05/12/2026
5 years ago today, my oldest daughter was born (all the feels 🥹)… As a young mother, I knew I wanted to experience birth outside the hospital. I had seen countless videos of beautiful homebirths and felt that was the right choice for our family. Lots of prodromal labor, early rupture of membranes, not ideal fetal positioning, indications of infection, and clinical exhaustion took that dream away from me.
Quickly I had to come to terms with birthing in the hospital. It wasn’t something I prepared for, so when we arrived, my labor completely stalled. I didn’t feel as safe or prepared for the experience ahead. Because of the stall, one intervention led to another, and another, and another. What started as a low risk birth, now was a highly medicalized one that ultimately ended in a vacuum assisted delivery. Looking back, I wish I had the education and a Doula with me to help with optimal fetal positioning during a very long and intense labor process. I wish I would have known all of the choices I had so that I could have made more informed decisions for myself and my baby.
Even though it was a difficult birth, there were still beautiful moments. I was surrounded by my amazing husband and both of our mothers. I am grateful because it led me to question why my birth went the way it did and inspired me to be that source of knowledge and safety for other families out there. Sometimes birth doesn’t go the way we plan, but if we know we had a seat at the table when decisions were being made, and did all we could, we can walk away with confidence and fond memories. Happy Birthday baby girl 💕
- Corinne Chilton, MBB Partner