01/04/2026
parts of my old identity and belief systems are shedding away and with that comes whispers of fear. what if i fail? what if these changes cause my family more stress? what if i burn myself out?
it’s easy to say “feel the fear and do it anyway” but it’s a whole different thing to actually implement that and let the fear move through *without* shutting down, numbing out, or feeling overwhelmed.
for me today that looked arriving to a studio for a meditation group filled with strangers and letting myself cry. feeling the fear meant being with the sensation of vibrating energy rising up through my core and into my throat, observing the hot tears welling up in my eyes, and not trying to stop or suppress it but instead letting it exist without judgement.
tracking sensation as it moves through you and allowing for whatever impulse that arises is one way we support an emotion to complete. because of the work i’ve done, welcoming environment, and the kind strangers, i felt safe in my body to allow for this experience (which still doesn’t equate to it being comfortable or fun if we’re being honest here 🤪).
the thing is- if you grew up in an unsupportive environment or have experienced ongoing stress and trauma, ‘feeling the fear and doing it anyway’ might be too big of a leap. the problems isn’t that you’re not courageous… more than likely, it’s that you haven’t built the capacity.
you don’t need to be fearless to the ‘feel the fear’- you just need to be resourced.
here’s to building capacity, titrating expansion, strengthening resources, and gently pushing past our edges in this year, my friends!