03/09/2026
We are not meant to ‘do life’ alone.
I’ve found that many of my patients were raised inside a quiet cultural story that says:
“You are separate. Self-contained. Fully responsible for your own happiness and health.”
The common thought process produced from this mindset says – if you’re struggling…
• Try harder.
• Be more disciplined.
• Do more personal growth.
But neuroscience tells a very different story.
There’s something called Social Baseline Theory.
It suggests our nervous systems were never designed to regulate alone.
We were created to be in connection with others.
When we’re alone, the brain works harder.
When we’re with someone safe and supportive, stress decreases & life becomes more manageable.
(As terrible as it sounds…) There was a famous study where participants anticipating mild electric shocks showed significantly less fear and stress activity in their brains - simply by holding the hand of someone they loved.
Nothing else changed...Just connection.
Connection isn’t weakness or dependency.
It’s biology.
And yet many people don’t have those trusted relationships.
We’re living in the middle of a loneliness epidemic. Too many screens, and not enough personal interaction.
Healing happens faster - and more sustainably - when we don’t have to do it alone.
So, reach out to a safe person in your life. Schedule a regular call or time to hang out. You’ll find that being there for each other can have a huge impact on your overall wellbeing.
