02/23/2026
You know that moment when they say, “Go ahead and step on the scale”?
And you’re already doing the mental math.
Jeans, shoes, water weight, time of day,
hoping the number isn’t too high?
Most of us walk into that room bracing for judgment, I know I used to. But I’ve done the work to break that programming.
I lift heavy, I have visible muscle, I eat to fuel, not to disappear. I feel the strongest and most capable I’ve ever felt in my body.
So when he said my BMI was too high, I didn’t feel shame, I felt frustrated.
Because BMI doesn’t measure muscle. It doesn’t account for body composition, training history, or metabolic health. Its height and total weight plugged into a formula created nearly 200 years ago.
Yet that outdated metric still gets to define what “healthy” looks like. And somehow we’re the ones who are supposed to shrink ourselves to fit it.
So, if building muscle pushes you into the “overweight” category, maybe the problem isn’t your body. Maybe the problem is the standard.
Healthy is not synonymous with small. Healthy is strength, energy, capability & longevity.
I refuse to let a chart convince me, or other women, that strong is wrong.
If you’ve ever dreaded that scale, understand that you don’t owe anyone a lighter version of yourself. And I urge you to stop chasing a number that was never designed for strong women.