09/27/2025
How to Handle Belittling Comments
1. Belittling is a Power Grab
Mean or rude comments are often attempts to assert dominance and create a hierarchy.
Bullies position themselves above others to mask their own insecurity.
2. Decode the Intent Instead of Reacting
Don’t retaliate — ask questions like “Did you mean to hurt my feelings?”
This shifts the spotlight back to the person making the comment and reveals their motive.
It helps you stay grounded and in control without escalating the situation.
3. It’s a Projection of Their Insecurity
Belittling often reflects how the person feels about themselves — not about you.
Criticism of your appearance, intelligence, or job usually mirrors their own doubts or jealousy.
Recognizing this helps you detach emotionally and respond with clarity.
4. Respond with Calm Power
If they admit they meant to offend you, simply say “Good to know” and move on.
Let them carry the emotional weight of their actions — not you.
Most people will walk it back when confronted with their intent.
