Family Constellations & Other Earth Medicines

07/31/2025

07/25/2025

Pina Bausch's Café Müller is more than performance art-it's a visceral, emotional mirror. A visual metaphor for
codependency, attachment wounds, and nervous system.dysregulation. The. choreography list isn’t just movement, its memory. A projection of trauma. Collapse.Rescue. Repeat.
She falls. He catches her. Again. And again.
This is anxious attachment in motion, a nervous system wired not for peace, but for survival. For needing, pleasing, performing in order to feel safe in love.

This is what happens when unresolved attachment trauma goes unacknowledged. When chaos feels like home because it once was. When your body learns to associate intensity with intimacy and being needed with beingh worthy. Love becomes a stage, and you lose yourself in the performance.

If you grew up around inconsistency, unpredictability, or emotional absence, this might feel normal. But it's not love. It's a survival strategy. One that kept you safe then/but is.silently breaking.you.now.n

Real attachment healing is not about blame. It's about reclaiming your body's right to safety. Learning that love doesn't have to be earned through endurance.
That boundaries are not rejection-they are repair.

The unspoken truth... Your nervous system is not meant to live in constant alert. You don't need to collapse to be held. You don't have to abandon yourself to be chosen. You are worthy of love that feels safe, steady, and mutual.

As always, this is my own interpretation as a Drama Psychotherapist-exploring love, attachmentsand the neryoustsystem through metaphor and movement.

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07/03/2025

Well…this is an going process for sure…🙏🔥