Millbury Carriage House Counseling

05/09/2022

"It won’t always be like this.
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I remind myself of this often.
To help me see through the hard days, but to also pull me into the now.
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Because it’s true.
They won’t always be this small. And I won’t always be this tired.
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They won’t always need me in this way. And I won’t always feel this lost.
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They won’t always come to me first. And I won’t also feel like I come last.
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This is a season.
We will move through it together.
And it will pass before we know it.
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It won’t always be like this.
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And my heart aches as I think about what it may look like.
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The first school drop off.
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The last kiss goodnight.
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The nights up late waiting for a call that doesn’t come.
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Because life will be different one day.
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And it won’t always be this tiring, messy, or beautifully wholesome.
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It will be watching from afar from a clean house, longing for them to come home for a weekend.
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It will be loving them through phone lines, messenger, and the kilometres between us.
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It will be losing myself in something new, to busy my mind from what I’m missing.
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It won’t always be like this.
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Not the hard.
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Or the beautiful.
It will be a different hard and beautiful.
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We won’t always be like this either.
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We will age.
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And our relationship will evolve.
We will be a different type of “us”.
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But this is my one chance at now.
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I only get to love them, be there for them, and be needed in this exact way, once.
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I only get to know this stage of motherhood like the back of my hand, once.
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I only get this time as we are now, once.
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This is it.
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I only get one Motherhood.
And they only get one childhood.
This time is ours.
So I’m breathing it in, in all of its shades, because it just won’t always be like this."

Words: on IG
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Credit It's okay, not to be okay.

04/25/2022

04/25/2022

BE GENTLE WITH A MAN'S HEART

Men have historically had to have such strong armor, in order to protect and provide. They couldn’t just go around with their hearts on their sleeves when they had to go to war.

They have been taught that they shouldn’t cry, they shouldn’t feel things, they need to “man up”.

Yet no one taught them what it means to be a healthy and balanced man.

I see that most men end up feeling that they’re damned if they do and they’re damned if they don’t.

As women... We have no idea the ways we are continuously sabotaging what we desire from our partners.

I truly believe that at their core, men simply desire to provide, to serve and to be a good man!
I know it doesn’t always look like this. But this is mostly when a man feels like he can’t win. When he feels defeated.

Ladies... I personally do NOT agree with this sentence on any level. But I often hear the lamentation “where are all the good men”?

Well...

I believe the responsibility is in our own hands.

It’s our responsibility to clean up our own inner landscape.
To address our daddy wounds.

To REALLY look at any and ALL entitlement that we “deserve” this or that.

There is SO much unconscious entitlement in the feminine. We don’t mean it and we don’t even realize it.
But we have a lot of work to do (myself included), to learn to un-guard our hearts. To heal the past hurts and learn true discernment, to learn to no longer settle.

If we do not continue to open our bodies to men that are not awakened. They will have no choice but to work it out and clear themselves up.

If we find the places of lack within ourselves... We will no longer choose men that are not actually in alignment. We will no longer tolerate unconscious behavior that can set off a chain of effects. Where before long, you’re experiencing the very worst version of yourself... Again...

It starts with first finding the choice to no longer settle and to really learn discernment and a greater responsibility for our choices.

We then can find a deep and abiding contentment within our own selves without the need for other.

Then...

When we do attract a man from this space.
Then we can truly be available to love all that makes up his being.

Then... we can be available to sing to his soul the soothing song of remembrance when he flees in fear to his cave... Because he will...

Then... We can allow him the space to actually become all that you dream. Without shame, blame seduction or trickery.

We can then kiss him in the broken places, breathing him alive. Calling him home.

Calling him... “Rise warrior, rise!”

The he in return will remember.
He will stand erect with honor.
He will be able to have the space to hold, hear, heal, tend and feel.

If we desire a man to be able to really hold us... This goes both ways. We need to take more responsibility.

As women, we desire men to be gentle with our bodies...
Men desire women to be gentle with their hearts...

Our love is all he has ever longed for.

~ Unknown

Artist: Autumn Skye ART

Dedicated to ALL the men,
And especially all the men I love,
Have loved,
Still love.
Who inspire me,
Grow me,
Teach me,
All the ways to soften,
To Learn,
To be gentle with a man's heart.

J'anaki AshiRA

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