10/18/2024
5 Practical Ways to Support a Woman During Her Menopausal Transition
As a spouse, friend or confidant, it's easy to say, "You're too young to be dealing with this. You've been sleeping all day! Or, you still haven't gone to the gym this month?" These types of statements are invalidating, judgmental and show a lack of respect and compassion for her experience. Here are 5 practical ways to support a woman during her menopausal transition:
1. BREATHE - Transitioning into Menopause can literally take your breath away for so many reasons. The extreme fluctuation in hormones affects your energy, the ability to experience quality sleep, mobility and cardiovascular functions. These are just some of the changes that not only affect your breathing, but it can take a toll on her mental health. Give her the space to breathe in every sense of the word. The more you allow her to take time to breathe, the more room you make to understand her experience. and it prevents you from having to hold your breath or grit your teeth in her presence. ☺
2. VALIDATE - The worst part about this transitional period in life is being misunderstood. It's hard enough that most women are not well prepared for Menopause because in times past, it has been rarely talked about. When you add the dismissing of her symptoms, it creates more stress and anxiety around dealing with the changes that she also doesn't understand. Validate her symptoms and ask about her experience so that she feels heard, even if you don't understand or it wasn't your personal experience.
3. ESTEEM - Menopause may affect her self-esteem as a result of the sudden changes in her body. These changes include sudden weight gain, a change in body composition, muscle tone or even hair loss. Use genuine confidence building language to show your support.
4. NO JUDGEMENT - Every woman's menopausal experience is different. Don't judge her based off of your mother's or sister's experience, or even your own experience. Some women have mild symptoms while others have more extreme symptoms. Either way, she will appreciate a judgement-free zone.
5. BE RESPECTFUL - In your quest to be of better support, remember to be respectful in offering your help. Sometimes she may not know what she needs and just because you offer doesn't mean that she's obligated to accept. Respect her decisions for her care in this season and be the support that she needs.