iNFORM

12/10/2025

Great explanation.

12/07/2025

Observed phenomena in a neurodivergent household #1:
The Chair Closet.
During this time of year, it is common to see multiple jackets and sweatshirts draped, sometimes until the point is the chair tipping over backwards from the weight.
This particular observation is particularly fascinating because it is multi-generational; father and son. 😲


Image is two chairs at a table. On the back of one chair is a larger, dark gray jacket and on the other, a smaller tan hoodie and a gray jacket.

12/06/2025

In recent years, I have started to learn how to be in my body and not always in my head. I’m learning that part of this is processing how certain dynamics/energies register in my body, and how they affect me socially.

My masked, perfectionist self is someone whose primary objective is pleasing. I put all of my energy into being/doing whatever will get me the gold stars and if there are troubled waters to be smoothed, my ability to read people goes into overdrive. I figure out how to shift dynamics and alter factors until things get back to calm. When I am masked, all of my energy is focused on others and none of it is on myself. It is as if I am a machine whose primary objective is to make sure things are optimal for those around me.

But since I have been spending time in my body and not only identifying my own needs but also trying to actually honor them, I find that shape-shifting to please and appease now turns my stomach. In situations when I recognize that someone is unsettled, a resistance starts to register in my body. I think this is my true self gently reminding that I’m not responsible for other people’s energy.

What has been tricky about this lately is that I live with someone who is easily dysregulated. The choices in our house are often to walk on eggshells and do lots of appeasing or run the risk of setting off an episode of dysregulation that will rattle the entire household like an earthquake. The choice is put myself on hold as I can navigate someone else’s fragility or stay true to myself and pay the price of picking up the pieces of my household that have been shaken out of place, once the quaking has ceased. I’m trying to figure out what ‘middle ground’ looks like - trying to appease without leaving my body. Being a human with your own needs, living with and caring for other humans with their own needs that sometimes clash with yours, is tricky business.

Learning more about yourself is hard work, but it’s so rewarding.
Learning more about yourself makes it easier to navigate some relationships, and harder to navigate others.
Learning more about yourself reveals just how complex it is to be a human in a world of other unique and layered humans.

What a ride.

This isn’t post isn’t like most of my content, but I felt compelled to share. I know we are all humans here, so maybe some of you will be able to relate.

Image description: A purple-fading-to-blue background with light purple text that says: Being a human with your own needs, living with and caring for other humans with their own needs that sometimes clash with yours, is tricky business. csn

12/05/2025

This is so good. SO GOOD. I’ve got goosebumps. I’m trying to find out if there is one that is audio described. Let’s hope they didn’t do overlook accessibility in their brilliant ad about accessibility. 🤞

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12/03/2025

Today, getting through this thing called life includes processing a new diagnosis and coming to terms with the knowing that something you thought might be treatable/made easier will likely be a fixed part of reality.
So…if anyone has any solid DMDD resources, send them my way.

Image is a wooden Minnesota shaped ornament that has the Prince symbol and type in purple that says ‘Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called life.’ The ornament hangs on a tree, with a round, silver ornament in the background.

11/30/2025

11/21/2025

So important.

Video description: A person with short brown hair,glasses and a button-down denim shirt uses ASL, which is spoken by an interpreter who is not on screen.

11/21/2025

In my professional career, I have worked both full-time and part-time but one thing I have never had to do is clock in and out. My time either hasn’t been tracked, or I have been able to log my time based on my schedule.

My current employer, though, is having its employees start using a timekeeping system that requires that I clock in and out. It isn’t going well, folks. This old dog with ADHD is struggling with this new trick, which requires that I remember to insert an arbitrary task before I start work, when my attention is usually focused on the first actual work task. Since starting to attempt this new system, I have been remembering that I was supposed to clock in after completing about 2-3 hours of work. 😬

The time I start isn’t always the same, so timers won’t save me. I start in a different location 3/4 of my days and some days start with me opening my laptop while some don’t, so post-it notes aren’t going to get me out of this one. So…I’m resorting to my old childhood system. Before adulthood, a note on my hand was the most reliable way making sure I didn’t forget about something.

I showed older my hand…and he showed me that he has his own reminder. You know what they say about apples and trees. 😄

Image is a two-pic collage - a hand in each. One hand has ‘clock in’ written in black on the palm and the other has ‘BAND FIELD TRIP’ written on the back.

11/15/2025

A few of my musings on disability being represented in play.

11/15/2025

I just found this delightful podcast and wanted to share.

A podcast hosted by Madison Tevlin. New episodes every week.

11/15/2025

Braille facts.