The Power of Pleasure

The Power of Pleasure Xanet Pailet is the author of Living an Or****ic Life, now available for pre-order at https://amzn.t Has your s*x life become routine and boring?

Are you looking for ways to deepen your passion and intimacy? Are you getting what you want from your relationship? Do you feel comfortable expressing your true s*xual self? The Power of Pleasure offers a unique approach to s*x and intimacy coaching that is more powerful and effective than traditional relationship talk therapy. Using a somatic based embodied approach, we will help you become empowered around your s*xuality and be able to understand and express your needs and desires. You will learn new skills to become a better and more confident lover, increase your s*xual energy, and create more intimate and juicy relationships. We take an experiential approach to s*x and intimacy coaching enabling you to practice new skills and receive immediate feedback. While at all times we maintain a high level of professionalism, our sessions our often filled with fun and laughter as we explore new experiences, deepen connection, and examine our edges.

I’m counting down to the March 3 launch of The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit, and I want to be honest about why pre-orders m...
01/09/2026

I’m counting down to the March 3 launch of The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit, and I want to be honest about why pre-orders matter.

Pre-orders help this book reach couples who don’t yet know support like this exists.

And because I don’t believe in “read and hope,” I created support to go with the book:

✨ A 30-Day Connection Reset Calendar
✨ A guided Intimacy Reset audio practice
✨ Entry into a drawing for a 2027 Costa Rica Couples Retreat spot

These aren’t add-ons—they’re tools to help you slow down and actually integrate the work.

If you feel called, you can pre-order here: link in the comments below.

And if buying isn’t right for you, sharing this with someone who needs it is just as meaningful.

01/08/2026

I recently had a powerful conversation on the Dr. Mom Podcast with Dr. Angela Downey (.php?id=61575425574243), and it went straight into the conversations so many women are having quietly—if at all.

We talked about why so many high-achieving women feel disconnected from their bodies, their desire, and their partners…
even when they’re doing everything right.

We explored:
• S*xless or low-desire marriages
• Perimenopause myths that keep women blaming themselves
• Emotional safety as the foundation of intimacy
• The shift from obligation s*x to connection-based intimacy

If you’ve ever wondered, “What happened to my desire?” or “Why doesn’t intimacy feel nourishing anymore?”—this episode is for you.

You are not broken.
Your body isn’t failing you.
And intimacy can feel good again—with the right support and conversations.

Link to the full podcast is in the comments below.




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I’m excited to finally say this:The new cover for The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit is live. Don't you love it??When I firs...
01/07/2026

I’m excited to finally say this:

The new cover for The S*x & Intimacy Repair Kit is live. Don't you love it??

When I first announced this book, I knew the content was strong — but the cover didn’t fully reflect the depth, maturity, and authority of the work inside. Now it does.

And seeing it this way has shifted something for me.

So I want to be very clear and very honest.

As we move toward launch on March 4, I’m actively working toward 500 pre-orders so the book has the strongest possible chance of landing as a bestseller on day one.

Not for ego — but because visibility matters.

This book reaches more couples when it breaks through the noise. But I can't do this without you!

To say thank you for your support, I’m excited to offer the following pre-order bonuses:
• The 30-Day Connection Reset Calendar (delivered immediately)
• A guided audio practice I’m recording to help couples rebuild emotional safety — the first step in intimacy repair (delivered after launch)
• Entry into a drawing for a complimentary spot at my 2027 Costa Rica Couples Retreat for every book that you purchase so the more books you buy, the greater your odds of winning.

To qualify for the bonuses (and the retreat drawing), simply:
1. Pre-order the book (link in the comments below).
2. Take a screenshot of your order confirmation
3. Email it to me at xanet@powerofpleasure.com

That’s it.

This book is the distillation of years of lived experience — my own, and the hundreds of couples I’ve worked with in private sessions and immersive retreats.

If my work has supported you, inspired you, or helped you see your relationship more clearly, your pre-order truly makes a difference.

Thank you for being part of this journey with me.

P.S. The Costa Rica Couples Retreat is an intimate, application-only experience and typically represents a $10,000 investment. All retreat placements are carefully screened to ensure the experience is supportive and aligned for each couple. If a different level of support would serve you better, I’ll personally guide you toward an option that’s a better fit.

Have you missed me over the last two weeks? I've been on a bit of a hiatus dealing with some medical issues, which I'm h...
01/06/2026

Have you missed me over the last two weeks? I've been on a bit of a hiatus dealing with some medical issues, which I'm happy to report are all resolved, so I'm entering into the new year fully renewed, refreshed and feeling so incredibly grateful.

2026 brings my new book (with a very special announcement coming later this week) and my February Passion in Paradise Couples Retreat.

To honor this moment—and because gratitude feels like the right energy to lead with in 2026—I’m offering the retreat at $3750/person with only a few spaces remaining.

If you’re not familiar with Passion in Paradise, it’s an intimate, luxury couples retreat designed for partners who want to deepen emotional connection, rekindle desire, and reconnect in a way that feels both nourishing and transformative—without therapy vibes or fixing what’s "broken."

We’ll spend a week together in Costa Rica’s cloud forest, surrounded by nature, spaciousness, and beauty—combining experiential practices, guided conversations, embodied intimacy work, and plenty of time to simply be together again.

If you’re feeling curious, pulled, or simply want to explore whether this retreat is right for you, pls. go to the link in the comments to register.

12/31/2025

Most of us live with this unspoken belief that our shame makes us broken — especially when it comes to secs, intimacy, and pleasure. But here’s the truth I want you to hear:

Shame is not the same as guilt.
Guilt says “I did something wrong.”
Shame says “I am bad.” and that alone keeps us isolated.

But no one is truly alone in how they’ve felt. The only reason shame has power over us is because we’ve kept it in the shadows.

I remember believing I was the only one who had ever felt weird, ashamed, or disconnected from my body… until I started talking about it.
When I shared something vulnerable in a group and other people said, “Me too” I finally realized:
I wasn’t crazy. I wasn’t the only one.

That’s the first step toward healing.
We release shame by normalizing it.
By saying it out loud.
By talking to others: a therapist, your partner, your friends, your community.
Because when you name it, you humanize it.

Shame thrives in silence; pleasure thrives in connection and conversation.

✨ You are not broken.
✨ Shame doesn’t define you; your voice does.

👉 Below is a FREE GIFT to help you move from shame to embodied pleasure 🌿💗

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12/29/2025

I want to leave you with something I deeply believe:

Pleasure is your birthright.

We are meant to experience pleasure in our bodies — safely, consciously, and without shame.

If you’re not feeling that…
If you’ve shut down because of trauma…
If intimacy feels complicated or painful…

Please hear this with compassion:
You are not broken. And help is available.

I shared more about this in my recent conversation on the Shut Up and Grind Podcast with Robert B. Foster - The Storytelling Coach , and the link — along with a free gift — is waiting for you in the comments below 💜

I recently guested on Shut Up And GRIND podcast with Robert B. Foster (Robert B. Foster - The Storytelling Coach) , and ...
12/26/2025

I recently guested on Shut Up And GRIND podcast with Robert B. Foster (Robert B. Foster - The Storytelling Coach) , and this conversation went deep.

We explored:
🔥 Why so many relationships become disconnected long before couples admit it
🔥 How shame, trauma, and numbness live in the body—not just the mind
🔥 What it really takes to restore emotional safety, desire, and intimacy
🔥 Why pleasure is a birthright, not something you earn

I also shared my personal journey—coming out of a 26-year secsless marriage, experiencing my first true secsual awakening at 50, and how that moment changed everything.

This episode is about more than relationships.
It’s about remembering who you are in your body.

💬 If this resonates with you, I'm sharing the episode link and a free gift in the comments below.

You don’t have to stay disconnected.
There is another way.



One of my favorite things about this time of the year is that we get to create our very own S*xy Christmas tree. This y...
12/24/2025

One of my favorite things about this time of the year is that we get to create our very own S*xy Christmas tree. This year we decided to pitch the toxic, plastic Christmas tree in favor of a wooden one, which we ended up also painting with glitter. It's also sitting on top of the stump of a tree that came down during Hurricane Helene. And Yes...that's RBG on the top (even though I'm so mad at her...)

I know it's a bit unusual, but it's a fun way for Daren and I to ring in the holidays and to be a bit crazy and creative. We also love adding new additions to the tree...Can you guess what we added this year? (Hint...it stands out and might describe me at times...).

Do you have any s*xy Christmas traditions? Another one (that I won't post on iG) is dressing up as Mrs. Clause and doing a strip tease to "Santa Baby" along with a dear friend! And of course I love Daren's red velveteen Christmas boxers with bells in the right place that I gifted him for our first Christmas.

Speaking of Christmas gifts, if you've been searching for the perfect gift for your honey, I have the ultimate solution. Spend a week in Costa Rica at my Passion in Paradise Couples Intimacy Retreat--Feb 9-15, 2026. And from now until the end of year, I'm honoring my Black Friday pricing of $6000 per couple. (See link in the comments below.)

12/23/2025

When couples reach out to me, they’re rarely doing it casually.

Most are at the end of their rope.

They’re often considering separation or divorce — not because they don’t love each other, but because the relationship isn’t working anymore, especially around intimacy. Many are in s*xless marriages (less than 10 times a year), or struggling with desire, communication, and emotional safety.

What they’re looking for isn’t just “better s*x.”

They want:
• To feel connected again
• To feel seen and understood
• To communicate without shutting down or exploding
• To repair what’s been broken over years — sometimes decades

In my work, I see this pattern again and again:

The root cause is almost always emotional disconnection.

Unrepaired conflict.
Unspoken hurts.
A growing fear that sharing feelings will only make things worse.

Over time, couples end up emotionally far apart — even while living under the same roof.

That’s the work we start with.
Because intimacy can’t return until emotional safety does.

👉 I’ll put the link to explore my intimacy retreats in the comments.

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I was recently on The Unforget Yourself Show (Unforget Yourself ), and we had a conversation that matters—especially for...
12/19/2025

I was recently on The Unforget Yourself Show (Unforget Yourself ), and we had a conversation that matters—especially for couples who feel like they’ve tried everything.

One of the biggest things I shared is this:

Most intimacy problems start as emotional disconnection.
Not feeling seen. Not feeling understood. Conflict that goes unrepaired for years… sometimes decades.
And when you don’t feel emotionally safe, your body doesn’t want to open—secs becomes tense, avoided, or disappears completely.

In the episode, we talked about:
• why I’m often the last stop for couples who are close to separating
• what a secsless marriage is commonly defined as (less than 10 times a year)
• why I’m not a talk therapist—and why my work is embodied
• my motto: you can’t talk your way into better secs—you have to feel your way into it
• how retreats work because we can address triggers and patterns in the moment, not after the fact

We also touched on shame—how so many of us learned about secs from p**n, movies, or silence… and how normalizing this conversation is part of healing.

If you want the episode link, check the comments below.

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I was recently a guest on The Unforget Yourself Show, and the conversation lingered with me long after we wrapped.We exp...
12/19/2025

I was recently a guest on The Unforget Yourself Show, and the conversation lingered with me long after we wrapped.

We explored something many people don’t say out loud:
That you can be competent, driven, self-aware—and still feel deeply disconnected in your relationship.

We talked about:
• why intimacy fades even when there’s commitment
• how unresolved conflict lives in the nervous system
• why “trying harder” often makes things worse
• and what real safety and repair actually look like

This episode isn’t about blame.
It’s about understanding the deeper patterns that shape connection—and how to shift them with compassion.

If this speaks to you, I’d love for you to listen.

Check the link to the full podcast in the comments below.

We talk about strategy, growth, and performance in business all the time—but we rarely talk about intimacy.And yet… when...
12/17/2025

We talk about strategy, growth, and performance in business all the time—
but we rarely talk about intimacy.

And yet… when your relationship feels distant, tense, or lonely,
it touches everything:
your energy
your patience
your creativity
your nervous system

I was recently on The Enricher Business Circle Podcast (https://www.facebook.com/nexambit), and we had one of those conversations that usually stays behind closed doors:

✨ Why high-achievers often feel disconnected at home
✨ How unresolved conflict slowly creates distance
✨ What emotional safety really looks like
✨ Why trauma-informed work changes how we relate

If you’ve been wondering why “holding it together” still feels exhausting—
you’re not broken.

You might just need a gentler, more embodied path forward.

💬The link to the podcast is in the comments below.

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