The Everyday Oiler

04/30/2026

I hope one day you realize that someone staying and waiting on you to change is deeper than just love… that’s real commitment. They weren’t staying because they didn’t see what was going on. They saw it. They felt it. But they kept giving you chances because they believed you could do better. They weren’t holding onto the version of you that hurt them—they were holding onto the version of you they knew you were capable of being. And that’s what makes it hurt. Because they kept choosing you, hoping things would change, while slowly putting themselves to the side. Not because they were weak… but because they cared that much. That kind of loyalty is rare. And most people don’t realize what they had until it’s already gone.

04/30/2026

I have the best friends in the 🌎🫶🏼

04/30/2026

Being the oldest daughter comes with a kind of pressure that a lot of people don’t talk about… From a young age, you’re expected to be the example. The responsible one. The one who “has it together.” You grow up faster than you’re supposed to. You help take care of siblings. You learn to put your feelings to the side. You carry responsibilities that don’t always match your age. And somewhere along the way… you become the strong one. The one everyone leans on. The one who figures things out. The one who feels like they can’t fall apart because too many people depend on them. But what people don’t see is how heavy that can get. Because even the strong one gets tired. Even the one who “handles everything” needs someone to check on them too. And as you get older, that role doesn’t just go away… It shows up in your relationships. You overgive. You overcompensate. You feel like it’s your job to fix everything, hold everything together, and make sure everyone else is okay. Even at the expense of yourself. And healing looks like learning that you don’t always have to be the strong one. You don’t always have to carry everything. You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to need help. You’re allowed to just be.

04/29/2026

You do not need universal approval to walk in obedience.

Clarity comes from staying faithful to what you know you were called to build, even when others do not see it yet.

Alignment always reveals itself over time, and the right people recognize it when the fruit becomes visible.

Stay steady in your calling today and resist the urge to explain yourself. Save this and recommit to building what you were entrusted with, not what others expect.

04/29/2026

I show up for myself because I've taught myself that I can count on me, always.

04/26/2026

04/25/2026

Surround yourself with people who build you up. People who inspire you, encourage you and love you no matter what you do.

04/25/2026

I’ve been through seasons in motherhood where I felt overlooked, misunderstood, and honestly taken for granted, and there were times I questioned my own worth just trying to keep the peace for everyone else, but something shifts when you start choosing yourself while still showing up for your kids, a quiet strength that doesn’t need validation anymore, and now I move differently, focusing on growth, peace, and the life I’m building for me and my children, and I know that as I step into this next version of myself, not everyone will have access to me the way they once did, and I’m finally okay with that 🌱

04/25/2026

Slept for 24 hours, therefore I did NOT meet my mandatory hydration goals yesterday 🫣

My surgeon would prefer I go get fluids in the ED but who has time for all that?! Two of these bad boys, a pinch of pink salt and some bone broth and I'm back in the game 💪🏼

Did you know that a healthy human body is about two-thirds water?

Water lubricates the joints and eyes, aids digestion, facilitates optimal metabolic health and function, flushes out waste and toxins, and keeps the skin healthy. Dehydration upsets the body’s salt and sugar balance, negatively impacting everything from energy levels to concentration.

Approximately 75% of the globe is dehydrated, lacking key electrolytes that are essential to keeping cells charged and energized. Electrolytes are integral to various bodily functions, like maintaining proper muscle and nerve function and regulating your body’s fluid balance. But water alone isn’t enough.

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04/25/2026

What’s meant for you may not be perfect…
but it won’t constantly make you question your worth.

Because the right things don’t just bring excitement…
They bring clarity, consistency, and calm.

Sometimes disappointment isn’t rejection.

It’s redirection.

04/24/2026

Girl…let him sit in the life he chose. You don’t need to prove anything, compete, or beg to be seen. If he could experience you, your consistency, your effort, your love and still choose something else… let him live that choice all the way through. Some people only understand your value through your absence. They’ll confuse new with better and something that appears easier with being peaceful. And sometimes the lesson doesn’t come from words… it comes from experience.

So you just keep focusing on you…growing and evolving. Because shrinking yourself to be chosen will cost you more than losing him ever will. If you were real, solid, and genuine… you didn’t lose anything. He didn’t find better… he chose different. And more often than not… that difference teaches him everything he refused to learn with you. 🧡🩷

04/24/2026

World Book Day

Fun fact: I wrote a book!! And it's going to be published 🫶🏼