems, your romantic relationships, your proximity to power, the contrast disappears.

So when someone speaks up, it can feel less like disagreement and more like betrayal.

Not because they changed.

But because they didn’t participate in the same self-abandonment.

I’ve never believed in empowerment that requires denial.

I’ve never believed in feminism that only applies when it’s convenient.

And I’ve never believed that safety comes from pretending you’re the exception.

So if this moment is unsettling, I don’t think it’s because I’m suddenly “different.”

I think it’s because the values were never as aligned as you hoped, and sitting with that discomfort is part of an honest conversation too.

I’m open to dialogue.

But the cost of admission are honesty, introspection and vulnerability.

01/26/2026

If immigrants were actually responsible for “all the violent crime,” the data would show it.

It doesn’t.

According to the National Institute of Justice, undocumented immigrants are arrested for violent crime at less than half the rate of U.S.-born citizens.

For property crime? About a quarter of the rate.

For homicide? Lowest of all groups.

Consistently.

So if you’re still clinging to the idea that immigrants are the threat, what you’re defending isn’t public safety, it’s a narrative that helps you avoid a harder truth.

That the danger you’re afraid of doesn’t come from “outsiders.”

It comes from inside the house.

From the men you know.
The systems you protect.
The violence you excuse because it feels familiar.

Immigrants make a convenient villain because they can’t talk back, can’t vote, and can be blamed without consequence.

Fear works better when it’s aimed downward.

This isn’t ignorance anymore.

The data has been available for years.

At this point, it’s a choice:

Do you care about facts or do you care about preserving a belief that makes you feel righteous while pointing in the wrong direction?

Because the numbers aren’t confused.

Only the story you’ve been told is.

01/26/2026

Some of you are furious because I refused to perform palatability in the face of dehumanization in my last post.

And that rage isn’t about me.

It’s about recognition.

You are angry because you recognize the same survival strategy you use with men, stay quiet, stay agreeable, stay pickable and you don’t like seeing it reflected back without cushioning.

You’ve learned how to be prey to men who don’t like you so well that you mistake silence for safety and self-betrayal for maturity.

So when I refuse to contort myself for approval, it disrupts the fantasy you have of me.

But I see you.

You wanted me to want to be chosen by you the way you want to be chosen by them.

You thought I’d trade my integrity for likes the way you trade yours for proximity.

I won’t.

I will never betray myself to make you comfortable.

I will never go quiet to validate what you tolerate.

And I will never soften violence just so you don’t have to look at the cost of your own silence.

What you’re actually mad about is this:
I’m not playing the role you’ve accepted as normal.

Because if I stay loud, clear, and unmoved you can’t keep pretending that your suffering is inevitable instead of familiar.

So yes, unfollow. That was the point.

Some of you are not here to heal, you’re here to be reassured that betraying yourself is still a viable strategy.

It isn’t.

And no, I’m not setting myself on fire so you can stay warm in dynamics that are burning you alive.

That’s the work.
That’s the mirror.
That’s why this hurts.

You don’t see me as fully human, and that’s why my speaking up enrages you.

Because it mirrors the truth you don’t want to face: you keep laundering humanity for men who would gladly strip it from you too.

01/26/2026

Nothing new here, but just so we’re clear for the uninitiated to this page:

Therapy is political, but it goes deeper than that at this point.

When you still support Trump after Renee Good and Alex Pretti were killed, you are no longer talking about “policy differences” or “economic anxiety” about eggs.

Because they’re now $15.99/dozen and some of you are still championing the evil we see before us in this moment.

You are making a moral choice.

Because those names didn’t become known because they were rare.

They became known because their deaths were caught on camera.

There are countless others whose names you will never learn.

No footage.

No outrage cycle.

No hashtags.

Just silence and a body count that doesn’t interrupt your comfort.

And when you say “I don’t agree with everything he does, but….”
what you’re really saying is:
‼️The cruelty isn’t a dealbreaker for me‼️

You are signaling that state violence, racialized fear, and the casual disposal of human lives are acceptable collateral as long as you feel protected, powerful, or politically aligned.

You gave consent to this.

And while we will all get through this, know that I will never forgive any of you who voted for this or those who stayed on the sidelines.

Supporting Trump in this moment means aligning yourself with a system that requires dehumanization to function.

The same dehumanization so many of your exes engaged with you.

The same men in many cases who voted for this.

So no, we don’t share values.

And no, this isn’t about being “divisive.”

It’s about being honest.

If that truth makes you uncomfortable, that’s not my tone.

That’s your conscience knocking.

History doesn’t ask how you intended to show up.

It records what you tolerated, and who you stood with while others were dying.

And some of you are standing on the wrong side of it.

This country will come back from this but as for those who voted for this?

We won’t.

01/19/2026

Because when you choose men you don’t respect, you stay on edge.

Hyperaware. Resentful. Reactive.

He’s not a partner, he’s a trigger.

He’s not stable, he’s familiar.

But there is a different way to love.

It starts with choosing men who feel like home, not homework.

You don’t need more self-help books, another silent treatment, or one more fight where you end up apologizing just for having a need.

You need a healing space that gets it.

That gets you.

That’s what the Inner Circle is.

It’s a guided membership where I help women like you:
➖Understand your triggers
➖Break painful patterns
➖Learn how to feel safe loving and being loved

You get weekly mini-lessons (no fluff, just truth, tools, and healing), journaling prompts, and access to an entire vault of self-paced masterclasses.

➡️For what you’re going through now? Start here:

🌸Overcoming The Attraction to Emotionally Unavailable Partners
→ Helps unpack why you chase chaos over consistency.

🌸Healing The Father Wound
→ Gets into the core reason some women “wait for daddy to do better.”

🌸Chaos to Calm: Why Boring Feels Wrong (But Isn’t)
→ Explains why you’re reactive in safe dynamics and addicted to chaos in unstable ones.

These are not quick-fix “rah rah” pep talks. 
They’re grounded, evidence-based, and trauma-informed—but still real enough to make you laugh through the tears.

Because I’ve been there too. 
Choosing men I didn’t even like because it felt safer than being alone. 
Overfunctioning so I wouldn’t have to sit with the ache of being under-loved. 
Calling it strength, when it was just survival.

But healing is possible. And I’d love to help you do just that!

Here’s how:

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January 31, 2025 at 12pm EST!

01/16/2026

This is exactly why we talk about these things
at Loving Me After We.

Because every time I call this out, there’s always a group of women saying,
“Why are you coming for women?
Men are the problem.”

And yes. Men are a PART OF the problem.

But some of you are also the problem that supports the problem.

Because some of you are actively reinforcing the same systems that keep women stuck.

Some of you are happily and deceptively leading other women into toxic relationships and unsafe dynamics because it benefits you financially.

Let’s call it what it is.

Just like some men deceive women for s*x, some women are deceiving other women
for money.

Selling shrinkage as strategy.
Selling self-betrayal as femininity.
Selling silence as peace.

That’s a grift.

And this is why male-centered women are their own worst enemy.

Some of you are literally selling content that teaches women how to betray themselves
for male approval.

And some of you aren’t even selling it, you’re in the peanut gallery cheering it on, parroting it, defending it, and shaming women who refuse to comply.

All of it serves the same function:
keeping women small, quiet, and available.

And it’s wild to watch women enforce it while calling it femininity.

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Hi I'm Ginger! I am a psychotherapist, relationship coach and founder of Loving Me After We. My specialty is helping women overcome heartbreak, increase self-love and confidence after a toxic relationship. All while learning how to heal their hearts and finally become the best version of themselves. In order to embody confidence, emotional security and availability, you must heal your heart and become aware of the road blocks to a healthy relationship - with yourself. Working with me you will learn how to stop: ❌ Over-giving, over-functioning and people pleasing in order to secure love, attention and affection. ❌ Choosing emotionally unavailable partners ❌ Burying the emotional pain you've endured ❌ Letting narcissists and emotionally unavailable men play hot potato with your heart ❌ Entertaining men who don't know what they want (or who they want) ❌ Trying to turn your "friends with benefits" into a forever relationship ❌ Cooking, cleaning and paying the bills of men who want a mama not relationship ❌ Leading with s*x, your resume, degrees and who you are on paper ❌ Settling for the "where is this going" limbo relationships ... and learn how to heal your heart, increase your confidence and self-love so that you can become the best version of yourself and attract amazingly healthy love! Cheers to the revolution of women healing their hearts so they can stop accepting bad behavior and start the best love affair they’ve ever known - with themselves - before doing so with the men in their lives.

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