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04/23/2025

The Battle Within: How We Fight Matters
The Stoic philosopher Epictetus once wrote: “Circumstances do not make the man; they only reveal him to himself.” There’s something profound about the journey of a struggle. We all wrestle with inner demons. For many of us, it feels like a daily battle — but perhaps the real issue isn’t the demon itself. It’s how we fight.
I’ve sat with countless clients who assume that old thought patterns and reactions will disappear after enough therapy sessions. I’ve seen the desperation in their eyes when faced with the painful truth: those old ways might never leave entirely. And it’s not the presence of those patterns that hurts the most — it’s the belief that they shouldn’t exist anymore. That expectation breeds internal failure and self-condemnation, which only fuels the destructive patterns we’re trying to escape.
The truth is, our old reactions, thoughts, and behaviors served a purpose once. Fighting them as if they are enemies — demanding they vanish completely — is both unrealistic and unkind to the inner child who created them for survival. It’s like saying to that child, “You don’t matter anymore because I’ve changed.”
But wasn’t it the fear of not mattering that created those coping strategies in the first place? Now, as adults, we repeat the pattern — demeaning the very parts of ourselves that carried us through when no one else could. And we call this healing.
It makes no sense to me.
What am I expecting my inner child to do when I condemn him? Am I hoping he’ll trust me, feel safe, or surrender old ways when I tell him he’s bad, broken, or unimportant? He is no demon. He’s a scared little boy with limited resources, doing the best he could with what he had.
As an adult, I now have greater resources — wisdom, insight, compassion — but too often, I use them only in my relationships with others and neglect the relationship within myself. The good I’ve learned to extend to others rarely finds its way to the child still hiding in the corners of my soul. And when that child acts out, I punish him. I forget that those outbursts are automatic responses to pain. And now, the pain I feel is often the one I’ve created for myself.
This is what I mean when I say, it’s more about how we fight and not the demon itself.
The demon isn’t the problem. The problem is how we treat the parts of ourselves still wounded, still afraid, still carrying burdens they were never meant to hold. Healing isn’t about silencing those parts. It’s about learning to fight differently — with compassion, with understanding, and with the kindness we needed all along.

CC Williams, LPC

04/10/2025

"History is filled with wisdom echoing the reality of human discomfort and if you look hard enough you will always find an example of those who overcame the discomfort. This shows us that it can be done. It doesn't mean our path is the same. It means that despite the discomfort we are capable. Today when you experience discomfort remind yourself - "I am uncomfortable, but I am capable". This can help you access the internal resources you possess and navigate the experience as needed in that moment."

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