Central Valley Therapeutic Alliance, Inc.

10/15/2022

https://blissfulkids.com. There you'll find many resources. Check it out!!

06/22/2022

Esther Perel debunks these seven relationship myths.

04/25/2022

“Relational Ambivalence” is the experience of contradictory thoughts and feelings—of love and hate, attraction and disgust, excitement and fear, contempt and envy—toward someone with whom we are in a relationship. It exists in every relational configuration, but we put a lot of pressure on r...

03/01/2022

For 2-year-olds to teenagers.

11/10/2021

"John Gottman from the Gottman Institute has done extensive research regarding relationships and what makes them happy.

One of the more interesting findings is about the magic ratio. After examining couples and how they dealt with conflict, it seemed that happy couples for who love lasts show five positive interactions for each negative one.

[...]So, let’s say there is a conflict between a couple where one criticizes the other. Then, to resolve this conflict they can try positive interactions, which for example are showing empathy, apologizing, being affectionate, showing appreciation or interest."

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10/12/2021

Adaptability is fundamental to resilience; it is where your innate desire for safety and spontaneity, stability and change, logic and play can meet. Adaptability is the willingness to bend and remain open to life as it comes.

When you learn to bend, you increase your flexibility each time, whether in your daily stretch or life's most challenging moments. And the more you practice, the more you can tolerate change and harness its power.

Tomorrow at 3pm EST, I will be giving a free virtual workshop on Adaptability on YouTube and Facebook and would love to have you join me, ask questions, and share your stories. Follow the link to learn more.

https://bit.ly/3FQijRB

05/26/2021

Embracing imperfection will help you feel mentally healthier and set a healthy example for your kids.

02/19/2021

We all know that moment of deeply upsetting bewilderment that pushes a relationship fight over the edge. It’s when we ask ourselves for the umpteeth time HOW could they POSSIBLY be DOING this AGAIN when they know how much it UPSETS me?

The deeper issues that drive escalation are rarely about the content of our fights—dirty dishes, too much time on our phone, politics, the kids—they’re about the needs, vulnerabilities, and biases that get triggered over and over.

What would happen if we took a pause, took a breath, and attempted to work together to identify what’s really going on?

Today on the blog, I'm breaking down three hidden dimensions that exist under most relationship fights and what to do about them. To read more, click here: https://estherperel.com/blog/the--relationship-fights-you-keep-having

08/14/2020

Do what's right for you.

05/28/2020

05/05/2020

Be Your Child's Emotional Coach

04/28/2020

Dr. John Gottman has refined the skill of effective complaining down to a simple, three-part formula.