Psychotherapy with Bri

Psychotherapy with Bri Bri Kalikow, LCSW, is a clinical psychotherapist licensed in New York and Florida, and the founder of BK Therapy.

She provides individual and couples therapy that is both thoughtful and results-driven, while also leading workshops, lectures, and groups.

Excited to be leading this workshop! Join us 💙*Limits Without Shame*Learn practical tools to strengthen your connection ...
04/06/2026

Excited to be leading this workshop! Join us 💙
*Limits Without Shame*

Learn practical tools to strengthen your connection with children while creating more calm, clarity, and consistency across the environments they move through.

Join us for a free, in-person workshop designed for the adults in a child’s life; parents, educators, and caregivers, focused on building stronger relationships and more effective responses to behavior.

Led by psychotherapist and systems-based expert Bri Kalikow, this workshop moves beyond one-size-fits-all advice to focus on how behavior actually develops and what truly shifts it. You’ll learn how adult responses across home, school, and caregiving environments shape patterns over time, and how to work with that instead of against it.

Whether a child is struggling academically, emotionally, or behaviorally, or you’re simply looking to create more consistency and connection, this session offers practical tools grounded in real-life application, not theory.

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What You’ll Learn
• How to respond instead of react in challenging moments
• Why behavior makes sense, and how to work with it
• How to reduce power struggles without losing structure or authority
• How to hold clear, consistent limits while maintaining connection
• How tone, timing, and adult regulation impact cooperation
• Why alignment across adults and environments matters, and how to build it

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Who This Is For
• Parents, educators, and caregivers of children of all ages
• Families and professionals navigating behavioral or emotional challenges
• Adults who feel stuck between being “too strict” or “too lenient”
• Anyone looking for practical tools that hold up across real-life settings

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What to Expect
• A grounded, supportive environment that reflects real-life complexity
• Clear, actionable strategies you can begin using immediately
• Space to reflect, ask questions, and shift how you understand behavior
• Connection with others navigating similar challenges

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Bonus

✨ Snacks & refreshments provided
🎁 Giveaways & prizes

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Organizer

Acton Academy Miami South
Instagram:
Phone: 786-400-6603

Limits Without ShameFREE WorkshopLearn practical tools to strengthen your connection with children while creating more c...
04/06/2026

Limits Without Shame
FREE Workshop

Learn practical tools to strengthen your connection with children while creating more calm, clarity, and consistency across the environments they move through.

Join us for a free, in-person workshop designed for the adults in a child’s life; parents, educators, and caregivers, focused on building stronger relationships and more effective responses to behavior.

Led by psychotherapist and systems-based expert Bri Kalikow, this workshop moves beyond one-size-fits-all advice to focus on how behavior actually develops and what truly shifts it. You’ll learn how adult responses across home, school, and caregiving environments shape patterns over time, and how to work with that instead of against it.

Whether a child is struggling academically, emotionally, or behaviorally, or you’re simply looking to create more consistency and connection, this session offers practical tools grounded in real-life application, not theory.

⸝

What You’ll Learn
• How to respond instead of react in challenging moments
• Why behavior makes sense, and how to work with it
• How to reduce power struggles without losing structure or authority
• How to hold clear, consistent limits while maintaining connection
• How tone, timing, and adult regulation impact cooperation
• Why alignment across adults and environments matters, and how to build it

⸝

Who This Is For
• Parents, educators, and caregivers of children of all ages
• Families and professionals navigating behavioral or emotional challenges
• Adults who feel stuck between being “too strict” or “too lenient”
• Anyone looking for practical tools that hold up across real-life settings

⸝

What to Expect
• A grounded, supportive environment that reflects real-life complexity
• Clear, actionable strategies you can begin using immediately
• Space to reflect, ask questions, and shift how you understand behavior
• Connection with others navigating similar challenges

⸝

Bonus

✨ Snacks & refreshments provided
🎁 Giveaways & prizes

⸝

Organizer

Acton Academy Miami South
Instagram:
Phone: 786-400-6603

03/27/2026

The irony is… the one noticing the girl standing by, making space, and pulling her in to join? Also mine.

Same parents? Sure. Same experience? Not even close. Different kids, different needs (dare I say, including my own? Are mom’s allowed to have needs yet?) and different versions of me showing up as the years pass by. Sibling dynamics and personality differences are real.

My older got first-time, reading-all-the-early-childhood-development-articles, developmental-ages-and-stages, researching-different-parenting-techniques-and-styles-and-what-to-say-and-how-to-say-it mom energy. One kid, all of my attention, and a global pandemic where everything slowed down and was around all the time. Every first-time mom knows this version of parenting.

My younger got came-early-mid-move, postpartum-anxiety-and-depression, hypervigilant-obsessive-neurosis-for-the-first-eight-months-of-life, then holy-sh*t-wait-I’m-three-months-behind-on-your-vaccines energy. I-don’t-think-I’ve-ever-taken-you-to-a-playgroup-or-a-music-class energy. Working-more-less-time-for-one-on-one-interaction-and-play, less-strict-but-more-structured, less-patient-more-direct, more-burnout-more-going-on-less-time-to-overthink-every-decision. Second child, different parenting.

Same house, different experience. Same parents, different childhood.

Allow me to save you the time of reading three books, several articles, signing up for an online course, and spending valuable therapy time focusing on understanding sibling rivalry… because parenting multiple kids is not the same as parenting one.

If you have a sibling, you know you were not raised in the same home as they were and so you don’t need me to tell you that Your kids are not being raised in “the same home”, and you know how much I hate this word but I’m gonna use it anyway cause I’m feeling bold they “shouldn’t” be. Different personalities need different parenting.

When they grow up and say you didn’t treat us the same, the answer is… correct. You weren’t the same, and neither was I.

There, I just saved you a few family therapy sessions. You’re welcome.

We all had a pretty big laugh when this was shared.To be fair, “psychotherapist” is a confusing word for a small human.B...
03/22/2026

We all had a pretty big laugh when this was shared.

To be fair, “psychotherapist” is a confusing word for a small human.

But also… I did choose to spend my days sitting with people in their most unfiltered, irrational, overwhelming thoughts. So I’m not exactly jumping in to correct her.

I ran a group yesterday and shared this tool, and I was genuinely moved by their response. I had only ever introduced it...
03/22/2026

I ran a group yesterday and shared this tool, and I was genuinely moved by their response. I had only ever introduced it to the couples I work with, and of course, I didn’t have it organized in one place, unless my notes app and memory count. So I decided to put pen to paper and realized it could benefit many others, so here we go.

Most couples I work with are not struggling because they don’t care. They’re in my office, which already tells me they care a lot. What I see far more often is people caught in the reality of life, especially parents, where there is always something to handle, fix, or get through, and over time the relationship shifts.

Sometimes it’s a jolt... how did we get here, and sometimes it’s so gradual you don’t see it until it feels too far gone. But even then, you’re still a team, you’re just not inside it with each other in the same way.

I created this because I kept seeing that pattern, people needed something structured enough to guide them but not so rule-heavy it became another thing to get wrong, something that interrupts the slow loss of connection in the day to day and gives you a way back into each other without needing a breaking point or a massive conversation.

It’s simple on purpose, and yes, it can feel awkward at first, it’s rarely anyone’s favorite thing in the beginning, but that part changes.

I don’t care if you do this perfectly, I care that you’re willing to sit with each other and stay present, especially in the parts that feel uncomfortable, defensive, or vulnerable, because if you can stay there and actually listen instead of preparing your response, you can shift more than you think.

I said what I feel most strongly about in the last two slides, and if you made it that far, I tell you why- and I'm impressed.

If this felt useful, try it, not because it’s perfect, but because it gives you a way to keep choosing each other in the middle of everything else (crazy, hectic, painful, beautiful, difficult life.

03/17/2026

Most couples don’t "fall apart" because they don’t love each other, they fall apart because they don’t have the tools.

When communication breaks down, when the same fights keep happening, when one person shuts down and the other chases, it starts to feel like you’re stuck in a loop with no way out. But there is...

This is where evidence-based couples therapy changes everything.

There's a reason I have a job, relationships are hard! You're not born knowing how to navigate all of life's complexities. This is where REAL, research-backed methods like Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method that help you understand why you’re stuck, can actually shift it.

Inside this article, I break down:
• What “proven couples therapy methods” actually mean (and why it matters)
• How to break negative relationship patterns like pursue/withdraw
• The 5-5-5 rule for couples (a simple daily reset that actually works)
• Why emotional safety (not perfection) is what rebuilds connection
• Practical tools you can start using immediately

Because the goal isn’t to stop fighting, it’s to stop fighting against each other.

If your relationship has felt heavy, disconnected, or just… harder than it used to be, this is a different way forward.

🔗 Read the full article in bio to learn how to reconnect, repair, and actually feel like a team again.

Yup, I wrote "us" and then put (our nervous systems) in parentheses... because for kids those two things are basically t...
03/15/2026

Yup, I wrote "us" and then put (our nervous systems) in parentheses... because for kids those two things are basically the same.

Children aren’t just listening to what we say. Their nervous systems are constantly picking up on ours. They feel how we handle stress, they notice what happens in our bodies when something goes wrong, they absorb how we respond to frustration, chaos, noise, conflict… all of it.

Over time those patterns impact how their own nervous system learns to deal with big emotions.

That doesn’t mean parents have to be perfectly calm all the time. That’s not realistic and that’s not how human nervous systems work.

What matters is that kids grow up around adults who are doing the work too. Adults who try to regulate themselves, who repair, who show that difficult emotions are something we can talk about without shame. (Don't get me started on shame.)

In a lot of ways raising emotionally healthy kids starts with the emotional work we’re actually willing to do ourselves. And as much as I hate to say it, that work never ends. Keep at it. Never got into Star Wars... but, 'May the force be with you!' is something I know.





03/10/2026

No long caption here. No hashtags. My caption on the previous reel is enough… I performed a cover of this song, what feels like a lifetime again, because it resonated so deeply. Still does. 💙

03/09/2026

The hardest moment is when you begin to realize the word “love” may have meant something very different to the other person than it did to you.

For many people who experience betrayal in a relationship, the hardest moment is not the discovery itself.

Moments that once felt confusing, and the feeling that something wasn’t right even while you kept trying to trust, start to make sense.

When people talk about betrayal trauma, they often focus on the moment everything comes to light. The moment you discover the secret life alongside the relationship you THOUGHT you were in.

But something happens after the initial shock passes. A different wave hits, and the relationship history looks entirely different.

Then, you feel an even deeper pain... because you are grieving more than the betrayal itself.

You are grieving the relationship you believed you had and the version of love you thought you were building.

Maybe it’s because I’m a millennial who grew up with John Mayer playing somewhere in the background of my life, but I have always believed that “Love Is A Verb”.

It’s more than an emotion... It’s something you do.

Once you start looking at love that way, something shifts. You stop paying attention to what people say and start paying close attention to how they treat the people they say they love.

Anyone can say the words “I love you.” That part is easy.

Saying it when ‘the water is calm’ is easy. But real love reveals itself in how someone moves through life’s waves with you.

If you have experienced betrayal, deception, infidelity, or the unraveling of a relationship you believed was solid, the depth of that pain makes sense.

Many betrayed partners eventually reach this moment of clarity, even though the path through betrayal trauma and healing can be LONG.

Here's the thing, you don’t have to keep rewriting the word love even though you feel the pull to. It's hard, because looking at your life without it can feel like looking at the sand once the word is washed away.

If this resonates with you, you are not alone.

03/06/2026

If I hear one more person repeat the advice “never go to bed angry,” I’m going to start looking into early retirement. 😵‍💫

It’s one of those pieces of “relationship wisdom” people repeat with remarkable confidence when in reality it usually leads to two exhausted people trying to resolve a complicated emotional conflict when their brains are barely functioning.

From a nervous system perspective, that’s almost the WORST possible moment to force resolution. 🤦🏼‍♀️

When couples are in conflict, their bodies often enter physiological flooding. Heart rate rises, cortisol increases, and the prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain responsible for rational thinking and problem solving) basically says peace out and good luck!

In other words, the exact part of your brain you need for a productive conversation is MIA.

Taking a break is NOT avoidance!!!
(Louder for the people in the back?)

TAKING A BREAK IS NOT AVOIDANCE. It is REGULATION.

So, when couples come back to the conversation after sleep, with calmer nervous systems and functioning brains again, the entire tone usually shifts. MORE curiosity and LESS defensiveness resulting in a much better chance both people remember they’re actually on the same team. 👏

Healthy couples DO argue. Conflict isn’t the problem. Fighting badly and not in good faith is the problem.

So yes... Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do for your relationship is actually GO TO BED ANGRY.

Send this to your partner NOW so when you suggest this during your next argument you can both pretend a therapist told you to do it. 😚





After years of listening to people talk about their lives, certain patterns become impossible to ignore...One of the une...
03/06/2026

After years of listening to people talk about their lives, certain patterns become impossible to ignore...

One of the unexpected privileges of being a therapist is that you spend a great deal of time listening to people explain their relationships, their fears, and the stories they have built about who they are.

Over time, you begin to notice patterns in how people protect themselves. You start to hear the subtle ways people soften painful experiences, dismiss moments that shaped them, or wrap vulnerability in humor.

Listening closely teaches you something important about human behavior. Most people are not hiding who they are. They are protecting the parts of themselves that have never been handled with care.

When someone FINALLY feels safe enough to say what they actually mean instead of the version that feels acceptable, the entire conversation shifts. THAT MOMENT, when someone realizes they are truly being heard, is often where I see the real healing beginning.

This carousel is about the patterns you start to notice after listening to people long enough.

If you have ever felt deeply understood by another person, then you already know how powerful that experience can be.

And if you spend a lot of time listening to others, you have probably started noticing some of these patterns too.





There is an important difference between breaking and being broken, although in the moment they can feel almost identica...
03/04/2026

There is an important difference between breaking and being broken, although in the moment they can feel almost identical.

Waves break against the shore and still return again and again. Storms break and eventually the sky clears. Even the longest night breaks into morning.

Human beings move through similar cycles. There are seasons in life when the pressure becomes too much and something inside us gives way. It can happen during grief, betrayal, exhaustion, parenting, illness, or during the quiet stretch of life when you have been holding everything together for everyone else.

When that moment arrives it can feel frightening, as though you have somehow failed or fallen apart. In reality, breaking often means that the part of you that has been carrying the weight alone can no longer hold it without relief.

Breaking does not mean you are weak, and it certainly does not mean you are ruined. It often means you have reached the edge of what one human nervous system can carry by itself.

Many people later discover that the moment they believed they were falling apart was actually the moment something honest opened inside them. Clarity grows there. Compassion grows there. Sometimes even strength grows there.

If today feels heavy, please remember that feeling overwhelmed does not mean you are broken. It means you are a human being moving through something real, and human beings are remarkably capable of healing.

If this resonates, I would love to know:
What is something that helped you find your way back after a difficult season?

Save this for a day when you need the reminder, and share it with someone who might quietly need it too.





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